For help with bills, mortgage, kids clothing and sports, etc.
2007-02-24 05:12:26 · 12 answers · asked by panthrchic 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It's not a matter of age it is a matter of circumstance.
If you have a 40 yro child who is otherwise responsible but for whatever reason his/her own family has fallen on hard times (for example because of medical reasons) would you not give them whatever financial assistance you could?
If you have a 18yro HS dropout who does nothing but sit around YOUR house all day long, watch TV and eat your food - wouldn't you kick them out?
If you have a 26yro working and studying extremely hard to become a doctor wouldn't you still support him/her?
2007-02-25 00:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by Andrew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the child is in college, then I don't see anything wrong with helping out the child financially. As long as the child is getting good grades and making an effort, not a child that is barely passing and partying all the time. Majority depends on if the child is appreciative and says so and shows it.
I'm a full time student, I own and operate my own company, I live on my own (since I was 20), I pay for school entirely on my own without student loans, and my parents every now and then help me out, just because. Whether it being paying for my hair to get done, co-pay for my doctor's appointment, or just gas money, it's nice to know they still wanna help out. I definitely appreciate it and let them know.
Good luck
2007-02-24 10:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by dr. madison 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is NO set age. Each child is different. One may be extremely independent and never need help. One may need some help. Parents should be there to help kids out, especially if they are trying to become independent, get a job, go to school. It's hard enough in this world. I would help my kids out as long as they have a job and are trying. Now if they're a bum and lay on the couch all day long, different story. BUt, mine were taught morales, values and not to take advantage of people. SO if my kids need help, I WILL BE THERE for them. NO SET AGE.
2007-02-24 06:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by DJ S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am the mother of three grown children. I believe that they should take care of themselves and their children financially themselves. However, there are times when I could see that even though they are working hard and providing very good, they could use a little help. I have allowed each of my children when they were younger, to use my credit card though, not often when maybe, their credit limit was not enough to pay for car repair or something like that. They were responsible to pay the debt back themselves. And, they did.
Every now and then, my husband and I will agree to give them some type of a financial gift. Which they are not required to pay back because it is a gift.
Too much "help" keeps them dependent on you and they don't do it themselves.
2007-02-24 05:47:34 · answer #4 · answered by 4HIM- Christians love 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my family the children didnt have to start helping with bills etc till they graduate from highschool so they do not have the added stresses for school is stressful enough.. Once they graduate from highschool they should get a job and contribute to the house how much of course is up to you also depending on how many kids you have all I can say is make the amount split fair between the children who are paying.. If they are in school beyond highschool you can either give them a break and not make them pay depending on what they are taking in school when it comes to rent but they should pay for everything else cause once they are around a certain age they need to learn how to live with out there parents money. Giving them money if they say are stuck for it is alright on the odd occassion but not to often so they dont depend on you to fix all there problems for them..
Sorry kinda started rambling on hah..
2007-02-24 05:28:10 · answer #5 · answered by Princesskitten 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if they are in college if you can help out with the bills then theres no prob there, as for if they are adult and they need help with there families bills or things for your grandchildren I would put my foot down. If your grandkids want to play sports or something you could always help out with the costs (like pay a third if you can) but you should not be supporting your chilrens families unless they fell on very hard times (husband got laid off, things like that)
2007-02-24 09:22:52 · answer #6 · answered by angel01182 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the kids. Parents should expect kids to contribute something to their up keep. They should teach their kids about finances and how to manage them and then push them to do so. I don't think kids should still live with parents at an adult age unless they are responsible for some of the bills also.
2007-02-24 06:33:55 · answer #7 · answered by mildred d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depnds on whether the kid goes to college or not. If they go to college the parent can help with expenses, but the child can still get a parttime job for spending money. If the child does not go to college, they should get a job after high school & once they are working the parent should start cutting off their support. So for them at about 19 or 20.
2007-02-24 05:19:13 · answer #8 · answered by Sandi Beach 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Parenting is not just an "18 year contract". It is for life. If your kids ever get stuck in a major bind, no matter what age, most parents want to help, becuase they don't want to see their kids hurt. So I wouldn't say their is a specific age to "cut them off"
2007-02-24 05:31:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When your children are established and no longer need help. Setting a date or age doesn't work if a child goes through college they need help during and shortly after until they get their first real job. If they don't or won't go to college then when they are 18 because they are not bettering themselves.
2007-02-24 05:18:53 · answer #10 · answered by keg1889 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋