It seems to me that some people get their kicks by terrifying pregnant women with horror stories about labor. At 41 weeks pregnant, I do not need to hear about anyone's 3 day labor, or someone who was refused an epidural, or someone who had to be induced 4 times before it worked, or someone whose baby was injured during delivery.
What is wrong with these people? What is a polite yet firm way to say, "Please shut up and think before you speak." ?
2007-02-24 03:16:38 · 12 answers · asked by ♥Lucky♥ 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
PS - I am refering to friends, family and people I know. For questions I ask on this site, however, I am prepared for the truth even if it hurts.
2007-02-24 03:31:45 · update #1
No matter what you go through....it is all easily forgotten once you hold your precious baby in your arms. Hope that thought gives you the comfort you are seeking.
As for the horror stories you've heard...just tell them only share good stories....
2007-02-24 03:21:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only way you can know for sure if you've had a miscarriage is to go see a doctor. Most people don't start seeing their stomach get bigger until about 4 months along. But, the fact that you're bleeding isn't good. If for some reason you can't see a doctor, at least take a pregnancy test. I did see on Discovery Health channel a girl that was bleeding after she thought she had a miscarriage and it turned out to be an ectopic pregnancy which can be fatal so you MUST contact a doctor immediately. I don't mean to scare you but it's better to be safe than sorry.
2016-05-24 05:52:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL, first--I've read a lot of answers on this site, and while many are scary, only about half of them are 'truth'!! :P
I know exactly what you mean. There was one particular person during my last pregnancy who just LOVED telling me the most gruesome miscarriage & stillbirth stories she knew. I don't think it was conscious, really, I think in her particular case (it was a relative) she was concerned about these things and just didn't have the sense to keep it to her self.
From other people, though--some people are just stupid, really. I didn't show until late with my last baby, and one lady [who had miscarried several times herself, including one very late, so there was no excuse for her stupidity] actually looked at me and said "You're too small for five months. Are you sure there's not something wrong with your baby? it could be dead or anything."
As for polite ways to deal with it ... some people just can't take a hint, so you may be forced to say 'You know, I really don't want to hear about this right now. Do you know any happy pregnancy stories? If not, then let's talk about something else." If they get offended, then they deserve it--they should have had enough common sense to keep their horror stories to themselves.
Good luck!
[PS--my son was nearly three weeks late. The nurse had screwed up my due date on my chart, so my doctor didn't realize how late he actually was. He is now and exceptionally healthy and happy 27 month old, so don't let people tell you that you're 'overdue' and that will cause problems. As long as your baby is still passing his/her kick counts, you're good to go!! Good luck!]
2007-02-24 05:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by Christal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why people don't think before opening their mouths when talking about labor & giving birth. They don't stop & think how frightening their stories are for soon-to-be-moms, especially first time moms. You just have to ignore their ignorance & walk away. If you're here asking questions about birth & labor, just remember, not all women will paint a picture of roses, so maybe you should refrain from asking questions here. If you are in the company of family, friends, etc., when the horror stories begin, just walk away, or tell them you don't really wish to hear it. Don't worry about being polite because they weren't worried about your feelings when telling their horror stories were they?
You'll do just fine through your labor & delivery!!!
2007-02-24 03:29:27 · answer #4 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep in mind people usually exaggerate when recounting a personal experience especially when it concerns childbirth. i guess women need to feel they have to make things sound worse to be more of a women or beat out someone else's experience. with my first all i ever heard was horror stories and i like you did not want to hear it. although some women do have horror stories to tell it seems inappropriate to freak an expecting mother out in her last trimester. just tell them you are a little freaked out already and do not need scary stories to perpetuate that feeling. it is funny to because after my first was born those same women with horror stories would say "oh, now it wasn't that bad was it" like your experience is somehow beneath theirs. labor and delivery is different for everyone and depends alot on you threshold for pain. the medical field has improved alot as well. you will do fine and no matter how easy or difficult it may be it will be an experience unique to you.
2007-02-24 03:36:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had 2 amazing labors - no medications, and two beautiful and healthy girls. You only hear about the horror stories - but of course people don't talk about the wonderful experiences.
Take all the fear out of your mind - embrace your labor - it is your time, and you owe it to your baby to tell those other people to keep their mouth shut!
Good luck!!
2007-02-24 04:47:36 · answer #6 · answered by jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They all do it. If it makes you feel any better I had 2 hour labors with all kids, very quick. It could happen to you! I heard so many horror stories and really none of them came close to what I went through but they certainly do scare the crap out of you!
2007-02-24 09:10:20 · answer #7 · answered by momofthreemiracles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could tell them you'd rather not talk about it. Some people will anyway, so with them, I just politely ignored them or walked away. If they think you're rude, that's their problem.
BTW...I had a relatively easy delivery with my daughter. Sure it hurt, but it was over in about 5 hours and then I got to hold my beautiful baby girl. I hope yours goes quickly and easily, too.
2007-02-24 03:24:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think they do it to be nasty, I think they are just preparing you for the pain that will be there, you should be prepared for labor. Just tell them politely that not everyones experience with labor is the same and you would prefer not to hear it at this time.
2007-02-24 03:57:16 · answer #9 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be honest and open with them and tell them that you don't want to hear any horror story. That you really don't need to hear it. you will be fine during delivering your child and everything will be fine. and once you have your baby in your arms. it is worth every thing in the world. good luck.
2007-02-24 03:25:18 · answer #10 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋