Would you prefer your partner to wear a condom when deflowering you the very first time?

Question

Ok this question is for ladies. Would you prefer your man to wear a condom when deflowering you the very first time? A girl told me she doesn't want to be deflowered by a guy who wears a condom cos it's DISGUSTING to break her hymen with a condom and the sex would be less intimate and she would be more relaxed to lose virginity when she's married cos it's ok to become pregnant then. What do you think?

Answer 1

There is no 'deflowering' someone a second time.

Answer 2

I dislike the world 'deflower' because it implies that after she has lost her virginity, she has become ugly/less flower. In other words, it sounds as if you've just used her, like a fresh rose gone dry after a week in the vase. But much better than "popping her cherry".

Since you asked a lady's opinion I'll give you mine. I would prefer no condom because I would like to have my first lovemaking experience on my wedding night. Using a condom doesn't feel right on the wedding night. Before the wedding I'll start looking into birth control if I don't want children right away so there will be no need for a condom anyway. Somehow a condom will make my first experience less special and just as artificial as the condom. But if you are not married then a condom is a must.

Answer 3

I don't like the idea of condoms at all but I have been with my partner 15 years, he has had a vasectomy and there are no risks for us of pregnancy/std's etc. So I would say I agree about the dislike for the condom BUT what do you mean by 'partner'? Is this a long term/serious relationship? If it isn't then I would say go for the condom.
I would however recommend sex before marriage though (very controversial???) because I do believe it's important to have good sex in a marriage so I think it's crucial to know if you are sexually compatible before you get married... I know a lot of very unsatisfied, unhappily married women!

Answer 4

Condoms are continuously a great theory. there is often a small failure fee once you're taking the pill, whether you're taking it completely daily. And the reality is, maximum females omit a pair of pills right here and there so it is an extremely good theory to nonetheless use condoms. STDs are a huge deal and except you're extremely effective which you're the two sparkling (by skill of being examined at the instant), and that issues will stay that way, you need to use a condom. STDs are in all probability extra straight forward than you will think of, and that they have got extensive outcomes. by skill of the age of 24, a million in each and every 3 sexually lively human beings would have decreased in length an STD. HIV/AIDs can kill you, issues like Herpes final an entire life, and infections like gonorrhea and chlamydia oftentimes have no indications yet can bring about infertility, that's a sizeable deal. in the adventure that your better half says he hates condoms, tell him you hate the belief of by danger getting pregnant. you're in cost, do not placed your secure practices and well-being in probability in order that he can relish intercourse a splash extra!

Answer 5

i don't think it makes a great deal of difference to the average lady (if they are honest) with regards to the enjoyment factor once its in there so to speak it unlikely you could tell the difference. as for worrying about what the actual physical substance is that breaks the hymen, well i think this lady is being a little over sensitive. i personally would rather always use a condom out of wedlock for everyones protection. and i also believe very strongly that sex before marriage is actually a very good idea, the first time is quite stressful enough as it is without adding to the stress by making it your honeymoon night

Answer 6

No, in my opinion you should use protection till you know for definate that the person you are sleeping with is the one for you forever.
I think there are too many diseases around nowadays - which can make you innfertile - and its not worth the risk!!!
I made my man use a condom till I felt convinced that he was `the one'.
Also, just cause you're married, it doesnt mean its right to have a baby - as it all depends on whether you can provide for the child, and whether your relatioship is strong enough to bring up a child together.
Hope this all makes sense!!!

Answer 7

'deflowering'? if you use words like that, youre bound to have odd ideas about sex. she sounds like she learnt everything shes knows about sex from a christian organisation. the bottom line is, if you dont want a baby, and you dont want to catch a disease, dont have unprotected sex. its all very well not to wear a condom while you loose youre virginity if its youre wedding night, but for most people its not a good idea.

Answer 8

depending how old are you, whether you have family, will you take the respnsibility,if you are good at sex...myself , i prefer my partner not 2 wear a condom when deflowering me the very first time

Answer 9

well i wanted my fiance to use a condom for the 1st time as my mum got preg on her 1st time and didn't want that to happen i do admit it dose feel better without one lol the only time we dont use a condom is on a special occasion such as if we have been out for a romantic mean or valentines day or anniversary's.

Answer 10

i do not see her wiew in this..a condom is very wise and could protect her from many things.And would of thought she might also take the pill as a double dutch method..ther eis nothing"discusting about this at all..what ever is safer for both of you is all that matters..wear a condom if she is not on the pill..both is better.