Okay here's my story. I am 15 and i was going out with a guy for a year and he was my first and i really did love him and he loved me at first and then he cheats on me out of the blue and i really want to forgive him cause u kno we're young and everyone makes mistakes but i just can't get over the fact that he did that to me. But he wants to be friends but i just don't know how to be friends with someone i had so much love for. so what's a gurl to do?
2007-02-24 02:55:16 · 12 answers · asked by Destinee S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's a cheater move on with u're life.
2007-02-24 02:59:31 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth. That you can't be friends with someone you have/had love for. Just make it a clean break so you can get over him and move on to find someone who won't cheat on you.
By the way, once a cheater - always a cheater. Age has nothing to do with it. Calling his cheating a "mistake" shows just how young you are. Cheating is never a mistake. It's a choice. And if you continue to see cheating as a mistake then you are in for a long life of heartbreak after heartbreak.
Girls who have low self esteem are usually the ones who call cheating a "mistake".
2007-02-24 11:03:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take some time apart from each other because the more you hangout (being "just friends" or not), the harder it is.
I had the same thing happen to me, my boyfriend cheated on me, I forgave him, and we stayed together. We should've broke up then because the trust was broken between us. You have to have trust to have a healthy relationship.
Besides, the two of you are young and there are plenty of other guys for you to meet and start a relationship with.
2007-02-24 11:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by JLW74033 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated on you, take that as a mean way of saying, "It's over." Yes, he may have loved you, but that can't change the fact that he did what he did. And if you tell him that forgive him and want to get back together, he'll see as weak and insecure, then most likely cheat on you again, knowing that you'll forgive him and take him back. My saying for these things goes like this, "If it didn't work once, it won't work again." Sorry, chica, but it may be time to say bye-bye to your boo. <3
2007-02-24 11:03:35 · answer #4 · answered by The Prep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to be friends with someone u love. And if they dont love u in return its worse. I have been inlove with a guy for over a year. we both made mistakes and i tld him that i just wanted to be freinds.. its been over 6 months since we broke up and it still hurts to talk or see him.. i tol dhim that i didnt think i could be friends with him because i still have feeings for him and that it hurts when hes around. We made an agreement to try again. Again it didnt work so now we onl emal eachother to say happy b-day or on special occations. it hurts to let them go. but it hurts more to be friends and prettend u dont feel how u do. But ur still young. Maybe it will be diffrent for u
2007-02-24 11:05:44 · answer #5 · answered by angeliss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes things just weren't meant to be. chances are that you won't end up happily ever after with your 1st boyfriend. *i believe that you have boyfriends that dont work out, so you can learn and gain experience for when you do find mr. right.* if you feel like you can't be "just friends" then dont feel obligated to be. plus, focusing on boys too much is never good... education comes first. there will be other boys, and adventually men or a man. just remember to keep YOU happy because he didn't do that when he cheated right? best of luck.
2007-02-24 11:01:42 · answer #6 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand where you are coming from. In your life time there are one or two people that after you have loved them, it is impossible to just be their friend, because everytime that you get around them, you can't help but think about what you two shared when you were together, and all it does is bring you pain.
2007-02-24 11:05:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well be friends and see how that goes
I was friends with my first long term relationship for like forever.
he helped me when I had other trouble all through my life. He was truly my best friend until I met my husband.
We have both moved on with our lives now but I am sure if we see each other we would talk forever.
so friends can be a good thing
2007-02-24 11:06:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By first I pray you do not mean sexual partner. You are better off being just friends. Your sexual health is important. At your age you may want to consider just being friends so you will be aware of how to interact with the opposite sex by the time you are away at college. Just try it.
2007-02-24 11:00:07 · answer #9 · answered by the Goddess Angel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your story is similiar with mine. It's very hard to be friends with someone you loved so much. My suggestion is don't be friends, because it will eventually hurt yourself more. You can be friends with him later when you don't love him anymore. Trust me, it's my own experience! I hope you can move on soon. But if you did love him very much, it normally takes about 2 years to really over with the one you did love. It's really hard.
2007-02-24 10:59:12 · answer #10 · answered by eggyaya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater always a cheater
and would you want to be w/ some1 knowin that he hurt u and might do it again?
honestly
i wouldnt
id break it off and find someone worht my time
2007-02-24 10:58:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋