If your mad tell the person your mad at. If your sad. Say why! I dont get it. A lot of girls and guys..mostly boys in my experience just cant say what thier thinking. What can i do to force the truth out of them? Chinese water torture?
2007-02-24 04:44:09 · 15 answers · asked by nessa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Invite their opinions with open-ended questions. Just like asking questions here.
Hey, dude, what's troubling you today? ...or ...
You seem to be thinking of something... what is it? ...or ...
Gosh, this looks like a nice day for having fun, do you think it is? ...or
Hi, what's up? Wanna talk?
If you ask with a frown you'll get responses of one kind and if you ask with a slight smile you'll get another... It's all in how you are being perceived as a listener - if you show disgust, you'll get confrontation or you'll be ignored. Ask flirtatiously and you'd better be ready for 'whatever'. Ask happily and you'll get light hearted responses....
There you go. Get it now? It's all up to you.
Have fun... You've just entered a larger world.
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2007-02-24 05:02:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Chinese water torture"....Very good analogy you got there, look like you're into Chinese philosophy.
For me personally, I would consider myself as 50/50, 50% of me has been Americanized & 50% of me still maintain my own heritage. If something that is worth to express my opinions or feelings or to protect my interests, I will say like the way it is, and I'm not afraid to tell the truth. If something that doesn't benefit or hurt me but may hurt others in anyway then most of time I would keep it to myself.
2007-02-24 04:55:02 · answer #2 · answered by Infinite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, men are kinda taught by thier role-models, society, etc. to not express emotions. Also, sometimes people are affraid to release their emotions worried that they might either hurt, anger or confuse the people they care about. I am guessing you are young and annoyed by a guy you are involved with. If you are one of his first relationships then you are one of his first teachers when it comes to these sorts of things. Just calmly talk to him and tell him/her the truth which I am sure is you care about them and have noticed something is wrong and you want to help them because you want to both improve your relationship and genuinely care about them. Hopefully, just lettting them know that you noticed, care and are there for them will be affirmation enough to make them feel better and/or calm down. Otherwise realize that the person themself might not know what they are going through and you don't want to add pressure on them but you do want them to know they are not alone and that you will be there when they are ready. Maybe you can help them to discover what is actually bothering them. hugs work too
2007-02-24 05:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by Don Quesadia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 22:08:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try singing to them that would probably do it. Ha! In some cases people might not want to feel rejected or possibly upset or scare the other person off by saying what they are really thinking.
2007-02-24 09:15:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL Guys don't like to express their " feelings " or bother with explaining why they are mad or sad...1/2 the time they probably don't even know themselves...and they get over it quite quickly
Just ask when they've calmed down some...that you would like for them to share with you Why they're mad or sad*
Keep the communication lines open* GOODLUCK
2007-02-24 04:48:38 · answer #6 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are afraid of expressing their own thoughts and emotions for fear of being perceived as weak by others. Others avoid such expressions because of their pride, financial status, or fame. I don't care what people really say about me, public opinion does not control my life. God is in control of my life. I go ahead and express myself.
2007-02-24 04:46:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think they want to hurt anyone and would rather keep it inside at least thats the case with me. i dont tell anyone when im upset with them or angry at them i just let it go but that isnt good. i just dont wanna hurt anyone or deal with having to confront them (im to shy)
2007-02-24 04:49:22 · answer #8 · answered by Shannon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people are blunt with there feelings and some people are shy and scared because they dont want to be judged on how they feel about something
2007-02-24 04:48:09 · answer #9 · answered by jus_teazen08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure i will i think your a smart girl with alot on her mind and like to get some ans
2007-02-24 04:56:21 · answer #10 · answered by finnlecarb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋