Two Girls. We we call them Ann and Carrie. I had been with Ann for just over 6 months. Over the 6 months togetherwe have had several different issues. The main one being her trusting me and her commitment problems. Everything goes well with Ann for 3 or 4 days then she causes an argument of some sort and pushes me away. We split up for two weeks last month and i met Carrie. Now me and Carrie went to school together and only just recently met again after 10 years. Carrie knows all about ann and the issues i have had with her. Well Ann wanted to try again and i gave her the opportunity to show me once again that she could change and be better. Again we lasted three days and She got my phone andstarted textng Carrie to find out what was going on. I am stuck between Carrie and Ann. Carrie and me get on great and even after all the stuff Ann has done such as fllowing me to where i have been etc. Me and Carrie are still very good, but i still have in the back of my mind Ann. Help me!
2007-02-24 05:03:46 · 12 answers · asked by Westley K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just to add some more here. I never would have met Carrie if ann hadnt puished me away so it aint like i am playing them against each other or anything!
2007-02-24 05:53:06 · update #1
The best thing is to date both..maybe you can have 3somes together.
2007-02-27 22:20:04 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like trusting you could be an issue...and commitment. How can you expect these qualites in a partner when you dont have them? And you need to be shown once again that someone has changed? I think Carrie and Ann need to dump you until you do some changing.
2007-02-24 13:09:25 · answer #2 · answered by juncogirl3 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you need is some space.
Break it off with Ann. Send her to therapy or something.
Let Carrie know you're definitely interested in developing a relationship with her but want to take it slowly at first. She sounds like an understanding sort of person, and she'll be willing to go along with that.
If Ann does get help and comes out of it a better person, and you simply cannot forget her... that's one thing. But you and I both know that an unhappy person will make everyone around them unhappy, too.
It's your life. You deserve to be happy.
2007-02-24 13:13:20 · answer #3 · answered by Peggy K 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you should be with carrie ann obviously needs to work through some issues at the moment she will get over her trust problems eventually and meet the right person so although its hard you need to let her do this and you and carrie can have some fun and see where it leads you never know hope ive been a help!!
2007-02-24 13:10:50 · answer #4 · answered by david n 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to take a break from both just to get your head sorted!
Once you spend a bit of time away from one of them you will soon know who you miss!
Try and think of it as you may never see one of them ever again and which one you would miss most!
Ann seems untrusting, and without trust a relationship wont work, also you didnt say who you fancy- you have to have a sexaul attraction to somebody, it seems more like your settling for whoever!
Why not try being single for a little while and then see what happens, you may meet your soul mate!
trust me the min you meet yoour soul mate your whole life will click into place!! you will just know! no questions!!
Goodluck
2007-02-24 13:13:07 · answer #5 · answered by kirsty m 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this ann chick sounds really possesive and controlling, you should foget her and move on. if things are going great with carrie, you could have a chance with her. a possesive gf is always going to bring you a lot of problems. trust me, it would be better to just end it now before it gets worse.
2007-02-24 13:09:39 · answer #6 · answered by TheDrummer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you already know what you want to do...Whats the point in being with some one if all you do is argue. Relationshipos are built on trust so if you havent got that to start with i dont think its worth it, your only hurting each other being together!! Id move on totally from both these two ladies. Good luck.
2007-02-24 13:32:13 · answer #7 · answered by MelanieMoo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
CARRiE! Ann is never going to trust you, and is always going to cause problems. CARRiE CARRiE CARRiE CARRiE!
2007-02-24 13:08:01 · answer #8 · answered by Amberlee :D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ann obviously has issues.not necessarily with you.i would say if carrie makes you happy then she is the one you should be with.ann sounds like a ticking bomb you dont want to be around when she goes off.
2007-02-24 13:12:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ann sounds like a bunny boiler if i were you id stick wit carrie she seams the better option
2007-02-24 13:41:58 · answer #10 · answered by boredstupid 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you read youre own question the answer is right there in youre question. Dont over dramtise the problem just cut the problem out of the pic and you will see who you should be with.
2007-02-24 13:10:21 · answer #11 · answered by furby_lost 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋