I have been dating a wonderful man for the past 8 months. we've learned to be compleatly open with eachother, and i tell him everything, vise versa. But there is one thing i am afriad to bring up. My religion. I am a born agian Christian, and i know that my boyfriend had no religion. Our relationship is getting serious. We have even talked about marrige, and i think its going to happen. But God is a big part in my life, and i want to make it a big part in his too. I really want to tell him about God, but i dont know how?
please help me!
I love this man to death! and i really want him to know.
Thanks
2007-02-24 00:47:09 · 18 answers · asked by Sharon 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It sounds like to me that you must sit him down and explain your faith and the place Christ holds in your heart. He MUST come to know Jesus or you may NOT marry him. You are commanded by God to not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. I am sorry that you have let this get this far without making your faith clear to Him you could have just caused great pain for both of you. It is essential that you do this TODAY. You can't be ashamed of Jesus or your faith in Him. You don't want His to be ashamed of you before the Father do you? Do you love this Man so much that you don't care if he were to stand before God to be judged only to be found in his sin outside Christ? That's crazy.. Talk to Him now. Put down the computer Drive to His house and sit down tell His there is something so important that it can't wait another second. If you don't know how to share your faith call an elder or deacon of the church and have them go with you.. Do it now this is IMPORTANT.... Jim
2007-02-24 01:30:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you weren't really open and honest with him from the beginning. You mean to tell me that in 8 months the question of religion has never come up? I think you are afraid of telling him about because you think he will leave you. Maybe you know how he will react and do not want to take the chance.
All born again Christians that I have ever met are very up front about their religion and love nothing more than to tell you about it, over and over. Tell him now. You have no choice if you want any possibility of this relationship lasting.
2007-02-24 01:02:36 · answer #2 · answered by krupsk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This just doesn't ring true. You are saying that you and this man have been going together for 8 months and he has yet to figure out that you are a Christian? You said you tell him everything, yet fail to tell him what should be the most important thing in your life.
He should have been able to tell from your life, from the wisdom of your words and from the reasonings of your decisions that you are a Christian, without you ever having said a word directly to him about God. Doesn't he wonder where you go on Sundays?
2007-02-24 00:59:46 · answer #3 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have to tell him the truth. Tell him you believe in God. If he says, "There is no such thing as God," just ignore it. If it becomes too serious, you just can't love him to death anymore. But regardless of what religion, you can still get married if you want to. Otherwise, it would almost be racist.
2007-02-24 00:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by yphclubs 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, obviously you haven't told your boyfriend everything. How about be straightforward and honest with him and allow him to make his own choice about your possible life together.
If you loved him and he isn't a Christian, then you should still love him if he isn't one, else your love isn't real, if the first thing you want to do is change who he is.
Should he choose to continue on the way he has been, his choice, he may not want your God as part of his life. It's up to you to either accept him as he is or move on.
If you choose to move on, try to do it without drama.
2007-02-24 04:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by Black Dragon 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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just tell him. if u guys r in ♥ and u tell him all ur secrets, don't be afraid to tell him ur love for God. Hopefully if all goes according to plan, he'll decide with you within a few year.
Hope this helps
Laurel Creekian
2007-02-24 01:00:47 · answer #6 · answered by Laurel Creekian¿ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely, for God to help you be attentive to to break up consisting of your b/f, than you may desire to have prayed approximately it or had your individual doubts. each so often, He whispers to us and than if we don't' pay attention, He has to apply a 2x4 to smack us excessive. Paul reported its no longer a sin to marry, yet its additionally no longer a sin to stay single till the acceptable suited one comes alongside. i could counsel with my pastor in this, as i don't be attentive to your undertaking or your boyfriend. in the journey that your guy isn't saved, than no you may no longer be relationship him.
2016-10-01 21:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come right out & tell him, If he rejects you based on this, Then he is not worth having, You can not live for God without showing some Christiananity about your life, It is better to find out now about your boyfriend Then to later on.
2007-02-24 00:52:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree,the best way to run someone off is to try to convert them,yes Jesus said go out into the world and preach the gospel,....gospel is truth and Jesus also said...let your light so shine among man that they may see your good works and glorify the Father which is in heaven.
2007-02-24 00:52:45 · answer #9 · answered by jackiedj8952 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
"If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow Me." (Matthew 16:24) - Self - denial required by the Lord Jesus of all who truly follow Him.
"Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship (partnership) has righteousness with lawlessness ? And what communion has light with darkness ? And what accord has Christ with Belial ? OR WHAT PART HAS A BELIEVER WITH AN UNBELIEVER ?" (2 Corinthians 6:14,15, emphasis mine) - Can there be a more intimate "yoke" than the marriage relationship between a man & woman ?
"A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, ONLY IN THE LORD." (1 Corinthians 7:39, emphasis mine) - Granted, this specifically pertains to widows, but the underlying principle is this; a believer is only permitted to marry another believer.
Hi there.
May I begin by asking you some penetrating, challenging questions ?
Is the Lord Jesus first in your life, or your boyfriend ? (Please see Matthew 10:37). If Jesus is first in your life, then why haven't you told this man about him ?
What if your boyfriend doesn't want to know about Jesus ? Will you still go ahead and marry him anyway, in disobedience to God's word ? I can tell you that over the years, the Lord has shown me many examples of Christians who got "involved" with the unsaved, and it usually turns out badly. I'm sure that if they were present to answer your question, they would wholeheartedly say to you, "DON'T GO THERE!". A sorry end is the natural consequence of disobeying God's word. His prohibitions, dear one, are for our benefit. With all due respect, I say to you that if you are a TRUE believer and you do decide to go ahead and marry this man in his present spiritual condition, you will most likely one day come to regret it.
I don't mean to sound harsh Sharon, but for the record, no matter how much you want it, you CANNOT make this man get saved. That is strictly God's work (John 6:44, Ephesians 2:1 - 5). If He has chosen this man for salvation, He can make it happen without your help. Again, I don't want to sound too severe, but how useful do you think such a compromised witness on your part will be to God, anyhow ?
Suppose that he does (conveniently) "make a decision" for Jesus after you have shared your faith with him ? Will you marry him then ? And what if, in time, it turns out that he was just a false convert (see Luke 8:13) ? You'll be stuck in a God - dishonouring marriage with an unbeliever, which will almost certainly contribute to hindering your spiritual growth. How tragic. Isn't it better to seek the Lord for His choice of partner for you and to wait until He brings a godly man into your life ? A man who knows and loves the Lord & will be able to encourage and build you up in the faith ? God knows what's best for you. Do you TRULY trust Him to do what's best for you in His perfect time ?
My own Father - a Christian - once got into a wrong relationship with a woman who at some point "got saved". It turned out that this "believer" was simultaneously sleeping with other men. By the grace of God, my Dad made it out of this relationship, but not before it nearly destroyed him.
May I challenge you, dear fellow believer ? How did you get into this situation in the first place ? What about the Christian fellowship which you are part of ? Have you spoken to your pastor about this situation ? If your pastor has condoned this situation, I strongly recommend that you get out of that church & find a genuine, Bible - believing pastor to learn under.
My advice to you - as a fellow believer in the Lord Jesus Christ - is to get out of this relationship immediately. If you truly are "born - again" through faith in Christ and indwelt by the Spirit of God, you will know that this is sound, godly counsel, no matter how you might try to rationalise your situation. This is a crossroads moment for you, sister. I pray that in Jesus' name you will make the right choice. Hopefully, one day you will (along with your truly committed Christian husband) be able to look back upon this episode and rejoice in the Lord that you made the right decision. May it be so.
"Strike a scoffer, and the simple will become wary; Rebuke one who has understanding, and he will discern knowledge." (Proverbs 19:25)
May God graciously guide you into all truth.
2007-02-24 01:57:17 · answer #10 · answered by Carlito 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋