I used to be fine drinking alcohol; however, various nerve-racking experiences with my friends and alcohol/drugs have prompted me to quit drinking. Now, I feel slight anxiety when my friends tell me they want to drink/do other stuff. I keep trying to tell myself that if I know my limits with alcohol or if I choose not to drink alcohol then I will be fine and my friends should respect me; however, I just feel that they're going to start judging me. I don’t like to get DRUNK, but I enjoy the occasional drink.
I feel that I'm an outgoing individual, and even when I'm sober I'm always the first on the dance floor, and I crack jokes constantly, etc.... I love to dance and go out, but I feel that if I don't drink at clubs, etc. my friends are going to think I'm boring. I've seen some scary stuff happen to my friends, and I just don't ever want to be in a situation like that.
2007-02-24 05:57:15 · 26 answers · asked by loo l 1 in Food & Drink ➔ Beer, Wine & Spirits
It is a personal choice to drink.If you feel like you don't want to drink for your own personal reasons.If they're really your friends they will respect your decisions.People judge all the time.If they dont judge on your drinking, they will judge you on other aspects.Just make a choice, and be firm about it.I will judge that you're a very confident and you are sure of yourself for making such decision.Good luck!
2007-02-24 06:02:42 · answer #1 · answered by Marla 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you always do things based on what other people will say then who do you become. Are you you or are you a composition of other peoples wishes and desires?
In life you have to do what is right for you. If you think drinking is leading you on a road that you do not want to travel then by all means don't do it. I can't tell you what to do. You must make that decision on your own. Be sure to make that decision based on what you believe is right for you. Not because what your friends might think.
A friend that lets you do things that are harmful for you is not a friend. A true friend will understand your position and desires. Even if the friend doesn't share the same belief he should still respect your decision. After all is your life and not theirs.
After reading your question I notice that you actually have another question hidden in your description. The answer to your other question is no. Alcohol is not what makes you an outgoing happy person. It is really you who are that way. There are many people that do not drink and live a happy life. You know one person who did that? Ofcourse you know. It was you at some point. When you where younger you did not do these things and you where perfectly happy.
I think you have two choices. You can try controlling your drinking. or get new friends. You can control your drinking by limiting your intake. Say to yourself, I'm only drinking so many beers tonight. No more. And stick with it. There is no rule that says that when you go out drinking you have to get drunk until you puke. I mean, when you drink water you don't drink until you suffer from water poisoning. Why would alcohol be different. Option two is to get a different set of friends. This is a normal part of life. We move on to different things and our friends may not be able to come with us. Also, you can still do things with your friends that do not involve drinking or drugs.
Well, good luck in your new endeavor.
2007-02-24 06:11:42 · answer #2 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Society uses alcohol (for the most part, but not always) as a crutch to soothe insecurities. Some people don't even know what to do without alcohol. Try going on a date that doesn't involve alcohol. Most guys are totally stumped and have no idea what to do. It's almost funny. Hang in there. Be proud for being able to not make alcohol the center of your functioning.
A guy friend said something so funny to me when he was trying to decide what to do with a girl who didn't drink. He said... "This is really hard. I am so much more interesting, funny and better looking to someone with a few drinks in them."
Gottta love 'em.
When people see that you are not drinking... they start to feel insecure... because they are. They want you to too.. so they will feel better and okay for drinking. Often, people don't want to be the only person drinking, because then they feel like they have a problem.
Start drinking tonic water with lime on top or things that look like alcohol. I have been out "not drinking" and ha such a good time that people wouldn't let me drive. They thought I shouldn't drive. Had no idea I was sober? Yes... you can have fun without alcohol and sometimes it's hard for people to believe... to the point that they won't let you have your keys.
2007-02-24 06:05:20 · answer #3 · answered by mmhhhhhmmm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what kind of friends you have. Both my husband and I are "non-drunkers". We'll enjoy a drink or two on a special occasion, but we don't drink to get drunk. If you have cool friends, then they'll understand and respect your decision. If you're hanging out with people who can only have fun by drinking, then maybe you should find new friends. Don't ever let anyone make you feel bad for the choices you make. Besides, good friends are just that; friends not judges.
2007-02-24 06:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by bessierush 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound very smart to me. You know alcohol causes problems for you and have chosen to respond wisely. Any 'friend' who judges you poorly for that decision is not a friend. If a buddy 'rags' on you about it ..try to make a joke and say 'someone has to be designated driver' . True friends will respect your choices even if it is not one they have chosen. As for boring, the most fun I ever had at a club was with a former sister-in-law who has never drank a drop Of alcohol...but she knows how to have a great time!
2007-02-24 06:22:18 · answer #5 · answered by sw-in-gardener 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are your real friends they should not judge you. Besides, why would you care what other people thinks, it's your body, your responsibility, you know it's limit. You can have a real good time without alcohol or drugs. With all your friends drunk and loaded, it will be nice to know someone sober can watch over them and Somebody have to be the designated driver.
2007-02-24 06:16:51 · answer #6 · answered by Babylynne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friends judge you just because you don't drink then maybe there not the friends for you. They should respect your decision for not drinking and they shouldn't have to relay on alcohol just that yall can have fun. Just be straight up with your friends and tell them you don't want to drink. If they decide not to call you when they go out to the clubs..There not the friends for you.
It's happend to me and im better off with out those friends
2007-02-24 06:10:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By not drinking, you will soon find out if smoeone was really your friend or just someone you drank with.
I went through this when I got bored with marajuana. All of a sudden there were so called friends that I rarely saw anymore. I was hurt by it at first but it didnt matter after awhile.
You have to look out for Number 1 (you)
2007-02-24 08:23:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they will judge you.
My husband doesn't drink. He sticks to it and just smiles at people.
Then he has a blast watching everyone makes fools out of themselves, having fun, dancing till they can't walk, cause he is sober and they think they are all funny as hell, but they are having fun too. That's the important thing.
When the night is over, he also has the self content and happiness that he was the sober one who got everyone home okay & no one drove home drunk. He also watches out for all the ladies to make sure no one violates them in a anyway.
He still has fun and he knows he is doing good by watching over others.
It's a good thing.
Take care & Good Luck!
2007-02-24 06:11:23 · answer #9 · answered by mrsdragonfly 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Probably not. They might not understand what's wrong with drinking, but I doubt they'd think any less of you. If they hassle you about not drinking, it's probably because they feel bad that they're drinking something and you're not (although they probably wouldn't say so), but you could order a nonalcoholic drink, like pop or club soda.
2007-02-24 06:07:24 · answer #10 · answered by A M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋