We've been together for at least 12 years already. I am 33 years old and she is 31 years old. we love each other so much. I wouldn't think of breaking up with her. I am willing to spend the rest of my life with her. I have 1 kid with her. I know that is out of wedlock, but isn't marriage only a legal document? why do i need to sign it just to prove our love and commitment? We can show our love and commitment without the marraige ceremony.
2007-02-24 03:32:50 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Bro!!
Marriage is so very imortant. it shows a committment not only to your wife, but alos it is a covenant that is unbreakable. God promises to bless marriage, and it is so awesome to know that you are in a committed relationship.
Man, I know it is a scarey thing, but dont you think she deserves it, and isnt she worth your best?
I want to encourage you bro, step up!
your child deserves the honor of having respectable parents who are in a legal, godly, and honest marriage.
dont be scared man.
let me know if this helps, and I am praying for your family.
j-
2007-02-24 03:54:59 · answer #1 · answered by spokenwordz03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're completely right- marriage is more for the legal bond than the bond between your spouse. You don't need to get married, but if you feel it's necessary to go through the ceremony, then go ahead. True marriage is felt between two people. You don't need to sign to prove your love and commitment, because you already have proved that. If you still need more advice, talk to your spouse about it.
2007-02-24 11:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by D.G. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is the one who is wanting this commitment and you do not, I think you need to tell her you never intend to become married so she can decide if she wants to stay in the relationship. But, you have been with her so long, why on earth would it hurt you to marry this woman? I don't advocate marriage, but if you intend to remain with her and love her, then you need to do this for her and her alone.
p.s., As soon as the license is signed, everything will change. Trust me. You know this and this is why you are avoiding the legal aspect.
2007-02-24 11:39:47 · answer #3 · answered by Lois M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is more than a legal document. It is a public declaration of your "oneness". It is also important legally regarding your child. Sounds like someone is scared of marriage. Bet your parents gt divorced.
2007-02-24 11:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by mystery_me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can do a type of ceremony that is not by law binding but is spiritually, and in the eyes of the community. It can be like a hand-fasting or Native American, or Celtic.. most cultures have something similar.
Ray
2007-02-24 11:38:48 · answer #5 · answered by garbhgealach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not that important i don't think i want to get married either. its just some silly paper that makes it "official" even though if ur with a person for more than five years ur technically married.
2007-02-24 11:37:30 · answer #6 · answered by ipfreely91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so here's the question... why DON"T you want to. just to be a rebel? is that really a reason? you shouldn't do it if you don't want to of course. but can you think of another way to show it? something big? that says as much?
2007-02-24 11:39:46 · answer #7 · answered by fullofsugaw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to because that just how it is, and because if you want to keep her, you should do it, yea i know you guys think your freedoms lost but if u only want to be with her, who cares right?
2007-02-24 11:36:26 · answer #8 · answered by Skye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will marry for your kid, to get legal parent
2007-02-24 11:37:03 · answer #9 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋