2007-02-24 01:10:35 · 14 answers · asked by Cori 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
...Why not? I dated for a while and none of those girls were God's choice. I did wait for God's choice and He provided one dandy wife for me. We got married at 28 (me) and 27 (her), and we are approaching 22 years of marriage. We have 3 kids, and it keeps getting better and better.
...Ask the Lord to open and close the right doors for you, and show you very clearly if you are to marry this one. Do some ministry-type stuff with your friend, to see if you can minister together.
...While you wait, prepare yourself for life and a possible marriage by becoming the servant that Jesus wants you to be; spend time with the Lord in His word and in prayer,
and serve Him in your church.
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...Finally, if you remember nothing else of what I said, please remember this sage advice I got a long time ago:
...1) Marriage will never meet your deepest needs - only the Lord can do that.
...2) Ask God to give you a spouse who loves Him more than He loves you.
...3) Only marry a Christian, and a growing Christian. Read and heed this verse: 2 Corinthians 6:14 says this: "Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?"
...I pray that God will send you His choice of a spouse. May God bless you as you wait on Him and serve Him.
2007-02-24 02:16:29 · answer #1 · answered by carson123 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is going to be a little off the wall, but I gained the knowledge the hard and painful way.
I chose my first wife myself and she turned out to have some serious psychological issues and eventually left me.
I let God choose the second time and I have just the person that I need to do the things that God has called me to.
The way I did this was advice I had gotten from a youth pastor many years before.
He told me to pray that God would make me "sick of the person" if it wasn't the right person.
I tried this as I got to know people and considered them for dating and sure enough usually within a few days I new for certain that they were not for me.
The reason for this off the wall advice is that love blinds you and overpowers your reason and ability to seek God's will most of the time. By praying for negative emotions, in case they are not the one, you are released from that overpowering force and can do the right thing by not pursuing the relationship. Something that is very hard once the chemicals that cause infatuation kick in.
My advice is to meet people, pray hard, and don't date until you are sure that is the person for you.
2007-02-24 09:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by akoloutheo2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see by the first answer that once again we have someone out there who delights in bashing Christians and the Bible. I have no problem with people disagreeing with us regarding our faith but he/she is simply using this forum to spew venom rather than to address your specific question. As to whether or not it is Biblical to wait for God to send you a mate, to my knowledge there is no specific passage that tells you to do this. The primary directive as far as your relationships are concerned is simply that it is not a good thing to be "yoked with an unbeliever". This simply means that if you are a believer in God/Jesus, then it is important for "your" happiness to seek someone who is of like belief. This only makes sense. For the unbeliever, this also makes sense. Can our first answerer for example imagine being married to someone who has a deep and abiding faith in God/Jesus. Wouldn't that be a miserable situation for both of them?
God has a plan for you and whether or not that includes a specific mate is known only to him.
2007-02-24 09:22:08 · answer #3 · answered by Poohcat1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I was looking for a mate, Of which I am not, since I am a Christian, I would seek a Christian woman. I lost my 1st wife in 1989 after 22 yrs of marriage, I never thought or even dreamed of getting married again, But now I am remarried to a wonderful Christian woman, & for the last 15 yrs, we have not one time disagree on the scriptures. And yes, Before I even knew my 2nd. wife, I knew we would be married one day, How, Because God spoke to my heart & said one morning there is your wife to be. I did not even know her, Now we will be married 16 yrs this March.
2007-02-24 09:17:30 · answer #4 · answered by birdsflies 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If by "send," you mean you need do nothing but wait, I think not. Some faiths teach that you merely have to name it and claim it and that whatever you ask for will be given to you, but that's not Biblical. Our requests are honored when they conform to God's will for us, not our personal desires. If we delight ourselves in Him, He will grant us the desires of our hearts. If we are delighting ourselves in Him, He is bringing our hearts into agreement with His will for our lives. In the New Testament, marriage is seen as something believers do if they find that they cannot stay celibate. It doesn't mention "marriages made in Heaven." I don't think anyone (allowing for possible exceptions) should marry without spending at least a year getting acquainted with their potential fiancé. God is fine with marriage, but he hates divorce.
2007-02-24 09:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by celebduath 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BlueSky needs to get a life, how boring to cut and paste!
Anyway, to answer your question .... I don't really get what you mean by "wait for God". Are you also out there lookin around so God can at least give your future husband the opportunity to meet you? Sitting at home alone with your face buried in a Bible won't help you to meet men lol.
2007-02-24 09:20:03 · answer #6 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No... nowhere in the Bible does it tell us to wait for God to send you a mate
2007-02-24 09:29:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your idea of waiting... I believe that God is prepariing someone for each person... But I also believe that you have to do your part as well... you cannot meet them if you are staying home waiting for him to show up at the door...
that doesnt mean to 'try out all the guys/girls' out there.... but being out there so that person can find you is important too
finding a spouse that is equal in beliefs is most important of all....
2007-02-24 09:28:03 · answer #8 · answered by livinintheword † 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Abraham sent Eliezer out to find a mate for Isaac. So I guess it-s okay to take some initiative. Of course in our culture you will want to do your own looking.
If you have a relationship with God, then go out looking for a partner, trusting God to guide you, and listening for His guidance.
2007-02-24 09:17:13 · answer #9 · answered by Mr Ed 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I Corinthians 6:18-7:9
"Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.
Now about the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry. But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband...Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
2007-02-24 09:31:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋