Marriage is only legal documents. It is nothing. I would never hope to get married. I would be willing to spend the rest of my life with my girl though. she's getting mad at me for not wanting to marrying her. I love her so much. We are at the proper age limit (24+). Why is marriage so important? If it commitment problems, I am fully committed to her. I would still look at other women but not do anything about it. I wonder if that is okay. and plus, if the relationship breaks off and didn't have any kids, I can get off scott-free without paying her if the relationship go bad.
2007-02-24 02:25:10 · 13 answers · asked by Mr Guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you don't get it yet, you sure as heck ain't gonna get "it", ever!?!?
All the best!
Cheers!
ST
2007-02-24 02:34:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your last sentence says it all. You say you would be willing to spend the rest of your life with your girl, but at the same time you are looking at the fact that you could get off scott free if it were to end. When you get married you are saying you are willing to put yourself in a position where you can't so easily walk away. You are also saying that you are looking to a future where you will spend your life together. The way you seem to be looking at it is you are willing to spend your life with her unless something happens and then you can just walk away and not have to worry about alimony. If you are already preparing for the possibility of it falling apart, then chances are pretty good it will. I will tell you now, if your views on marriage are this different, its probably not going to last. If you don't show you are willing to make that committment to her, she will probably at some point get tired of waiting and leave - she would be well within her rights to do so because she deserves to be in a relationship where she and her partner are on the same page. Well, for that matter you deserve that as well. Don't marry her just to make her happy if that is not what you want - you may end up resenting her and you will both be miserable. I think the two of you should sit down and have a serious discussion about this. It may be time to re-evaluate your relationship.
2007-02-24 03:53:00 · answer #2 · answered by Marijane K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love her enough to marry her, then you don't love her. Marriage IS a big deal. I used to not want to get married, then I found the "right" guy. We have been together ever since, 6 years, but have only been married for less than 2. It took a lot for him to get me to the alter. I went though. Because, I love him and I want to spend the rest of my life with him and he with me. I don't want an easy out. That''s not what love is all about. It's is about so much more. If you can't see that then you need to do her a favor, that she won't understand for quite some time, and leave her. She deserves better.
2007-02-24 05:38:12 · answer #3 · answered by Steff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is an outward expression of our love for one another. I love being married to my husband. We love one another more than anything else in this world. Our wedding was a private, family only ceremony. We didn't do it for everyone else...we did it for us. It sounds like you are afraid of it ending... I can tell you that if you don't marry this girl... she will marry someone else. To women, it is a sign of your devotion, commitment, and love for us. Oh, by the way... if the relationship goes bad... by law she is still entitled to half of everything that she has helped purchase. If the two of you buy property or a home... in the end, she gets whatever she put in it. Good luck.
2007-02-24 16:47:55 · answer #4 · answered by mrslang1976 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is very important because you promise to one-another infront of a man of God (supposedly) or a judge to love, trust, honor, and commit to each-other untill one of you dies. The bible says "a man who find'eth a wife find'eth a good thing. ya'll should talk about what life would be like as a married couple : where you'd live, your careers, sex, any children, inlaws, talk about what ya'll would expect from one another. And ya'll should try every thing to fix problems before divorcing. And it depends, if your the cause of the break-up and she's sincere the judge might rule in her favor. Or, if she needs help finacianlly and you don't, you could end up paying spousal support and in very speacial cases she could end up paying you. And if you don't propse to her soon , she might leave you. Please consider marriage, hope this helps, OH AND GOD BLESS
2007-02-24 03:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by Prosinger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weddings are important because it shows the bondage of two lovers. It shows the risks you are willing to take for your life and that you are 100% devoted to your lover. It is a chemical reaction inside you that you know you don 't care what the world thinks of you, only the one who stands next to you at the podium.
I recently went to a wake for my uncle. He and my aunt were very much in love. My aunt sat across from the casket, looking at it all night. They were both in their 70's, so being married for 40 years or so, I could see the warmth in her eyes. The way she gazed upon the casket, the way she would have when they first met. That is why you marry. You marry to finally understand love, finally put your foot down that you are ready for life with your wife.
2007-02-24 02:38:23 · answer #6 · answered by otter7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you feel that way. Marriage is ordained by God. Man just got in on the deal with the ceremonies that cost a fortune. Why would you not want to leave your mother and father and cleave unto your wife? Marriage is a great thing. Won't you reconsider? God bless you and may that wonderful person you encounter be the reason you see 'why marriage'.
2007-02-24 02:37:42 · answer #7 · answered by the Goddess Angel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with you about the issue. i mean all marriage is, is documentation. the actual wedding is all about SHOWING everyone how "in love" the two of you are. but isn't a relationship supposed to be about the 2 of you? who cares what anyone else thinks. why do you need to prove to others that you are in love? maybe you could just get her a ring to "prove" that your not going anywhere? *sigh*
2007-02-24 02:35:55 · answer #8 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women thinks if you get marriage you will not leave her alone, but that´s absurd!!! I think I can be happy with a woman for the rest of my life without marriage, my mother does!
2007-02-24 02:34:14 · answer #9 · answered by fanabus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to loose this girl. If she wants to get married and you dont, you will soon find that she wont wait around forever and she will leave you.
Good luck in your single life.
2007-02-24 02:32:20 · answer #10 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mostly every girl dreams about the perfect wedding..and im guessing she loves you and wants to spend the rest of her life with you..she's willin to commit to that..
2007-02-24 02:35:07 · answer #11 · answered by c4ndyl0v3r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋