I'm 15 years old and I'm going to be the bridesmaid at my mom's wedding. The only problem is that I really don't want to do it. (Which I havn't told her.) I like my future stepfather and all, but it just doesn't feel right. My mom was really upset a few days ago and was crying for almost an hour. I tried to make her feel better by talking to her, and one of the things she asked was if I hated being in the wedding. I didn't want to hurt her feelings, and I don't HATE being in the wedding, so I told her no. Am I doing the right thing my being the bridesmaid?
2007-02-24 04:48:44 · 20 answers · asked by i-wanna-write 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes, you are. It's understandable that you don't want to be in the wedding, but your mom needs your support. Good luck with everything!
2007-02-24 04:56:37 · answer #1 · answered by mrs.dennis.10.6.07 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if something a mother always treasure in a ceremony like this, a wedding with a partner who is not the father of her children, is to feel like her children are part of something in an aspect of the ceremony. in your case your mom wants you to be a bridesmaid, which is wonderful, so even though it takes some little inner sacrifice within you to be part of the wedding party, remember that your mom will be the happiest person that day sharing the presence of her beloved daughter at her side. small sacrifices at the end are well awarded, because you in the moment you walk down the aisle for your mother's wedding, all family and friends will also have their eyes in you in approve of been such a kind daughter.
is ok to feel a little uneasy about all this, maybe you are more worried that this marriage won't last after all the expenses, but don't think about it, keep your thoughts in a good positive vibe, and enjoy the blessing of seeing your family grow. you will see that all be fine, be happy that day, is your day too somehow!!! Good Luck
2007-02-28 12:27:11 · answer #2 · answered by D' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't really lie, you don't hate being in the wedding. Your mother wants you to be part of her special day. She doesn't want you to just sit on the sidelines and possibly feel pushed aside because she's marrying this new guy. She wants you to feel welcomed as part of the new family.
We had our children (all adults) come forward during our ceremony and witness the vows, after the vows they went and sat back down. We wanted them to know that they are a part of this new family. I know one of them was a little uncomfortable with the idea of whole thing, she was having a hard time with her dad getting remarried. Her mother passed away a year before I met her dad. Anyway, the message I'm trying to get across is that she did it for her dad. She said after the wedding that it really wasn't as hard as she thought it would be. I'm glad she went along with something that meant a lot to both me and her dad.
Be a bridesmaid, it isn't a big job, and it will mean the world to your mother.
2007-02-24 13:04:10 · answer #3 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes...because one day she may be in your wedding. This is about supporting your mom on her (second) 'day', not the stepfather...bridesmaid isnt a very big role, you just walk down the aisle and stand with the other bridesmaids. maybe you are just self conscious of being in the wedding...? either way, it'll be fine. Just go through with it
2007-02-24 12:53:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your Mom would be very upset if you didnt want to be her bridesmaid. Just tell her you know something isnt right. Then when her tension lets up a little bit, you can drop the bomb. But mabye you should do it after the wedding.
2007-02-24 12:57:24 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda<3 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! Think of all the sacrifices that your mother has made for you! It's an honor to be in the wedding. I was maid-of-honor fr my mom's wedding.
One day she'll be helping you physically, emotionally, and financially with your own wedding, and you may regret not being n the wedding or having upset her.
I know it's hard, but try for the sake of her happiness ... it's all a part of maturing.
2007-02-24 13:23:10 · answer #6 · answered by Advice Please 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom wants you to be her bridesmaid as that will relieve her from the tension of you not accepting the stepfather!!!Moreover it is your duty to do so as sometimes parents expect love & recognition from their children against the normal rule which makes them recognise you, even when you are wrong!!Its not your wedding, so go ahead, help her and she may return it some day!!!
2007-02-24 13:02:11 · answer #7 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I guess so. It sounds like your mom really needs you. Besides, if you don't be the bridesmaid, then you might regret it later (I've been in a similar situation, where I had the opportunity to do something, but turned it down, and then in the long run, regret not doing it).
2007-02-24 18:18:37 · answer #8 · answered by DavidausZueri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't hate being in the wedding, then you didn't lie. I think you should do this for her to be supportive. (And, don't forget to let your dad know that you are still his little girl.)
Your mom will love you forever for being in her wedding. So just do it and be closer to her and make her feel good on her day. That's what you would want on your wedding day, right?
2007-02-24 13:00:14 · answer #9 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Lie. Your Mom needs your support so give it. How would you feel if she didn't want to be the part of your wedding that youasked of her? Ask her if she is truely happy and if she is, leave it at that. Bite the bullet and be her bridesmaid.
2007-02-24 16:43:27 · answer #10 · answered by Natalie L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋