to tell me what to do with my daugther,i'm a first time mommy but i know what i'm doing,what sould i tell her without being rude??
2007-02-24 04:51:55 · 14 answers · asked by angie 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
just be honest...she should know better,
cheers
2007-02-24 04:54:46 · answer #1 · answered by happyday to you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can kind of understand where you are coming from. I dont have a baby, but my fiance's mother is so pushy. When I go over to her house to do my laundry, she refuses to let me do it my way. Its MY laundry! There is alot of stuff like that she tries to take control over. I haven't figured out what to do either! Sometimes I can stand up to her and tell her.. look this is how I want to do it, but then sometimes I cant. It depends on how long you have known her. Ive been with her son for 3 years, so I kinda get fed up, but I know what you mean, you dont want her to think you are disrespecting her. Maybe someone else can help a little more than I can.
2007-02-24 12:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by lovepink317537 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with a compliment and then tell her how you feel. For example, let her know that you appreciate how she raised a wonderful son, but now it's your turn to raise your own child. Tell her that you feel like you a doing a good job and if you need her help you will ask her. I hope she will understand this.
2007-02-24 12:56:36 · answer #3 · answered by Luckyprincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she did an excellent job of raising her son, but that you would like to raise your daughter in your own way. Say you realize you will make mistakes, but can learn from them just like everyone else does. Let her offer her opinion occasionally and if you don't agree, do things your own way. Do not let her think she can make all the decisions or else you'll have to deal with it for years to come.
2007-02-24 12:56:55 · answer #4 · answered by abc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you appreciate all of her help and advise but you want to learn on your own and that you're very capable of raising your daughter. Sometimes you have to be a little rude to get them off your back. Best of luck!
2007-02-24 12:55:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that u value her advice but would like to learn things for yourself and you know that she is there if you need to ask anything. then give it a week or so and then ask her something this way you have made her feel needed and that you will go to her without her interfearing. dont worri hunni this is something all of us mums go thro and believe me it will only last little while before she stops.
2007-02-24 12:55:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you really appreciate her help but you have to learn to be a mother on your own. If she's telling you how to raise your child how will you be able to raise any of your children yourself??
2007-02-24 13:00:36 · answer #7 · answered by MC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I just had a baby one week ago. My family and my husband family keeps giving us advice..the baby is my husband and I first child. I just smile at them and say okay thanks. I take in their advice but I ususally do it the way I want too because after all I am still learning!
2007-02-24 12:58:12 · answer #8 · answered by Felicia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try this...thank you so much for your wonderful advice. IF my method is not successful then I will try your way.
or you could say.....I know there is so much I should know but since babies dont come with books and instructions I guess I will learn and be more experienced when I have my next child
good luck
2007-02-24 12:55:49 · answer #9 · answered by bufalo1501 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say:
I see how your son turned out and i think ur a good mother but i want 2 do this on my own with out u telling me how 2 do it
2007-02-24 12:56:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just set her down and tell her i that you really appreaciate her concern but you no how to handel your child and that you dont want no probblems with her so if she could plz just stop telling you how to raise her let her no that if you did need help that she would be the one you would go to but right now you dont need her help if you dont put a stop to it now then it will get worse
2007-02-24 12:58:25 · answer #11 · answered by michelle_perez_2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋