Help plz
Im 15 almost 16 year old and my boyfriend is 18 and we been going out for 1 year and 3 m and he cames to see me from spring hill and i live in clearwater thats a hour away and my mom told him that we could go out on dates but she dose not let me and they said that i only could see him on fri,sat and thats mess up b-cuz i really love him .My boyfriend is really mad b-cuz he wants to be wit me and he said that he could not take it anymore b-cuz my mom and dad are really mess up .WHAT SHOULD I DO PLZ HELP ME
2007-02-24 00:39:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Snap out of it girl and get a grip. that guy is too old for you and I dont' blame your mom one bit. she is trying to protect your sillyself and she can see problems that you are blinded to by "love" you are too young to even know what love really means. Get this guy out of your head and hit those books that is what you need to do now so you can get your education and be able to make a good life for yourself without having to be totally dependant upon some boyfriend in the future. Trust your mom she is trying hard to help you and to save you from yourself. Raging hormones are at work right now, and she knows it you will be so thankful for her diligence when you are older.
2007-02-24 00:45:16 · answer #1 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all don't tell people online where you live even in general terms.
They are letting you see him on Friday and Saturday. Really I think that is quite generous considering the age difference but I would not have let you start dating him in the first place. Legally he is now an adult, in the eyes of the law they don't care how long you were dating him before hand. The fact they let you start dating at 14 is beyond me.
But it seems to me your parents created this problem in the first place.
If he isn't willing to get by with seeing you when your parents allow and is threatening he can't take it anymore then he really doesn't love you. True love would put up with your parents wishes.
If you push it and don't follow the rules chances are your parents will not allow you to see him at all. Seeing him part of the time is better than not at all right?
Speak to your parents in a calm manner. Tell them you understand they are worried you are seeing to much of him, aren't focusing on school or whatever the issue is. Ask them if they would be willing to permit you to see him more often once you are 16. Speak to them about how you feel.
I believe your parents are concerned that the two of you are so close, he is getting older and if you spend too much time together you are going to end up having sex. If this is a possibility I urge you now to seek responsible birth control.
They are probably also concerned that they could be held responsible if they allow you to spend time with him, he is an adult, sex would be considered statutory rape and if they knew they would be contributing to the delequency of a minor.
Put yourself in your parents position, they love you and want what is best for your future. It's not that they are 'messed' up. Messed up would be that they don't care and let you run around with any guy of any age as much as you want. Someday you will understand. Now while your hormones are running wild it is hard to understand. It's hard for your parents too.
2007-02-24 00:51:08 · answer #2 · answered by Proud to be APBT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aah, 15 years old. I started seeing a guy that was 17. He was my first love. I thought I really loved him. We were together for four and a half years. I was miserable. It started out great, Then he started bashing my mother. I started sneaking out of the house. i got into some really bad stuff, and I regretted all of it. He told me he loved me, when he wanted something. In the end, he started blaming my age for everything, and started seeing another girl. An older girl. you two are happy right now because he is at the same mental age as you. It will pass, and he will leave you. And what is worse, he is in high school (at least he better be). His friends will get rid of you if a girl doesn't get to him first. I won't tell you that you aren't in love, and everyones situation is different. However, they have statutory laws for a reason. You and your boyfriend are on different levels. He shouldn't be touching you at all. Not if he loves you. I honestly wish my mother would have had him arrested for being with me, but she didn't know. I wasted by entire high school years on a fool. I was used. He used me for sex and I was his doting puppy. But to give you hope, I am now with a wonderful guy (same age) whom I fall in love with again everytime I look at him. I am in the army, he is navy. I know distance sucks. But I am happier than I have ever been. So do not settle for less, your REAL love is out there, waiting for you. And it is legal.
2007-02-24 01:01:27 · answer #3 · answered by gi_binky86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What should you do?? Grow up.
If he cares for you that much (and I doubt it at his age), he'll abide by your parents' rules.
I wasn't allowed to date until I was 16 and could see my boyfriend only on Fridays and Saturdays. And most Fridays I had to be at the school's athletic functions because I was in the band. It didn't hurt me a bit.
2007-02-24 00:47:25 · answer #4 · answered by Blue 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't blame your mum you need more life experience. you have been dating for a long time admittedly but in life that doesn't mean anything if your boyfriend can't respect your mums wishes you should really try to move on because that lack of respect will probably turn onto you and you will get hurt.
2007-02-24 00:47:02 · answer #5 · answered by Diz 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well you need to explain to him the situation and if he really loves you then im sure he will still put up with it. when you turn 18, if you are still in love go for it because u are an adult then and can do whatever you want.
2007-02-24 00:46:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your still young lady. you concentrate first your studies. Your mom is scared about your relationship cuz your young they protect you for good... So listen to you mom... Or try to talk to your mom about him... and invite him to your home so your mom not worry if your on date with that guy....Your mom should know also about your bf...
2007-02-24 00:57:23 · answer #7 · answered by edsky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is way to easy. At 15 you are not in love. If this guy even as much as held your hand I would have him arrested.
2007-02-24 00:47:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Someday you'll know that..........mom knows best....mark my words.....
2007-02-24 00:43:27 · answer #9 · answered by justmedrt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋