loved them more than anything?I honestly don't think I'd stick around if my bf got cancer or something worse.I don't know if that makes me a bad person or selfish but I just know in that case he'd be on his own.I'm not the nurturing type at all and would see no good in me staying with him.What would you do?Be honest!!!
2007-02-24 00:16:52 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you can't be in a relationship for better or worse then get out now. A part of dating is to find someone who will make up your new nuclear family. To be their for you through sickness and health, good and bad, richer and poor... etc. You don't see yourself with this person during the bad parts. Does not sound like you get or give emotional security.
This guy does not sound like the one for you. My hubby inspires me, and gives me unconditional love and support. I am a better person knowing him and I have chosen someone who will be there always for me and our kids.
I don't think you are bad or selfish. I think you are not with Mr Right. You are with Mr. Right Now. Even if you are not a nurturing type you should/will be a protective person for someone who you love. This guy does not being that side out of you. Good luck in your future
2007-02-24 00:48:18 · answer #1 · answered by jewelsthomas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have come to know throughout life there are no guarantees. Yep if the person I am with got sick I'd stick around. And I think he would stick around if I got sick. That has nothing to do with being nurturing it has plenty to do with really loving a person. I know I was in a situation where I was hurt very bad and pretty quickly discovered that very few people actually really loved me. That was a tough lesson but an important one.
Like you I remember thinking that I could not handle it if some I cared for was disabled or was killed. I knew that I could not cope with that. But you know in a split second my world changed. My son died, my daughter was brain injured and I was seriously injured. When that happened I never once thought about not coping I just coped because it was what I needed to do.
Others around me did not cope. They did not face up to what had happened. I found myself coping on my own with no support. One thing that has really hurt a great deal over the years is how lacking in support others were. How people who were supposed to care about me and love me turned away and walked off out of my life, or stood at the edges and kind of glanced my way occasionally hoping it would all magically be different..... I can not tell you the measure of pain I have felt over the loss of my son and the injury to myself and my daughter.... but I can tell you that not having anyone to turn to for kindness and support made everything much more painful..... Soooo.....
If you know you would not stik around if your BF got sick then please dump him now while he is healthy so he can find a woman to love him for who he is and in entirety.
2007-02-24 08:35:19 · answer #2 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd be surprised how your nurturing side comes thru when someone you care for needs you the most. Not wanting to stay if someone you're with gets sick doesn't make you a bad person...it just makes you a scared person and that's why you want to leave. You're not sure what you can do to make the person better and feel useless. Sometimes...just the opposite happens....sometimes it makes you stronger. My own sisters boyfriend had cancer and she stayed with him and they did stuff he had always wanted to do before he passed on. She says it helped him go thru his treatments just knowing she was by his side.
2007-02-24 08:25:59 · answer #3 · answered by Dorth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WOULD STICK AROUND. I WAS MARRIED TO A DIABETIC. WE DIDNT BREAK UP BECAUSE OF THAT. BUT I SPENT MANY A NIGHT IN THE EMERGENCY ROOM HOLDING HER HAND PRAYIN THAT GOD WOULD MAKE HER BETTER. IF U TRUELY LOVE SOMEONE THERES NO END TO WHAT U WILL DO FOR THEM. IF U ABANDON THAT PERSON IN THERE MOST DESPERATE HOUR OF NEED U NEVER LOVED THEM TO BEGING WITH.
2007-02-24 08:31:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would stay with her intill the end. if i loved her as much as i had told her time heatlh mean nothing i would be there for her and i know she would do the same for me also
2007-02-24 09:55:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋