I am pregnant and my mom trusted my boyfriend Kyle and I not to have sex, but we did and now I'm pregnant how do I tell my mom, how do I tell my boyfriend? My boyfriend and I talked about this and he said he would support me 100% but I don't want to freak him out. HELP!!!
2007-02-24 02:08:47 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
you need to tell them, preferably not while in they are in the same room. i would suggest, however, talking to a guidance counselor, priest or other trusted adult who might be able to be with you or guide you on exactly how to break the news, especially to your parent. they have experience in these matters and sometimes, it is easier when you have support of someone. whatever you do though, if you decide you want it and your boyfriend tries to wash his hands of it despite what he says (we wish him though to be a man of honour and step up to the plate for you), do not absolve him of responsibility. there is a third person involved now in your relationship with him and he must accept his part in the creation of this person coming into the world, whether he is going to be a part of the child's life or just a sperm donor financing the costs of feeding and clothing it. you will do no one any favours if you let him off-he will never learn responsibility, you and your parents will be handling the brunt of the responsibility and burden of child rearing and the child will suffer most of all by not having you around to support it emotionally because you need to support it financially.
2007-02-24 02:25:32 · answer #1 · answered by jerseydevil67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how old are you???? Teenage pregnancies can be dangerous as your body is not really ready to have a baby. So, you need to tell them as soon as possible. Tell your Mom first and get it over with. She will be hurt, but she loves you and will help you make the right decisions.
Then tell your boyfriend; I am not sure what he means by support, but you need to find out. Babies need lots of things and that costs money. It is his child too and he needs to be responsible for part of the cost. You also need emotional support from him. There is no easy way to tell either or them, so just say it. You should not be handling this alone.
Good luck
2007-02-24 02:18:59 · answer #2 · answered by Sally S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, a parent needs to understand that kids can't even begin to understand what kind of a commitment it is to promise not to have sex. Just trusting them isn't enough, they need to be educated. I believe that the sooner you tell your b/f the better. You guys can decide together when and how to tell your mom. Its rough but parents get over the shock, and most become excited once they've accepted it. Good luck and stay strong. I also reccomend knowing what you want to do about it before telling your mom.
2007-02-24 10:43:23 · answer #3 · answered by Natalie L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was going to ask how old you are but that really does not matter now does it? I agree with the tell your boyfriend first. Have you decided to keep the baby or are you thinking about adoption? It is tough to be where you are right now and I will pray for you. If my daughter was pregnant I would want to know. I would probably be really upset but bottom line you are your moms baby and she will be there for you. You will have to allow her to let off some steam at first. She will be as scared as you are at first too. Scared for you and the changes and the sacrifices you are going to have to make if you choose to raise the baby. She will have to make them also and she will. Give her some time with it. She is going to love you no matter what. Good luck.
2007-02-24 02:22:56 · answer #4 · answered by melkhel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest. Make sure it is at a good time for both don't tell them after a hard day at work, or during a disagreement. I agree with the other answer it would probably be helpful to you to tell the daddy first and then tell mom together. Good luck!
2007-02-24 02:27:41 · answer #5 · answered by Oh me oh my...♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit them down and tell them ASAP.
ADOPTION! You sound really young and not ready to be a mother. Do what's best for the baby and you. A baby needs a stable two parent home, that you can't give to them. You have your whole life ahead. You need an education and a way to support the baby. Are you ready to give up your carefree single life? It isn't fair to your mom to raise the baby since that is YOUR responsibility.
2007-02-24 02:17:00 · answer #6 · answered by Dizney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is always best. Lie now or hide it, and your trust value will not be impressive. I know its scary, but this is a major change in your life just like sex was. Stand up and face the music with pride as an adult.
2007-02-24 02:15:10 · answer #7 · answered by kericgeneric 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree with first post, tell your bf first then go to mom together, if youre having sex he should know pregnancy is a distinct possibility so he shouldnt really be "freaked out" as for your mom it might take a while but shell get over it and still love an daccept you and your baby, good luck.
2007-02-24 02:15:34 · answer #8 · answered by domsmom701 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? id tell your boyfriend first. i had to tell my parents i was pregnant at 19, they were beyond angry at first, but 3 weeks later they were the happiest ive ever seen them. they fully support my decision, and love my boyfriend.
2007-02-24 02:15:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him..then you both tell your mom, tell her you know she is going to be dissapointed but your feelings are at stake..eventually she will understand. it may take awhile but she will..tell you realize the future is going to change and you want her to be your friend and help you through this. GL
2007-02-24 02:12:35 · answer #10 · answered by Shawnaj 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋