How am I supposed to listen to my best friend's boyfriend talk about how much he likes her and how he's never going to break up with her if I like him too? I don't want to make them break up, but I do want them to break up. I've liked him before she even knew him, but he chose her because I'm a really good friend of his. I don't think he would ever go out with me because I'm just a friend to him. Plus, he gets her presents all of the time just to show he cares. It's just really hard to watch. What am I supposed to do?
2007-02-24 03:44:27 · 13 answers · asked by babygurl216 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go find your own boyfriend.
2007-02-24 03:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by Super_Noypi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard situation because you liked him before she even knew him. At this point there is nothing you can do. He is in love with her and it wasn't meant to be between you too. I know its hard but you just have to do the right thing or you will end up loosing them both as a friend. If I were you I wouldn't talk to him about her. Try to change the subject. There is no reason to torture yourself. If even talking to him is too hard then don't. You have to protect your own feelings. Good luck and you will find someone who will make you much happier then he could have!
2007-02-24 03:52:00 · answer #2 · answered by ChristinaN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to accept that you cannot change him or your best friend. If you really care about your friend then you won't do anything to break up the relationship because it will almost always cause the friendship you have with her to come to an end. I would get him alone and just tell him how you feel. If you're uncomfortable with talking to him about this...then you only other option is to just move on...accept your feelings for him and continue to be his friend, but just tell him that you don't want to hear about his relationships...in a nice way of course. I wish you the best of luck!
2007-02-24 03:51:12 · answer #3 · answered by HauntingInsanity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on.
Quit focusing on a guy you can not have
One truth about human relationships is that a person becomes more desireable when they are with someone. So find a BF. Done become a third wheel in your friends relationship. If it doesnt work out between your two friends and they break up on their own then you have a decision to make.
2007-02-24 03:50:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, the best thing to do is not to try and break them up. Apparently you were good friends with both of them before they got together, right? Did you introduce them? If you say anything now, it is only going to seem like you are being petty and jealous...that you like him just because he is treating your friend so well.... I know i've been in the same situation and it did not end well. I ended up losing both friends, the guy and the girl who both meant a lot to me. In the end, I miss their friendship more than what could have been between me and the guy. Wait it out. You need to start doing subtle things to make the guy see you in a different light...not just as his buddy. this is not easy to do because guys just areent that smart. I'm guessing that you are single and you spend alot of time with the two of them...that is tough because you always feel like the third wheel and startt wondering what is wrong with you..DONT DO THAT. Suggest that yall go out somewhere fun as a group, make sure you look really hot and are going to get alot of attention from other guys, then when your there hang out with them some ot the time, but make sure your focus is on having a good time and meeeting new people. Trust me the quickest way to get a guy to start wondering what he is missing out on is to wonder what all the other guys are making a fuss over! Your guy friend is probably comfortable with the way yall are together and never thinks about you in a diffferent way, so your job is to meke sure that he cant avoid but see you in a different ight. No more going hang out with them, in sweats, no make up and a pony tail. In fact, instead of always being available to hang out with them, make plans to do stufff with others. Start off slow so they dont realize you are doing it on purpose....he'll start wondering why your not around all the time and he may even be a little jealous if you tell him that you are dating someone...Guys tend to be possessive of any girl in their life...even the ones they swear they don't think of that way! In the beginning u minght have to pretend to have plans, but trust me after awhile you really will meet new people and if works to make him notice you, great! And if it doesn't you will still feel better because you have new friends and its not healthy to spend all your time miserable over him. Whatever you do, dont become possessive or messy...guys hate that. You have to change the situation! if you dont and you stick to the same old routine waiting on him to come to his senses...it will never happen, because right now he has it all...the new girlfriend that he adores and the trusty old buddy that he can always rely on...he isin't going to purposely change that, so do what you need to, to make him see the other you...the one guys are interested in and want to adore and give presents to! good luck!
2007-02-24 04:18:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, look, you are crazy to not tell him before how you felt. Okay, listen to me, write a note to your so called best freind and tell her how you feel about that guy friend of hers, and tell her to try not to come around you so much with him and stuff. Oh, and stay faithful and truthful to your friendship, if your're really an honest person. Thats a good question you had, so herers a great answer
2007-02-24 03:56:29 · answer #6 · answered by ebonycorine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, that is a tough situation you have there. personally, there is not really any good advice to give. i don't know him or your best friend. if it were my best frined and her boyfriend i would try to avoide him and move on. in my case i know that guys will come and go, but my best will be here forever. it's better not to screw that kinda stuff up. I wish you the best of luck! :-)
2007-02-24 03:52:00 · answer #7 · answered by RikiRo 346 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u really luv ur bestfriend you would sit down and talk to her and tell her what u feel and after you talk go to the club and find a guy
2007-02-24 03:54:14 · answer #8 · answered by goodies make the boys jump on it 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him and the freind and see what he says then go with the flow and mybe he will get with you but tell the girl frist so you still have her and him
2007-02-24 03:49:29 · answer #9 · answered by Nick D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL DNT B SELFISH.B4 THEY MET U SHOULDVE TOLD HIM HOW U FEEL.NOW DAT THEY 2GETHER U CANT DO ANYTHING CUZ THEIR HAPPY N A REAL FRIEND WOULDNT **** IT ALL UP.SO DONT BULLSHIT WITH THEY RELATIONSHIP!
2007-02-24 03:49:22 · answer #10 · answered by Jasmin H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋