I like him. He's so adorable! I dunno wut to do cuz he hates me and treats me like his lil sis. Please help. I dun wanna tell him cuz his bestfren is my enemy. And if his enemy noes about this, he'll tell every1.
2007-02-24 00:59:22 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi Amylea,
Wow! what a mixed response.
We all have enemies whether we want them or not but don't think that you are guilty of making this enemy. He clearly sounds like the kind of person who would do a lot of damage to any friendship that wasn't going according to his likes and dislikes so be happy at least that he is your enemy and not your friend.
As for the guy you like, he sounds as if he doesn't know who's side he should be on and seems to like you enough to at least not choose his friendship with the enemy over you. But, this does not do anything good for you and will make you think that he does not believe or trust you over the enemy of he is also friends with him.
He is entitled to think and feel what he likes and you can't stop that, but you can at least make a very good impression on him and by not blaming your enemy for everything in his presence. This will show that you are willing to forgive and forget even though you are not really ready to do that yet. It is your maturity to get past issues like these that will also aid in his own attraction for you and possibly bring it out into the open?. He will want to see a strong and independent girl get on with her life and to not reflect upon past events of what happened. This is what is going to draw him towards you - not away from you.
No, he doesn't hate you and I think you should stop hating yourself and how you feel about yourself. You deserve to forgive
yourself for what happened between you and his friend whoever was wrong or right because we all have opinions and feelings. We all have enemies and no one I know is enemy-free so please don't feel guilty or bad for having one - we all have one or two and if someone doesn't agree with us then so be it, we can't live our lives in fear of that.
You also deserve to have a crush on someone who wants to be on your side and who happens to like you for who you are and not who's friend you are. I am sure he likes you a lot, but just is not going to risk losing his friendship with his friend. This will make him a very undesirable guy to want to be with and someone who you will never know how to trust in the long run. The guy I liked is very handsome and popular, but he is also a traitor to my trust and has given out my number to his friends without asking me for my permission.
He seems to sit on the fence when it comes to loyalty. I could never be with anyone who couldn't decide whether they were on my side or not - I would end up with a divorce to someone like that because trust to me is everything. I know that your friend is probably finding it very difficult to make a decision, but the fact that he doesn't means that he is fair, but not the kind of guy who would ever choose you over another friend anyway.
Sorry this is so long but I want to give you the best answer I can.
Your enemy would be very immature and stupid if he ever wanted to tell everyone anything about you and seems like the kind of person who is just plain nasty if he would do anything like that. If your crush is on his side, then this will say it all and confirm that he is not the kind of man you would want to be with for sure. If he has any kind of decency, he will not say anything and secondly, who you see and don't is absolutely none of hid business even if that includes his best friend.
What you need to do, is to start getting back some of your self esteem and confidence and to start thinking some good stuff about yourself so that it doesn't matter what others are thinking
about you or saying, but about how you handle it. You don't want anyone to make you feel bad for anything and because you are not a bad person, you need to keep telling yourself this over and over. A disagreement or fall out is healthy and normal and does not make you a bad person.
Look for others who are going to tell you these things that even I can see from just what you have written. Don't get sucked into the negative behaviors of what other people are doing when you can choose not to be a part of that scene. Don't let life and people beat you up about how you feel - life is too short and no one is a monster.
Honestly, I would put your own feelings and needs first and start to look outside of the place you are in right now and find like minded people who will care enough about how you feel. This guy isn't going to do anything but sit on a fence. You are going to stop disliking yourself and thinking that others dislike you when really no one does. People are often jealous of who we are and who we are friends with but that is there issue and not yours. He isn't worth your time or energy.
I can't say very much more than this, but here you are. It is easy to think that others hate us when in fact, it us not liking ourselves. He does like you but is not going to run after you until you begin to like yourself more and not allow him to dislike you!.
Good luck but have given honest advice x
2007-02-24 04:30:04 · answer #1 · answered by Shikira-trudi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Need more information. Like, the ages of everyone involved n stuff. Also, why he hates you would be nice to know too.
Typically, if someone you like is treating you poorly, the best thing to do is cut them off and try and forget about them. I know this can be hard, but its less painful than the alternative. If you do this, you will accomplish one of two things:
1. He will see you in a different light, and if he ever had anything for you, this new perspective will turn to pursuit.
2. If he is not remotely interested then he won't care and you'll have one less hurtful person in your life.
Both of these are better alternatives than being stuck in a no win situation. Good luck.
2007-02-24 01:06:00 · answer #2 · answered by mmm_billy01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First u might want to stop haveing enemies and start trying to get along with his bestfriend. If u can do that then u might have a chance with this guy.But that all depends on have much u really like this guy.Doesn't it? And how mature u are. Plus having, as u call it enemies does u no good in life.All your doing is cutting off people that maybe can actually help u in your life time. It's easy to be nice to people but it takes alot of energy to hate people. If u can get along with her then u have a chance of being with him.Good luck.
2007-02-24 01:09:46 · answer #3 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go, if he had other feelings for you then you would know by now. Don't spend your time obsessing over a guy who doesn't like you. Not to mention take the chance of embarrassing you as I'm sure he would tell his friend who would spread all kind of stuff about you in no time. It's not worth it.
I'm sure there is some guy out there who is worth your time and energy. But never wrap your self esteem up in some guy.
2007-02-24 01:03:13 · answer #4 · answered by Proud to be APBT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he hate you or his friend? He might just treat you like his little sister because you 2 have been friends for so long, so he might think that you don't like him. But, it's possible to move from friend to girlfriend (with the right amount of flirtation and attraction)...
2007-02-24 01:04:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
simpleton move on. spend time with some one that feel the same about you I'm sure there other ADORABLE boy in a 25 mile radius around you
2007-02-24 01:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by TBONE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first ask your self why does he hate you some times guys will do that if they like a person
2007-02-24 01:03:27 · answer #7 · answered by mary c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can he hate you if he treats you like his little sis?
2007-02-24 01:02:41 · answer #8 · answered by In-Sync 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sees you like a sister, you need to move on. Sorry
2007-02-24 01:01:41 · answer #9 · answered by Rob 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋