We've been together for at least 12 years already. I am 33 years old and she is 31 years old. we love each other so much. I wouldn't think of breaking up with her. I am willing to spend the rest of my life with her. I have 1 kid with her. I know that is out of wedlock, but isn't marriage only a legal document? why do i need to sign it just to prove our love and commitment? We can show our love and commitment without the marraige ceremony.
2007-02-24 03:32:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
In your words "Isn't marriage only a legal document?" Well, yes! and a very important one. Does a couple have to get married to prove love and commitment? No, but I ask you this....if you've been with her 12 years already, have a child with her and would never think of breaking up with her...why not get married?
People who deep down are afraid of TOTAL commitment, despite what they say, use "marriage is only a legal document" excuse all of the time. Does your girlfriend want to get married? Most girls dream of their wedding day...the one day in their life that they are "THE" center of attention....a Princess for a day.
Plus, (and this is only my opinion) When a couple gets married, they go before God and vow their love & devotion and to me..that's important. Having a wedding/marriage is a ceremonial event. Family and friends gather to witness and celebrate the love you two have for each other.
Not being legally married can present a lot of headaches should one of you die. As part of an unwed couple, you usually don't have an automatic right to inherit property, as a spouse does. And if you're unable to make decisions for yourself, your partner won't automatically have a say in your medical care and financial affairs.
This means that without smart financial planning, your family members will typically have a greater right to make decisions for you and to inherit your assets than your partner will, even if you haven't seen your relatives in 10 years and your relationship is about as close as the one you have with your mailman.
2007-02-24 04:33:20 · answer #1 · answered by Riviera_ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to spend the rest of your life with her what's the big deal? Being married is more than having a legal document. It isn't about proving your love or having a legal document as much as it is having a ceremony for the two of you to enjoy and remember and to be able to call each other husband and wife. It's a state of mind, really.
2007-02-24 03:43:06 · answer #2 · answered by lysistrata411 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dedication is significant, as is having sufficient human beings to safeguard the financial and emotional desires of the little ones. Marriage was once a thank you to assure the dedication of the daddy, yet i do no longer think of this is to any extent further genuine. some women human beings discover themselves helping no longer in hassle-free terms their little ones yet additionally their father. Marriage isn't a magic spell that turns them into in charge human beings. at an analogous time as many men are sturdy husbands or fathers, there are some who could be a adverse factor interior the lives of their little ones -- people who're on drugs, are alcoholic, have offender inclinations, and so on. In those circumstances the mum and young little ones could be greater advantageous off on my own, optimistically getting help from nuclear family individuals.
2016-09-29 13:39:17 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage doesn't have to be a ceremony, it can be just a legal document, but a very important legal document. if you are willing to spend the rest of your lives together, you might as well reap the benefits of a married couple (which you essentially are). what about the tax deduction? what about both of you being on one employers helath insurance? what if (god forbid) something happens to one of you. you have no legal right to each other unless it is in your will.
my point is, it doesn't have to be this big white dress fancy affair if you don't want it to be, but financially, it just makes more sense!
2007-02-25 17:52:10 · answer #4 · answered by mrskumar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally say yes, marriage is important. Its not about what the state says, who cares. I think its more about standing up and pledging to be committed before each other, God (if thats your thing), and family and friends. Getting married is an action you show each other to say you love your partner and are committed. Those are my thoughts.
2007-02-24 05:06:42 · answer #5 · answered by mizkayte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If one of you wants to get married, then yes, you all should get married. Personally, I believe in marriage and getting married is one of the ultimate acts of being committed to each other. Marriage declares to the world that you are seriously committed to each other. Imagine when you are introducing each other to strangers... This is my wife or this is my (live-in) girlfriend. Which sounds more serious? Good luck!
2007-02-24 05:45:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can. But when you get married especially if it's before a crowd you are not only telling her of your commitment to her/each other but your friends and family and in a formal fashion.
2007-02-24 04:12:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All a marriage is a little piece of paper that says you love the person. If you dont want to get married then dont. You dont need a piece of paper to prove your love.
2007-02-24 05:22:26 · answer #8 · answered by angel01182 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage should be a two year contract. Renew or not at the option of either party.
2007-02-24 03:44:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so if the piece of paper isn't that important why are you balking at getting one?
if you are going to spend the rest of your life with her why are you balking at a simple ceremony?
if you love her so very much why are you balking at giving her the respect she deserves, along with your last name?
obviously its up to the two of you, but you did ask, so just friggin' get married, make sure your kid has your last name as well, and get on with life!
its called ................. growing up...........try it!
2007-02-27 18:28:10 · answer #10 · answered by tess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋