There is a mutual attraction between me and my boss. However, I can't stop thinking about how a possible relationship with him could actually ruin my future if it doesn't turn out well. This is actually my first job and I don't want to lose it but so far I've found it very difficult to find someone I like and admire to be attracted to me as well, so I wouldn't like to throw this chance away too. What do you think I should do?
2007-02-24 03:05:43 · 10 answers · asked by maggie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi Maggie! I'm sure you'll get a million different responses from this one ranging from "I married my boss!" to "I got fired after we broke up!" I've dated a co-worker twice and a professor for one of my classes (way back when) once. None of them turned out "well" but I do have to say none were horrid. The worst part of dating someone you work with is that if it goes wrong you have to see them *every day, all day*! In addition, its hard when dating someone in a position of power to keep it "on the level" during the work day. The one side effect you may not have thought of is how co-workers may come to resent you if they find out - and odds are they will find out. No matter how hard you're working, you will always be looked at as "teacher's pet".
Bottom line is that it really depends on you and your feelings. If this is your dream job and your feelings for the guy are just "I wonder if" then my advice (for what its worth) would be to think long and hard. If your job is just a job (you could find something else if you absolutely had to tomorrow) and you really could see a future with this person - when you're being honest with yourself - I'd say maybe its worth a go. Be careful though that when weighing your options you don't get wrapped up in the romanticism of the "forbidden fruit" which makes you feel that this is more exciting and desireable then it would be if he wasn't a boss or co-worker. Would you *really* dig this guy if you met him at the grocery store or out at bar?
Good luck to you!
2007-02-24 03:15:23 · answer #1 · answered by Coco's Mommy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation but I was the boss. It was an instant attraction and we dated for about a year. Everythign was wonderful and even after we broke up we stayed friends. It can work..... It will not be easy as you do not want you co-worker to know you are dating so at work you can not show emotion but yes ic can and it has worked so I say go for it
2007-02-24 03:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by Mike 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would never ever go out with anyone I worked with because it would eventually end up jeopardizing my job. If it turned out well, everyone would say that the only reason i still worked there was because i was dating such and such, and if it ended badly then I would probably either get fired because they didn't want to see me any more, not even in the work place, or I would quit because I couldn't handle working with them, after knowing how things ended. Trust me, it's a bad idea.
2007-02-24 03:12:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My moms and dads we are in a lengthy-distance relationship for truly a at the same time as. My mom lived interior the Philipines, and my father lived in u.s.. They met over the phone and take to at least one yet another truly nicely, and obviously, because i'm the following, it worked out. yet, it really is a higher fail fee then a actual relationship for positive, they must be comitted, and in a position to pass for the longer time period, or it in simple terms gained't artwork. And for faculty youthful ones i'm gonna say it really is likely gonna be a no because you're so youthful.
2016-12-04 21:30:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think if you like the job and the relationship turns sour could you still work with him???Most relationships work because you spend time apart if you are spending all your time toger at work and at home you might get into arguements that wouldn't normally crop up..
2007-02-24 03:10:33 · answer #5 · answered by londonletch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NEVER date a boss! no matter what it could not be good!
If you do have a good relationship it could turn out not a good wook invorment, and if the relationship does not work out it could be the end of your job!
2007-02-24 03:10:02 · answer #6 · answered by sexy momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been ther and had it happen a few times, I can tell you that it is hard but if you really like each other it's worth a try!
2007-02-24 03:08:44 · answer #7 · answered by Dayschris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very careful there.
2007-02-24 03:09:01 · answer #8 · answered by little_friend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahahaaaa... disaster!
the come awkwardnes after it goes sour..
2007-02-24 03:09:20 · answer #9 · answered by SGPearlGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't go there, don't mix busness and pleasure.
2007-02-24 03:08:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋