I need help!?

Question

Im almost 13 years old, I have a sister who is 11 and a brother who is 7. My problem is my sister. I treat her like a sister and i would say very nicely. She treats me like im younger than her. My parents especially my mom treat her like a queen. My brother doesn't seem to care as much as i do because he doesn't really understand but he has been telling me about it. Here are some examples. being spoilt: she gets what she wants. In 1 month she got a phone, webcam, ipod, psp. I only have a phone which compared to hers is nothing plus i lost it. My mother allows her any sleepover she wants she allows me to but not always. Those are just to examples of being spoilt. There is so much more but it wont fit on here. The main thing is that I cry everyday i pray to god for my life to change. I have been holding this inside holding my stress for to long from 5th grade to 7th.I finally realized i have to do something about it.Can someone help me? I feel like shes the Queen and im the servant. Sam

by the way you might think im a boy..lol im actually a girl ppl call me Sam

Answer 1

Dear Sam, it sounds like you could use some encouragement. I want you to know that you are just as special as your sister, and that you have an important role to play in your family. Be strong and don't get intimidated. Your story touches me, and I nearly cried for you as I read it.
I will pray for you, Sam. God loves you, and he will comfort you. I hope a miracle happens for you. When you feel down, read a favorite book or listen to a special song. You could cuddle up with a stuffed animal and spend time alone. Write your thoughts down in a diary. I'm prayng for you now. There is a God who listens.

Answer 2

I know what it is like taking second place to your younger sister, but you should know in the long run, I came out better. I became responsible financially and took care of myself by the time I was in high school. It hurts, because even now, my sister is 19 and getting away with things she shouldn't. I love her, and I wish her the best, but at the same time, I know that she has to learn that the real world will not accept a spoiled brat who demands to get her way. I am doing better, because I know that gifts from my parents will never take away the hurt, but they are still family and they have come to terms with how they treated us so differently. Hang in there. It may seem unfair now, but years from now you will be the better person, doing what you have to do, and not what you demand others to do for you.

Answer 3

Samster needs his parents attention. Now you can go about this in two ways, #1 you can pout, complain, be annoying, aggravate your sister, Or #2, you can accept she's the only sister and get over your jealously. You can improve your relationship with your parents by helping out without being asked to. You seem to be caught up in the negative feelings and if you continue feeling and thinking this way, only negative things will happen. You have control over how you feel. Jealousy is a big green monster that can and will eat you alive and make you miserable, as is shown by your note to us.

Best advise, be kind, caring, generous to all. Help when and where you can without being asked. Be good to yourself and you do that by thinking good thoughts.

Answer 4

Okay Sam, I know what you're going through.
But you're the oldest child, so they're giving your sister the things she wants, she's the middle child. Usually the middle one gets left out. Plus, she's the only girl and she's slowly reaching her teenage years. It's not easy for her, or any of you.
All you can really do is talk to your parents and ask why she's getting all of these things and you or your brother aren't getting anything. They should be treating you all equally.

Answer 5

look, i will put you in my prayers. i just turned 13 too. i actually came across the same problem. so what you can do is become independent. start your own buisness. as a tutor or a babysitter. your parents are taking favor in her because shes the baby girl. so you need to talk to your parents also. thats what ive been doing. i feel that since im a teenager now i can express my true feelings. if you want more informaion...email me at [e-mail]

Answer 6

i know its not easy for u to see about ur sister..she is the only girl in ur family am sure ur mom loves u all but in difference way.. talk to ur parents but without knowing ur sister.. tell her why if ur sister want something she get it.. tell ur parents that u have that feelings and u cant last anymore to see it.. i know what u feel but i can tell u what is that... JEALOUS..but its normal especially if ur parents giving that all in front of u. i understand u as well.. talk with them but dont get mad try to be ur self and patience..

Answer 7

if you really feel like that you need to tell your mum about it because i bet she doesn't know shes doing it i was the oldest like you are and i always felt grown up x