When my best frend whas out of work i lent him $400 in dribs and drabs he now has a job but its been 8 months since i lent him the money. He is saying he payd me back he cant remember me loning him the money ecsec . what shuld i do from a christion point of veue
2007-02-24 05:57:17 · 36 answers · asked by ? 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
From a Christian point of view I would say your conscience is clear, you helped him and he did you wrong. You have brought it up to his attention and he has lied and ignored it so it is on his conscience now. You also know now to not lend him money again, and you will be justified not to. I wouldn't do anything that will make you answerable to a sin over this. When you think about it $400 is nothing when it comes to your soul.
2007-02-24 06:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by HereIAm 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let it go. And still treat him as your friend. Don't remind him of it. If HE is truly your friend, he will admit his fault and offer to make up the difference.
The Bible calls it 'heaping coals of fire on the head of your enemy'. Well, in this case, it's not an enemy; it's a friend. There is something called a conscience that we all have. He will begin to wonder, 'How can he still be my friend when I have been so mean to him?' Coals of fire!!! Now, he may try to evade you not because you are asking for you money but because you are NOT asking for your money.
Is this friendship worth $400? Isn't your friendship worth much more than that? It hurts, but can you forgive him and move on WITH THE FRIENDSHIP?
And this is why Paul said that to the unconverted, Christianity is stupid.
Edit : After reading the other answers, I like the way Chicky responded. And she's atheist.
2007-02-24 06:17:37 · answer #2 · answered by flandargo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him in a clear and lovely voice that you have lent him $400 during his time of need and as he has developed amnesia since he's got a job, it's now in the hands of his God and that you no longer want to associate with him. The next time he needs help he should go to the Salvation Army or the Red Cross or the Government. And since you have to work for your money you cannot be a charitable institution.
Bingo
2007-02-24 06:03:38 · answer #3 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have a rule I live by regarding loaning money or personal property to someone else. Only loan money or property if you DON'T need or expect it back. It's a good rule to live by.
You have two choices, you can either take your friend to small claims court (which is likely futile in a situation like this) or you can just accept that you'll never see the money again (consider it a charitable contribution to your friend) and know to never repeat the same mistake twice.
2007-02-24 06:01:47 · answer #4 · answered by swordarkeereon 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I always say if it is a friend you are lending money to, never expect it back. If you want the money back and don't care if the friendship is broken because of the money then there is your answer. Friendship is hard to come by , if you think your friend is worth keeping don't make an issue of the money.
2007-02-24 06:05:41 · answer #5 · answered by Nichoda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you take him to court and resolve this? If you have proof that you loaned him the money then you will certainly get it back in the courts. This guy apparently is no friend. I think he is lying about having forgotten the loan or else why did he say that he paid you back already??? What a contradiction!
Good luck to you. I hope it works out soon.
2007-02-24 06:04:30 · answer #6 · answered by LeStranger 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don,tYou said a couple of things first you said he said he payed you back then you said that he can,t remember borrowing the money from you any way as a christian this is what the bible tell us to do . Don,t loan it if you cant afford to lose it so don,t cry about it now and your so called best friend now you know how far you can go with him so kick your self for not knowing your bible I know we should all know and live our lives by the bible but we
2007-02-24 06:13:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I presently handle those situations is; if I can not afford to lose the $400, I do not loan it to the person. If they 'pay me back' fine; if not God knows the situation; let God deal with it.
2007-02-24 07:44:54 · answer #8 · answered by jefferyspringer57@sbcglobal.net 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. It's only $400 bucks. Next time he asks to borrow money from you, just say no. But this is how I look at loans. If I can't afford to GIVE it away, I shouldn't loan it. Because that is just what may end up happening.
Biblically, (not paraphrasing anything) don't look to be repaid for loans.
2007-02-24 06:02:41 · answer #9 · answered by Speaking_Up 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is going to be one of those live and learn experiences. Without a written contract of debt and payment your arguments are going to carry on forever.
With his excuses, he knows he owes you but has no intentions of paying you back no matter how much you beg him.
Tell him you are going to take him to small claims court and see if he pays up. Without proof however, you may not win.
You are probably out of luck though.
2007-02-24 06:02:22 · answer #10 · answered by cobra2140 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋