There is this guy who always sits next to me and I know he likes me. I feel like I can't trust him, even though I really like him. I don't know who he is, yet we see each other all the time. He has a girlfriend in the class. This morning I woke up feeling really ill because I had dreamt that I had started something intimate with him. I simply don't feel comfortable around him. I fear that he will hurt me. He's not the right guy for me. There is pessure that I can not control. I feel like I'm a bet and he only wants to use me. I don't like myself. Major confidence issues.
2007-02-23 23:52:46 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think I'm going to be sick over something like this. It's taken over my mind day and night. No concentration what so ever.
2007-02-23 23:53:35 · update #1
Noo. I like this guy as a friend. It's complicated. I just don't want anything more.
2007-02-24 00:00:52 · update #2
To me it sounds like you want to be with him as in you want to be the bad girl. BUT your brain is doing the right thing and making you think clear but this is confusing you. And since he has a girlfriend don't go there. I mean how would you like it if you had a boyfriend and some girl came along and knew you existed but still went with your boyfriend?
2007-02-23 23:58:30 · answer #1 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to get away from him. If he has a gf , he is not the right guy for you. When he sits by you - get up and walk away. Try joining in some sort of activities - cheer leading, gymnastics, ballet, etc.. This will definitely keep your mind off of things - and you never know you may become an olympic star!
2007-02-24 07:59:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Write down how you feel about. Write down How often it has occured. Give a copy as a report to the relevent person. Your boss if you work, your teacher if its school, your mum if you feel she can help you deal with this.
Do not just ignore what you you have noticed. If there is nothing wrong with him it won't hurt. If he is a problem this should get closer to sorting him out.
Move to another seat. If he follows make a formal complaint. Anything you write keep copies and date them.
Hey it may be nothing but if it isn't he is relying on you staying quiet. So tell someone. Why in writting because then someone needs to take at least an inquiry action.
2007-02-24 08:02:42 · answer #3 · answered by michaeljripley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds serious. If you don't want him to sit next to you, talk to your teachers about it. If you really don't feel comfortable around him, talk to the superintendent or principal and ask to get your schedule changed. If you are never around him, maybe he'll eventually just go away. I have the same problem, but the guy loves me (or at least that is what he said). He is creepy. I have just learned to ignore him. But if you don't feel comfortable doing just that - yea, get your schedule changed so that you aren't in any classes with that guy. Good luck!
xoxo,
Cosette!
2007-02-24 08:04:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart and your instincts and get away from this guy. What ever it is it is not healthy. He's not the guy for you so why do yu even need him for a friend. He does not sound friendly to me. You need to stop and think, get your head clear because you sound confused. Trust yourself and get away from this guy. when he sits next to you, move.
2007-02-24 08:04:13 · answer #5 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you in high school together, or in college?
If you don't have to have assigned seats, sit somewhere else. If you do, talk to the teacher.
Trust your intuition. If you're not comfortable near him, get away and fast.
2007-02-24 07:59:20 · answer #6 · answered by Aimee L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur worrying too much...first u should be flattered that someone likes u..and he has a girlfriend..im not saying its right..but its not a horrible thing...if u really feel that uncomfortable, show no interest or dont sit near him...y do u think he would hurt u? has he threatened to? try to have more confidence and be less afraid of people...just speak up and tell him u dont like him..maybe that ur interested in someone else..dont worry so much about it
2007-02-24 07:57:28 · answer #7 · answered by ☺ 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Is it fear that attracts you to him?
Sounds like he might be a bad boy and you might be an uptown girl who has fallen for a downtown guy. Opposites do attract.
Talk to him. Get to know him cause I think you want him..
2007-02-24 08:01:02 · answer #8 · answered by dirtmojo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it easy, nobody is making you do nothing...right?
If you can't deal with taking the same class with him try to reschedule, if not just change places and ignore him.
take good care, don't loose your mind about this, your going to have to deal with more difficult situations as you grow up.
2007-02-24 08:00:30 · answer #9 · answered by pas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lsn if u love him and u tell him and u both share nice time together everything will change and if hes not that good he can change for u if he realy cares i had the same proplem and i did the samething and now he realy changed and became a new person.
2007-02-24 08:16:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋