For God's sake pls help me?

Question

Does she like me?Me and my fren (girl) have been very close. I once told her my feelings. And since then, we've really came to a stage where we were more than friends(but not couples). She is 1 year older than me and therefore moving overseas to study. B4 she left, i asked her out just to meet up but she said she will contact me later since she was bz with Xmas. But since Christmas Eve, i have not seen her or even heard a word from her. She has left somewhere else to study..., i sent her a mail and i even called her on new year asking her to come down from her home. But i couldnt get thru to her phone. Unfortunately, i still have not heard a word from her till last month when she sent me a mail. It was abt her life overseas. She said she may reply me late but somehow she will find time, so she asked me to keep emailing her. I dont know if i shud ask her about the outing we were supposed to go and i dont know if i shud reply her b/c of wat happened( the outing and not talking to me

Answer 1

It's obvious that she is very busy or does not feel that same way about you as you appear to feel about her.

Perhaps you need to find friends to help keep you busy until she has time for you. Or perhaps find someone else to be attracted too.

It sounds like you are desperate and are bordering on becoming obsessed with this one person. Not good. No one should have that much influence on another persons behavior.

Answer 2

That is a clasic, my man, and the thing is that you, as many guys, are ignoring something. You told your feelings. When you said that to a woman that only sees you as a friend, you're screwed because you put yourself from the inofensive guy that she can hang out with with no worries "just friends" to the guy that is now haressing her. And all the things you think is gonna help to get closer to her is actually the opposite because she's not interested. as you can tell from her being busy and her I don't have time for you. When you tell your feeling, email her, call her, give presents, show that you care, you are actually making things worse as you can see. All these things sound to her like begging and needyness and for them that is eww. That is not attractive, to women that is a very efficient repelent. What you should do is make a whole of yourself, show yourself to her confident, that you are not needy and that you don't need to see her, that you are fine with out her. Don't tell your feelings and don't show that you care, show that you can handle her decision and that you can also get any woman any time (don't make up stories trying to make her feel jelous, women can smell that miles away) show that you are a man that is not defeated for things like this, you are strong. Woman like that, they like challenges, they like what they cannot have. They don't like guys that beg. When you are talking to her, talk very casual don't ever mention your feelings, make her laugh have a good time and when things are going good just say oh I gotta go and leave. Don't ask her out just say "it was nice to see you" "it was a good time" be cool and leave. This will create anticipation and if you show yourself like a man, then it will become attraction. The key concept here is the more you want it, the less you'll have it. The less you want it, the more you'll have it. And believe me that is how things work in women's world, even when you wanna get laid or when you wanna please her sexually, I mean get her to have an orgasm. I hope this can help a little. Good luck.

Answer 3

Your question isn't urgent, so doesn't need the dramatic headline.
Do what you want to do. It's obvious she is caught up in her new life, is very busy and doesn't have a lot of time. You aren't a priority in her life. It sounds like she'd like to remain friends, but isn't interested in anything more than that. So what you do is up to you. If you want to maintain contact, write to her.

As for the outing you didn't have...why bother to ask about it? She's busy, she had a lot to do and you weren't one of her top priorities or she would have made time to see you. It sounds as though you should find some other exciting things to do in your life; if you and she meet up at a later date, you can pick up where you left off, if she's interested (which I'm willing to bet she will not be).
For your own mental health, I suggest you forget about the girl and branch out and find other friends and a nice girl who will be interested in you romantically. You are wasting your time if you're planning a serious relationship with this girl.

Answer 4

Long distance relationships don't usually work out. In your case she sounds as though YOU are the last thing on her list. I believe the best thing for you is to not keep in touch as much. Put her as your last priority like she has placed you. This is a sad situation because you are more in love with her than she is with you. I think your heart will only end up getting hurt in the long run. There are many females out there so find one that gives you the same time of day that you give them. You must feel top priority with a person meaning that your loved and cared about. Hope this helps you to move on. Cocoa

Answer 5

First, take a course in English grammar! Your spelling is atrocious! Second, it sounds like this girl is not interested in you, romantically. If she wanted to be anything more than friends, she would be making more of an effort to communicate with you. Since she has not, I think the message is pretty clear. She wants you to back off. Give her some space. If she wants a romance, she'll let you know when she's ready. If not, then find another girl closer to home.

Answer 6

Don't worry...she would probably never have any real interest in you. You're a year younger than a girl who's overseas and apparently in college. That makes you old enough to complete rational sentences and form whole thoughts.

She is, more than likely, interested in someone who could carry on a conversation and spell correctly.

Have a nice life being so very alone.

Answer 7

No, she doesn't like you. Sorry to sound harsh but women will do AMAZING things for love (more so and more often than men) and it sounds to me like she's focused on her education not dating right now. Which... is what she should be doing. Find another girl here, don't get serious, get a job, get an education and then get a better job. Good luck.

Slainte,

-D

Answer 8

I think she just wants to be friends with you and she has someone else right, so just be her friend and don't worry about her not getting back.
you should go get you a girl and not worry about you friends girl, i think she is content with her relationship with the other guy and just really wants you to be her friend.
get out there and get you a girl
there is one out there that is just for you

Answer 9

my friend! stay in control! definately reply but act as if nothing is bothering you, still show that you care in what she is doing but don't talk about anything deeper than that until she brings it up. then you'll know.

Answer 10

Maybe she has a hard time letting you know she isn't interested in that way and doesn't wish to hurt your feelings.