I never thought jealousy could be such a powerful negative force that can turn someone into a complete loser. I have witnessed this in my brother. He ended up having a bitter divorce mainly because he got jealous with his wife and his in-laws closeness. He blames everyone being happy in their life and he is not. He does nothing to make it better for him. Instead, he gets even more jealous to see people happy around him. I tried to help him out initially, but it seemed he wanted to sink my ship along with his. How can he be helped or he should just be left alone? He won't probably go to the doctor, because he doesn't think he is the problem.
2007-02-24 04:43:17 · 8 answers · asked by Freddy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I always taught my children that the person who is angry or jealous is the one that suffers..The other person is going on his or her merry way. It is easier said than done.
You should not leave him alone. But don't be a nag either. He has to be the one to decide if he shd seek therapy or it wont help. Keep in touch with him.. Call him ever day or every other day so that he knows you are there for him, and can always depend on you, and talk his heart out. Be a good listener, that is what he needs right now. He is in allot of pain. Just get off his back, and let him know you are there for him 24/7,.when he needs to talk to someone. He is bitter right now and does not mean any bad things he say's to you. He is just lashing out from pain. Stop givng him advice unless he asks, as he at this point will automatically reject anything you advise him to do.
I've been in his shoes, so I know what I am talking about. Your a great brother. You can't feel his pain, and I hope you never will. But I can, as I am still in the same pain. Ironically my brother is there for me too, but I get so upset with him when he say's "you have to do this or that". I know what I have to do, and so does your brother but we are not ready yet.
Good luck from the bottom of my heart.
2007-02-24 05:00:16 · answer #1 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs God right now in his life. Just have him go to your religon's worship place a bit more often. It might be troublesome, but have him listen to the consequences that might come if he doesn't try to fix himself. I'm sorry, but this is the truth, and the truth is that he's on a path to a pretty depressing/suicidal life. And once he's deep in that path, it's gonna be even MORE trouble to get him out of there. There's probably something else bothering him, that's even worse. Find out and help him along, he just needs to know that someone loves him, because apparantely he's thinking no one does *if he's jealouse of everyone else being happy, that's usually the reason*
2007-02-24 13:37:14 · answer #2 · answered by Answer Givererer. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, i think his jealousy has turned to hatred, for those around him. Because he was so hurt by what happened. As they say" LOVE hurts" and when you fall, you fall big. And it would take a crane to lift you up.
It sounds like hes on a self-destruct mode. watch him for a while, and ease in on him. don't push him to hard.
Because its a long climb back up. Be a brother to him like a brother a should. but don't let him burden you either. or you will feel the way he does, after a while. then what good would it do you both?. Time heals all wounds, but some take longer about , fixing them,
2007-02-24 16:48:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to see a doctor and doesn't think he has a problem, he'll stay the same. Something REALLY big must happen in his life (like hitting rock bottom) and he could see he needs to seek help. But, some people never want or will change.
2007-02-24 12:47:09 · answer #4 · answered by Brown-eyed girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can turn some one into a loser. i had an ex boyfriend who told me to get over him so i did and now he is totally driving a wrench between me and my friend because he is jealous of our relationship and he has turned his back on everyone and he hardly has any friends of his own...i would just give your brother sometime because i know sooner or later he will look back and think what have i done...and things will always work out. they always do!
2007-02-24 12:55:29 · answer #5 · answered by baby girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just leave him alone. I know that its hard because you care so much for him or you wouldn't be asking our opinions. Give him space and time.....pray that he will get his life figured out for himself. In the end, he is the only one that can change his jealous ways...not you.
I know you stated that he most likely wouldn't see someone professionally, but it sounds like he may be depressed.
2007-02-24 12:49:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOUNDS like your BROTHER needs the LORD in his life.PEACE with God. BUT 4 the record inlaws can break up marriages. INLAWS can make the marriage a living HELL ! ! ! ! MY in laws are terrible.
2007-02-24 12:48:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I saw it ruin many men. And i can only hope it never happens to me.Must i remind you of oj simpson?
2007-02-24 12:48:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋