how do i get my girlfriend to open up and talk to me about whats on her mind?

Question

everytime she say that she is sad i ask her whats wrong and she always say nothing or "i dont want to talk about it". she never opens herself to me. how do help her when she is sad if she never tells me how she feels.

Answer 1

hmmmm... it seems to me like she is afraid to share her feelings with you because she is scared to see your reaction. If I were you, next time she says shes sad ask her whats wrong. When she says nothing, or I dont wanna talk about it, say okay thats "fine, I just wanna let you know that you can tell me anything in the world, you dont have to be scared!" This will make her feel confortable around you. HOPE THIS HELPS!

Answer 2

Ask yourself,do u tell her how U feel? Do U open up 2 her. She might not want 2 talk about it in public,so go somewhere and talk. Tell her that u r worried about her and want 2 know what's going on in HER life,good or bad. Tell her that U will help her through it the best way as U can. And ALWAYS be there for her. I'm a girl, and I wish that a guy would open up 2 me when he feels bad,it'll give me,or her, more confidence. Hope this helps. Best of luck!

Answer 3

awww. Unfortunately there realy isn't anything you can do to get her to open up to you. If you keep pressing the issue it is likely that she will become annoyed. She has to feel comfortable enough, emotionally anyway, to tell you what's going on.

What's bothering her may not be something you consider significate but whatever it is for her it's a big deal. So when she does tell you just becareful what you say.

Let her know you're there if she ever wants to talk and she will open up to you in time, as long as she doesn't feel presured to.

Good luck.

Answer 4

I think for sure, before this she did tell you her problem. Some how or rather the way tht you solve the problem she wont like it at all. As a bf, next time just give be a good listener, try to help with listen only, unless if she ask for a opinion then you give one. dont get angry over the problem that she telling you. Be a good bf by caring. Dont easily get mad or stress. Maybe thats one of the reason y she dont want to talk about her problem anymore.
Another thing is, try to talk to her more about yrself, about yr problem in you, give her the trust, by doing this, maybe she knows that you do trust her, and willing to share everything with you. Later maybe she would like to share her problem with you.

Answer 5

Take it step by step. I usually talk to people like that, and eventually they open up to me like you have NO IDEA. lol.
Give her a little time (even though maybe you already have). Tell her, "Look, I won't force you to tell me anything, but just know that I actually care about what's making you feel like that, and I wish you'd trust me enough to tell me". It's just an idea of what you could say. Maybe you're not that kind of guy. But tell her something that would let her know you care a lot for her, and that you'd be willing to listen, even if helping her was out of your hands. Try it, it will take more time, but its worth it cause in the end she will confide in you, and you guys will be closer :)

Answer 6

just tell her that it 's killing u to see her sad like that and u would do anything in ur power to help her, but she is killing u by shutting u in her life. tell her I'm ur boyfriend and communication is the key in a relationship if u don't talk to me how am i suppose to help u. i mean u don't have to tell me every details, but at least don't leave me hanging like that. i 'm with u , but sometimes i feel like I'm not with u since i don't know what is going on inside ur head. i mean i would love to guess, but i can't read ur mind. if ever u want to get serious with me u gonna have to change that part because i would be ur husband and husband and wife are suppose to communicate. give her that speech to see if she will change, and if she don't change that means she doesn't care about u at all she is just a selfish cow. u might as well let her die in her miseries.

Answer 7

Don't pressure her into saying anything she doesn't want to talk about. She'll see you as pushy, so therefore won't ever talk about anything. If you give her some time, she'll come around.

Also, if you open up to her even if she doesn't ask about it, she'll see that you can trust her and that she can trust you. It may not work right away, but give it time and she'll start pouring out her heart to you! <3

Answer 8

She may not want help at the moment, she seems to be reflecting. Just leave her alone and act normal. She will come and speak to you when she is ready to. Just let her know you are there for her when she needs you!

Answer 9

why don't you tell her what you told us? Tell her you want to help her when she is sad, but you can't if she never tells you how she feels. make it all about her... show her you really do care. let her know you are there for her... but don't push if she is really not ready to share. i am that type myself... sometimes i want to share and can't, and sometimes i will take it with me to my grave! lol! but seriously, just knowing that you want to help and make her feel good will make a difference to her!

Answer 10

u just have to b sweet 2 her nd b wid her wen she is sad...even if she doesnt tell u u just b wid her mayb its smthn dat she wud like to tell u wen she fully trusts u??? u just b close 2 her nd b sweet 2 her so dat u earn dat trust...accordin to d book 'men r 4m mars nd women r 4m venus'..its in d gals philosophy dat she wants her lover 2 b wid her whenever she s feeling low..its d other way round 4 men..u must hav seen dat u want 2 b alone wen u feel low..but wid women its not dat...u just hav 2 giv her all ur love nd shell confide all her secrets in u...u can bet me on dat....hope dis helps...