Ex cheated on me in 2004. We broke up. He's been with "that girl" ever since. I was very sad at first and didn't feel like eating. Then, somewhere along the line, i started over eating and it's been a compulsion ever since. I tried going to 2 differernt counselors but I found no help at all. I eat a lot all the time, but I work out to keep the weight off and no one really can tell that I have this problem. I know it's because I felt hurt in the past over the ex situation, and before I start eating I think of how I am only ruining myself because I can't let go of the bad feelings that I was left with. I know I should be over this by now and the over eating is driving me crazy. I've recognized the problem, but what can I do to let go of the food issue? Please help.
2007-02-24 04:53:38 · 6 answers · asked by Luckyprincess 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Actually, I have been dating someone for about a year, and I love him, but I still am hurt a little by the past.... sad I know.
2007-02-24 04:59:23 · update #1
Well first off, if you think the problem is getting out of hand you might need to go to a psychologist to help you out. If you think you can handle this on your own there's a few tips I remember from my studies.
1. Try to eat foods that fill you up quicker without eating too much of them(salads with wide leafs in them)
2. Try to not finish a portion of the meal on your plate, this will get you in the habit of eating less.
3. Keep a journal of what you're eating, see if there are things that you can do without.
4. Keep to a strict schedule of when to eat. When you are on a schedule there is less of a chance of snacking between meals.
There might be more tips that are better than these but these are what I can remember off hand. Goodluck.
2007-02-24 05:00:34 · answer #1 · answered by Patrick D 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hey it might be hard to break ur ED overnight, so what I recommend is that you subsititute whatever it is that you are binging on with healthy food.
Also you need to try to take your mind off your no good ex and find a hobby or exercise that you love to do. And work really hard and long at it. Maybe take dance lessons, or hiking, or cycling, or painting. Whatever it is make sure its a passion.
And start shopping for yourself, buy clothes that are a few sizes smaller than you are now and keep them in sight.
This will motivate you to keep in shape, kick the habit and become a better person.
All the best
2007-02-24 05:01:37 · answer #2 · answered by Cher B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've recognized the problem but you are still upset about it. You should try finding someone to date. When you do, you'll still have thoughts about your ex but you will be happy about your new boyfriend and you will be less likely to over eat.
2007-02-24 04:58:13 · answer #3 · answered by jacksfullhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're working out and keeping fit, theres really nothing wrong. Maybe intsead of eating unhealthy foods, you should switch to eating alot of veggies and fruits. If you eat alot, try to ration out your meals. Have 3 small meals and a snack in between each meal.
2007-02-24 04:58:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
THE SUGGESTION I HAVE IS THAT YOU FIND A LOCAL BRANCH OF OVER-EATERS ANONYMOUS. THERE MANY OF THE EXACT REASONS WHY YOU FIND COMFORT IN FOOD WILL BE ADDRESSED.
EVEN THOUGH FOOD WON'T BETRAY YOU OR JUDGE YOU. EATING TOO MUCH WILL GRADUALLY HURT YOU.
http://www.oa.org/index.htm
2007-02-24 05:58:40 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Albert, DDS, (USA) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel like your overeating because of your ex your under lying problem is getting over them. no need for counseling for overeating you need counseling for getting over the past,then most likely the eating problem will diminish.
2007-02-24 05:00:13 · answer #6 · answered by erika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋