Do shy people have a less chance of getting a boyfriend?

Question

I like this guy and I'm shy. Is this a turn off to most guys, why and how do I build more confidence for myself if it is?

Answer 1

i think shy girls are in good hands, girls just need to look good and guys will flock at them. shy guys have more trouble getting girls

Answer 2

As a girl, there is something you've gotta possess in order to get a boyfriend:

1. Beauty
2. Intelligence
3. Money
4. Something nobody else's got but you

You know what I am saying?
If you think you are too shy, it is ok if you possess any one of these things listed above. But, if you don't, being too shy could be a barrier that keeps you from guys. If you possess one of those assets (or more) and also this certain degree of shyness, I can say you can be a very very attractive lady.

I believe your issue now is that you are not confident enough, as you say, to not be that shy. Therefore, you've gotta get yourself something you are proud of and make it as one of your assets. Beauty, money and being clever are certainly something everyone knows girls have to possess. However, you should know that that shyness sometimes can also be your weapon! Of course, you will have to learn how to apply this weapon first. What I'm saying is that you, firstly, gotta perceive that now you have already got a potential weapon. Secondly, the way in which you use this weapon could also be an X-factor that affects your chance of getting not only a boyfriend, but also some male friends.

Do remember, there is no absolute rule of how to get yourself a boyfriend. Sometimes one guy loving you doesn't mean that another guy would love you for the same reason. So be aware what type of boys who catch your eye actually are. Focus on yourself more than on others. Be exactly who you always are. Natural girls, I can say, always catch males' eye.

Answer 3

I like shy girls. In the end, I've dated the less shy girl because I never knew that the shy girl liked me. I like a girl but I never asked her out because I didn't think she liked me. I found out later that she had a big crush on me but she was too shy to tell me. If I wasn't too shy myself, I would have asked her out.
Most shy people open up once you get to know them. The hardest part is taking the first step.

If you want him to take an interest in you, give him attention. Don't look away when he looks at you. If you are talking you can smile and look down in a cute way but then make eye contact again. It will make him think. :) Use your shyness to your advantage. Make him food or give him a snack or something. Little things like that mean more than you might think. It worked on me. :)
Another thing, smile a lot! Even if you are too shy to talk, just smile. I know a girl that is very shy but she is always smiling and she is so cute. :) Because she is always smiling, she is nice to be around. I always feel happier when I see her. If hanging out with you makes him feel happy, then he will want to hang out with you more.
Don't avoid him. If you avoid him, he may think you don't like him

Never do something that you think is wrong because you want someone to like you. Being shy means you probably not like all the other girls and that is a good thing, trust me. If he just wants to take advantage of you, let him have those other girls.

Being shy is not a turn off. It can actually be a turn on. Just because you are too shy to be the center of attention doesn't mean you wont have his attention. Being shy just means that you have to do things a little differently.

Answer 4

It is no more a turn off than a shy guy having the same problems
,but yet I see people detour a shy guy/girl all the time for the more outgoing ones and getting burned
I wonder when people are going to start seeing us shy people for what we really are.

Answer 5

For some guys...shyness is wonderful!!! I love being around shy girls! But most guys just 'shy' away from them due to personality conflict. Being outgoing for one and shyness from the other sometimes don't always work out. But you just need to build your confidence and always be positive! If you cannot feel good and positive about yourself, how will others feel that way for you in return? I think people are wonderful, regardless. Shyness just means that the other person just needs to be more patient to allow the shy person to blossom into that vibrant being what is still hidden away inside.

Good luck...

=)

Answer 6

I don't think so! Unless they want the most outgoing, life-of-the-party kind of guy, they'll find somebody who is right for them, such as another person who is shy. You'll attract the people most like you, or as the saying goes, opposites attract could happen, too. For some guys, it may be a turnoff, but others it may be a total turnon. <3

Answer 7

it has both side some boys i think like guls who r shy ,n some don, so don worry for this its jus a part of once nature n ppal do like this characterstic to some extend in everyone,u jus need to wait for the rite one who could love this in u . n yes wait for the rite time,if u can not wait then the best is let him know somehow wats in ur mind ,the query u have here ,y not try n share it with him...

Answer 8

yes they do! however...its also a good thing!

by being shy only the people who are really interested you and really like you will put in the effort to actually get you.

so you would miss out all the nasty cheats and low lifes who go out with the slutty outspoken people!

its always good to be shy!xx

Answer 9

listen you just have to go after it love is stronger than any shyness ever and if you wait you may loose your chance just practice in the mirror what you will say to him good luck

Answer 10

it might have a factor to it, but there are plenty of guys who like the quiet shy girls. good luck!