this girl i really like(i told her) but she likes someone else that goes to another school, theyve been talking for about 3 months or so. so i told her i would just be her friend. am i doing the right thing? and how long will it last since they dont go to the same school, i wouldnt think too long unless he is faithful. and if they do break up should i wait awhile to see what she does before i try to make my move again?
2007-02-24 04:34:14 · 9 answers · asked by 281 Playa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i agree with most of the answers in some form, but its like the saying says. Love without friendship is like building a mansion on the sand. if im her friend first i think it would be better in the long run, i told her i still like her even though i will only be her friend
2007-02-24 04:42:49 · update #1
i would also like to add she is 15 and im 16, but i feel im a bit more mature then her. so keep this in mind when your going through her mindset
2007-02-24 04:46:46 · update #2
Before you can have a successful relationship with anyone you have to be friends. So long as you understand that it could work between them, and that you may never have a shot at a relationship with her, and you are willing to actually be her friend, then you have made the right decision. She may get hurt by this guy, and she'll still need her friend.
Just be her friend, and if something more naturally develops then so be it. In the end, especially if things don't work out between the two of them, you will be the guy who was always there when she needed a hand.
2007-02-24 04:40:24 · answer #1 · answered by vengerofthelight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give up on her because if she really liked you she would give up on the other guy and come to you, or atleast tell you that she liked you. If your Hot then you might still have a chance by just being her friend and letting her see chemistry between you two, but you have to show her that all you want is friendship so that she will open up to you and feel comfortable. This is the only way you might be able to change things. And if not there will be other girls who are just as pretty and nice who will like you. Good Luck!!
2007-02-24 12:47:39 · answer #2 · answered by summer girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok look if you really loved this girl you would do the right thing and let her go. And yes this relationship could last pretty long if they love eachother that much. but you aslo never know, they might think that things between them are getting too distant, then they would split up. Yes wait some time girls take some time to let go of the one she loved. But when you feel when the time is right ask her she just might need someone else to love her like you.! hop this helped :)
2007-02-24 12:41:56 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's going out with someone else, then let it wait out. You might not know the whole relationship, so they could be in deep love. If they do break up and stuff, let her know you're there for her. Make it seem like you now only like her as a friend. Don't let it be okward. You might wanna wait because she'll need space.
2007-02-24 12:42:51 · answer #4 · answered by Chickadee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are, if a girl sees you as just a friend, and you tell her that you'll just be her friend, she's going to stop seeing you as relationship material. Maintain a presence, but don't be clingy. Say hi to her in the hallways and whatnot.
When she breaks up with the other guy you can be her knight in shining armor. But only after, don't pressure her now.
2007-02-24 12:40:35 · answer #5 · answered by Weezie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it most likely wont work out cuz untrust would break out and blames will pass back and forth------WHEN it does break off yes u need 2 wait a while b 4 u make ur move maybe a week and a couple of days---not more than that---she needs that time to get her emotions straight-----they should b straight by dat time
2007-02-24 12:43:22 · answer #6 · answered by key4eva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just be her friend for now , always be there for her, and if her the other guy doesnt work out be there to support her, show her that u care and then make ur move
if u or any of ur friends need advice on dating or just need someone to talk to my e-mail address is Darklife_of_love@yahoo.com
2007-02-24 12:42:04 · answer #7 · answered by darkness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. Better to make a friend than lose one. Maybe their romance will fizzle out but anyway you have a friend.
2007-02-24 12:38:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just let her go.
Same thing happend to me man and it took me nowhere!
2007-02-24 12:39:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋