This goes to ex-mormons: why did you leave it? what made you realize you didn't want to be a member anymore?

Question

I am married to a mormon and he constantly judges me because I don't want to convert. he expects me to give up my believes, n even things i use to like. its hard to be married to someone who wants to change you completely with odd reasons. i love him, and he is a great person but when it comes to religion something about him is very different and I'm starting not to like it. I honestly think there is something wrong with mormonism and it scares me. I wish my husband could see what i see specially because once we have children he wants them to be mormon. if any one can help with information or proof that mormons are all lies i would greatly appreciated.

Answer 1

For a second I thought you said "This goes to ex-morons." That's all.

Answer 2

I left after what I read in the Mormon literature. Someone said that the best antimormon literature is the stuff put out by the church. An honest study of that material is FAR more effective in turning people off the Mormon church than anything an antimormon has ever written!
When I read the liteature, I learned from an honest study that Joseph Smith was a false prophet and we are commanded not to follow him.

I also learned that the church is not a true restoration like they say it is. It is not one that lives up to what the Bible says about the priesthoods. If you want more information about that point, have a look at bornagainmormon.com There are a couple of lectures that a guy does not this topic. This is not a new topic! It is one that has existed for hundreds of years.

Answer 3

I'm an ex-Mormon but I'm afraid that I won't be much help as I didn't leave the church because "they were all liars" or because of anything catastrophic. I just don't believe in religious dogma of any sort. I am against any organized religion. I always have been and I just had to wait until I was out of my Mormon parents' house to do my own thing.
There is nothing anymore inherently evil about Mormonism than any other organized religion.
Unfortunately you are dealing with what comes from marrying someone who thinks very differently than you.

Answer 4

Why not just study on your own and tell your husband that you're on your own time schedule? Also, why are you asking ex-Mormons? Why not just study everything you can get your hands on, from all sides. Most people I notice who leave the Church never tackle the writings of the Apostles, or Hugh Nibley. Why not try reading a little bit every day from the Bible and Book of Mormon? Why not try reading a little bit from Neal A. Maxwell and see if it helps you understand what Mormons are really all about? Have a happy day, and I send you a gummy bear.

Answer 5

I just left the church after being a member for 13 years. I left because I had questions and there where things about the LDS church that didn't add up. When I ask these questions the active members of the church, all I got was the same answer: "Pray, read the Book of Mormon', or my favorite one "There are just some things we won't know the answer to in this life, have faith".
Well, I got really tired of hearing these answers. I decided that it was up to me to find them, because it was obvious that know one in the church could help me. I started studying the Bible, low and behold all my questions were answered. I also did some research in the History of the church as well. My discovers lead me out of the church. I am so thankful to my Father in Heaven for a brain to think and learn. I wish I would have done this sooner, it would have saved me and my family a lot of heart ache.
I can't imagine how hard this is for you. Don't join the church just to please him. If your gut is telling you that this isn't right listen
to it. You are being given those feelings for a reason. I could give you a bunch of info, but he would just dismiss it as Anti-Mormon. My advice is go to him with the things in the Bible that show the beliefs of the LDS church isn't right. If you want other info I can give it to you just email me. Take Care and God Bless

Answer 6

I stopped believing in Mormonism for several reasons:

DNA. There is now scientific evidence that native Americans are in no way descended from Hebrews as is claimed in the Book of Mormon and by several modern Mormon leaders. The book "Losing a Lost Tribe" by Dr. Simon Southerton (an ex-Mormon who was a bishop) explains this in great detail.

Book of Abraham. This part of the Mormon scriptures was claimed by Joseph Smith to have been translated by him form ancient Egyptian scrolls written "by the hand of Abraham". Unfortunately for Joseph Smith, some of these scrolls were found in a museum in NYC in the late 1960s. Modern Egyptologists have determined that the scrolls are not only not written by or about Abraham, but they are from at least 2000 years after Abraham supposedly lived. Do a Google search for this, you'll find a ton of info.

Joseph Smith's Polygamy. Joseph Smith secretly married as many as 32 wives other than his legal wife Emma. At least 10 of them were married to other men at the time. Joseph Smith publicly lied about these marriages for many years.

Joseph Smith and Money Digging. JS was employed as a treasure seeker after he claimed to have found the Gold Plates. Was he digging for treasure for religious or monetary reasons?

Anyway, those are just the few that made me leave initially. There are many more problems I have since discovered.

Answer 7

I'm not exactly an ex-mormon or anything, but try this:

On the internet, you can find scripts of old temple ritual scripts that have been abandoned and changed over the years. Most notable were the changes in 1990.

Joseph Smith proclaimed in D&C 5 that anyone who boasted of the power of God would ultimately fall and be wasted. Joseph Smith himself said something to the effect of "I have more to boast of than any other man... People reviled against Peter, John, and Jesus but the Latter-Day-Saints have never left me." Less than a month later, Joseph Smith was killed by a mob.

Joseph Smith himself had 30-35 documented polygamous wives. Many of these were under 18. D&C 132 says his first wife, Emma Hale Smith, had to accept it or she would be utterly destroyed. Well, she didn't accept it, and after he was killed, she actively preached that Joseph himself had never taught the doctrine and that it was evil. She was never 'utterly destroyed' but lived into old age.

Joseph Smith was prone to drinking. The Word of Wisdom is against it. It was originally meant to be a word of caution or recommendation and not as an end-all doctrine for the ages. Many early apostles and prophets (Brigham Young, Joseph Smith, and others) were casual drinkers and were occasionally seen drunk like Noah.

None of these things will necessarily destroy his faith. Many Mormons still stay active after such doctrines and issues are brought before them. I, for example, am still a member. None of those issues are anything that makes the LDS Church any worse than any other Church, nor does it necessarily make the Church false.

The Church in itself is a good organization. In most cases, it tends to bring out the best in people, not the worst. People are afraid of it mostly because it tends to set itself apart from all others. Mormons' faith is centered in prayer and personal revelation from God. These testimonies won't be replaced by reasoning given to them by ex-mormons. Rather, it would be best to try to avoid religious arguments and live together in love.

You might try suggesting to him that the two of you should meet halfway. For instance, you could go to his church once per month if he goes to yours once per month. Read the Bible together (let him know you want to read JUST the Bible, if that's what you wish).

You could even meet together with the missionaries once or twice to get a general idea what the Church teaches, just so that you can say you're not against him and his Church, just that it's not for you, and that you want to let the kids choose for themselves later when they're older, and not be compelled to be baptized when they're 8 years old.

Answer 8

Why in the world did you marry a Mormon? You should of looked them up before you tied the knot.

Answer 9

Mark 3:24-And if a kingdom be divided against itself, that kingdom cannot stand.

Answer 10

It sounds more like you want him to give up his faith, more than you want to chose your own. If you simply tell him that you prayed and got your own answer, he is obligated to respect it.

Cite him D&C 121

34 Behold, there are many called, but few are chosen. And why are they not chosen?
35 Because their hearts are set so much upon the things of this world, and aspire to the honors of men, that they do not learn this one lesson—
36 That the rights of the priesthood are inseparably connected with the powers of heaven, and that the powers of heaven cannot be controlled nor handled only upon the principles of righteousness.
37 That they may be conferred upon us, it is true; but when we undertake to cover our sins, or to gratify our pride, our vain ambition, or to exercise control or dominion or compulsion upon the souls of the children of men, in any degree of unrighteousness, behold, the heavens withdraw themselves; the Spirit of the Lord is grieved; and when it is withdrawn, Amen to the priesthood or the authority of that man.
38 Behold, ere he is aware, he is left unto himself, to kick against the pricks, to persecute the saints, and to fight against God.
39 We have learned by sad experience that it is the nature and disposition of almost all men, as soon as they get a little authority, as they suppose, they will immediately begin to exercise unrighteous dominion.
40 Hence many are called, but few are chosen.
41 No apower or influence can or ought to be maintained by virtue of the priesthood, only by persuasion, by dlong-suffering, by gentleness and meekness, and by love unfeigned;
42 By kindness, and pure knowledge, which shall greatly enlarge the soul without hypocrisy, and without guile—
43 Reproving betimes with sharpness, when moved upon by the Holy Ghost; and then showing forth afterwards an increase of love toward him whom thou hast reproved, lest he esteem thee to be his enemy;
44 That he may know that thy faithfulness is stronger than the cords of death.

Answer 11

It is a cult because it denys the existence of Christ as the ONLY begotten son of GOD. It places more importance on Joseph Smith or Brigham Young than the saving grace of Christ. It teaches that GOD was once a man of flesh and bones and was elevated to the level of GOD by his own good works and that HE is in Heaven with "spiritual wives" having sex so HE can spawn "spirit babies" who then come to earth to gain their physical bodies! They believe that it is every families' job to have as many babies as possible so that these "spirit babies" can have a body. They believe that GOD is not omnipresent. He, to them, is bound by time and space.
There is SO much more!!! I would say this to you though, the Bible teaches us not to be unequally yoked with non-believers so you are in error by being married to a person belonging to a pagan cult. Please seek HIS face to help you find your way out of this before you bear children with this man and subject them to a life of false teaching. You are responsible for them.