I did fancy this girl. I think there is chemistry between us. Our relationship is hot and cold. There are times when she flirts with me alot sending me very clear signals. Then there is other times when she just confuses me. I fear she is the kind of girl who would really break a guy's heart. She flirts with alot of guys, mainly men in positions of authority. I have no authority over her and she just likes me for being me. However I think she is very manipulative and a little selfish setting out to get only what she wants in her life. She is very hippocritical judging other people very harshly yet having double standards herself. I do not think she has had a good track record with her relationships. She did a guy for allegedly harrassing her but I reckon she had a big part to blame in the whole thing. She recently dumped another boyfriend who I dont think she treated very well. I think she used me a little during this time.
2007-02-24 01:52:38 · 29 answers · asked by K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This girl is attractive and she knows it. She has been a little nasty towards me at different times. I guess that is women though. We are temproarily working together. I am quite popular and other girls show interst in me and flirt with me. At the beginning though I only had eyes for her. But now her nastyness is putting me off. I think she is a little jealous and frustrated. I also was taking it on the chin but now I am retaliating back at her. If she gives me grief i'll challenge her and I've sort of stopped being Mr nice guy. She can give grief but she cant take it. I have stopped showing interest in her and talk more to all the other girls (some of whom are quite attractive). I can see she is getting confused and annoyed at my behaviour - I guess im playing hard to get. But I fear she just wants me more if she feels I am easily available to her. And once she pulls me she'll get fed up and move on to some other poor sod.
2007-02-24 01:58:07 · update #1
Poor you! However, do not tarnish all women with the same brush. As you do not say how old you or this young lady are it is difficult to judge why she does what she does. She seems to have low self esteem and gets off on attention from the opposite sex. Quite a common factor in younger women. You seem to have figured her out well so steer clear unless you want to be another one of her victims. All said and done, there is obviously a good reason for her behaviour so don't be too harsh. Stay friends and leave it at that. Good luck finding the right woman - there are plenty out there.
2007-02-24 02:03:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With a girl of this personality, just let go! Is that she doesn't worth you spending time on her. If she is very nice, kind to you and your friends, but she already have a boyfriend and thus you 2 might end up in tears, by then you should try to start the relationship with her, yet it seems is a totally different case. So, forget about it, look for someone else who deserve love from you. Also, you are right, she might be using you, is this what you want, think twice!
2007-02-24 02:04:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should only pursue a relationship with this young lady if you want your heart broken and if you want to end up in tears. She is not ready for any kind of relationship. As far as I see, she does not really love herself and so she cannot right now be able to accept and appreciate a guy who will truly love her.
Try and find a girl who is emotionally healthy. - Leave this one alone, as I said unless you don't really like yourself that much and is willing to have a broken heart.
2007-02-24 01:57:10 · answer #3 · answered by fancyface1 l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this girl has a promiscuous track record, but all this bravado could be a front.. think about it, get to know her as a friend first ... it sounds like she has a problem letting people in, but if you act as a friend instead of a potential partner, she will probably have more time for you.. a little flirting never hurt anyone, so i wouldn't mind that..
about the sexual harassment, some men think that a look is a 'come on', so maybe this girls reputation has gone against her on this one and she could well be a victim of flirting gone too far..
if she didn't treat her recent boyfriend very well, then obviously she wasn't happy with him, and if he felt this way, maybe he should have ended it too, she was right not to keep leading him on..
dont judge this girl, get to know her..
2007-02-24 02:02:47 · answer #4 · answered by purplegal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there are HUGE sparks between you both; only you can decide what to do about it; personally, I would go for it.
Been there, done that...the guy was married, I knew all that; but oh boy, the chemistry was something else!!
I made the first move.
He responded.
We had ten months of insanity....then his wife lost a baby, and I lost my appetite for the forbidden.
I ended it.
But it was wonderful while it lasted. I have no regrets, even though there were many tears shed, mostly mine.
Call her bluff when she is next flirting with you. Ask her out.
2007-02-24 02:07:28 · answer #5 · answered by marie m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A general answer to your question is that EVERY relationship could end in tears...however people still pursue them. It seems to me, though, that it's not really worth investing your time and affection on this girl. You've seen how she is - chances are that she'll stay that way.
2007-02-24 01:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous 20-Something 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on with your life. You mention some of her qualities good and bad however remember to keep your own self esteem at a very high level. When you realize your own special qualities you will find that you are capable of gettting a person much better. Fall in love with yourself not a person who can and will hurt if given the chance. She will find out sooner or later that you are special. DROP HER LIKE SHE IS HOT' When You wake up every morning remember you are unique and special. God's gift to everyone you meet
2007-02-24 02:12:42 · answer #7 · answered by tonyward7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All i can say is you need to follow your heart. Say you didnt try to be with her, wouldnt that bother you not knowing what could of ever of come between you too? Do you believe in the saying 'its better to have love and lost than to have never loved at all'? I do, but it all depends on your heart and how you feel about it. If you give it a try and you go into it knowing that your heart may break, than it may be a tiny bit less painful because you know its eventually going to come. Who knows... it may be the complete opposite! You never know until you try! Dating is a way to learn off of other people. You learn what qualities you like and dislike in the opposite sex, and thats what you persue in your next girlfriend. Well very good luck to you and just follow your heart, have confidence and keep your head high!
2007-02-24 02:00:59 · answer #8 · answered by afireinsidexxx77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a chance....if anything keep it to a friendship at most...I just came out of something similar and have learned very clearly that if someone cannot even give you there full attention while on the phone because they are chatting on the interent at the same time...they are not likely into you as much as you might want....I would back off and see what other possibilities are out there.
All the best.
2007-02-24 01:58:01 · answer #9 · answered by Laura S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not ! You sound like a sensitive guy and if your spotting all these bad qualities about her before you get into anything can you imagine what you'd find out if you were with her ! You'd be miserable! There are loads of nice girls out there. You'll find someone who deserves you when you least expect it!
2007-02-24 01:59:52 · answer #10 · answered by sonj75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋