Interacial dating question how is it viewed?

Question

Okay I know love is blind, race doesn't matter, if i'm in love go for it!!! Buuuut that is not my question...my question is this. If an Afghan man dates a black woman how is it viewed in his culture. Will his family disown him. Let's be honest every culture has their don't(s) I'm actually looking for an answer from the older more wiser people or the people from Afghan (honest answers please) Mayb i should post my question under Society/Culture

Answer 1

No matter what ethinic background you have, interacial couples will see a lot of resistance from both side of your family. You will also feel that every moment and turns you need to prove yourself that you are worthy to love that man. Usually, you are considered as an outsider. This word, outsider, has a lot of connotation that is not very pleasant.

If these FACTs bothers you and you forsee giving up the relationship in the future, you should not marry your man. If you want the relationship to work, you need to be strong for the rest of your life.

The reason is simple: cultural clash. Cultural differences are not just cultural but ingrained deeply into every person's personality and worldview. Your house becomes the symbol for cultural clash and your children would experience double standard to live hby, or even triple standard (one including your environment). That is an enormous stress to the family. In order to alliviate such clashes turning into disasters, you must be in constant open communication with each other. Otherwise, it is doomed for failure and frustration.

Answer 2

No, the truth is the Gay community can be extremely bigotted and predjudiced based on race. In the world that we live in race trumps everything and it shows. I've never understood why an oppressed group would turn around and oppress others when they get the chance too. But it happens and the gay community participates as well. Interacial dating is largely considered ok in the gay community but there are plenty of hateful gay people in the world who contribute to this problem that seems to persisit. Race based objectification is rampant in the gay community and all it does it inhibits us from really getting to know the fact about each other.

Answer 3

Yeah, there are a lot of teens + young adults in this section ;), if you want wiser people with more experience with culture you should probably put it under society and culture :).

Answer 4

It is a terrible thing to be a bigot. However race has nothing to do with my answer.

I believe that people should date others with the same background as themselves as eventually you will fall in love with someone, and marry. Then if they are not from your background then their will be allot of conflicts how to raise your children after the honeymoon and all the gah gah and physical attraction reaches a plateu

Answer 5

I think you should post it under society/culture as well because most questions answered and asked here are mainly about 'my bf thinks im fat' and crap like that. Good like with finding your answer.

Answer 6

honestly, his family may diswon him yes, especially that culture, and black families arnt that welcoming if its not in their race either, especially an indian man, trust me i know. im not saying give up, im just saying be prepared to deal with the rath of ur family and hers. u both may have to just move far away and live ur lives

Answer 7

We are at war over the friction between Muslim society and Judao/Christian. That's what your marriage would be like. Race matters, color matters, culture matters and religion matters. I was around in the '60's when it became cool to mix races and cultures and it's been a mess. I'm white and had friends who married black and that was ok with me but seeing what my friends had to go through really mattered. White and black hated what they were doing. It was especially hard for the children. My friend Karen said that she and James would lie in bed at night talking about how it wouldn't matter to their baby because it was conceived in such love. Well, it did matter a lot. I sat on the curb with her and cried because James became so dishearten by the whole mess and holed up in thier home with a gun and eventually killed himself. Her love child and my all white child went to school the same year. At first he was invited everywhere my son was. If there was a birthday party both were there until about fifth grade and then he was a threat to their lily white daughters. Now, you see it more often but the divorce statistics are over the moon. Same race or religion divorce rate is about 50% but interacial is more like 80%. I used to work in a Verizon call center with a lot of young people and the men here on a work visa from the middle east invariably put the moves on the pretty blondes and since most of them are very handsome in a dark and mysterious way they got who ever they wanted but no one in that group ever married. They were playing! Then when one of the Muslim men married we never saw who he married but she wasn't the blonde Barbie he had been with right up to the time of the marriage. When my son was in med school he became close friends with a muslim man from Kuwait. He is a lovely person and was my son's best man and it was very difficult for him to do that in a Christian church. Wassil did marry a white woman who is also a Dr. She had to convert to his religion and she is really about the same make up as he is with dark hair and eyes. They now have four very beautiful sons. She won't go to Kuwait and she won't allow him to take the boys because she has seen some take the children and go home and lose them completely. They often meet his parents in London to celebrate holidays and he goes home to do his religious duty by himself. She has said that as the boys come of age she will allow him to take them one by one but never all at once. They've been married 12 years and she still doesn't trust him. I wonder at how they stay married with that much distrust but that's how they have to make it work. I'm 62 years old and I can say that the more things that are different, the worse the marriage is. It's just very hard to find the common ground and make it good. You see a lot of young people in a mixed relationship but it's been fairly common for over 40 years now and I don't ever meet an old couple, mixed. That tells me a lot. And the biracial children don't fit anywhere. Blacks don't particularly embrace them and for all the lip service to being politically correct I don't think the whites do either. However my darling sister is different. My niece became pregnant and while she was in labor she finally told my sister that the baby may be black. Sis had never been able to get a straight answer up to that point. The baby was bi. My niece soon found that white men she met and dated didn't want a thing to do with that child and many dropped her when they found out. Since she and the baby had always lived at home she finally worked out with Sis that she and my bil should adopt the child so she could move on and it has worked well. Niece married a nice white guy and has three more daughters who know that our bi is their sister but will never live with them. The biracial kid seems to have a lot of girl friends in high school, both races but doesn't date much. A lot of giggling about boys but no real boy friend. The real daddy came to the door recently and wanted to see his daughter. He was just out of prison and that was part of his parole and getting his life straight. My sister told him that he'd ignored her all these years so wait another two when she is of age and she can make up her own mind about it. She says she never wants to see him but we'll see. She has another whole family out there somewhere and I think the she will at least want to see them out of curiosity. Sis has told me some of the awful things strangers have said to her because they think the child is my sister's by birth. It seems that people in the check out lines are the worst as they are there long enough to think up what kind of mean remark they want to make. My pet peeve is that a child can be 1 part white and 25 parts black and still be considered for all sorts of legal records and surveys that it is still black. My husband and son are blue eyed and very fair skinned but have American Indian in their background about 4 generations back. My son was very proud of being part Indian as a child but everyone just laughed at him and thought it so funny that he, as fair as he is, would claim to be part Indian. I have often wondered if he would have told people that he was part black if they would have laughed and thought it so cute. If the census taker is in your living room asking questions, how many generations back does it take to not be black anymore and be considered just a heinz 57 as I am. I am part Guatemalian but would have never thought when I was younger that I maybe should say I'm hispanic??? Now, I think maybe I should just to confuse them. Or to just tell them I'm black since it seems that we all have a common ancestory from somewhere in Africa or so the scientist say. My prayer for you is that you live to see a time when all will be the same color and we are so inter mixed that no walls are up against everyone. At this time, there are still walls that are very difficult to manage. May God bless whatever path you decide to take.