Why would someone choose an abortion over putting up for adoption?

Question

If your life is threatened from fullfilling the pregnancy, i can understand abortion becoming an option, but I've heard so many pathetic excuses like "it will ruin my figure" etc.
So many people out there want kids and can't have their own. Why wouldn't you have the baby and give it to one of these caring couples who have been waiting for years before killing it?

As for unborn baby not being a baby, type it in to any search engine. Thousands of sights to disagree. How does it make a difference of inside or outside the womb, a baby is a baby. And by the way a zygote is only a zygote from the time it is fertilized , untill as a blastocyst, it is implanted in the uterus.

some mention once they see the baby. You don't have to see the baby before it goes to the adoptive family or at all.

Thanks for those who leave offenses out of this. I'm looking for rational reasons, although I know this is a sore subject for some.

To: I do not like stupidity:
It can ruin their carer? your career is not ruined from a baby. you take time off, ussually paid and then get back on track shortly after.
-it can mess up with their school plans: sometimes, depends on what they are going to school for.
-they do not want to be pregnant: guess they shouldn't have had sex. Different if it wasn't by choice to have sex.
why rent your body to a parasite that you don't want?: Nice to know you compair a baby to a parasite. I hope you don't have kids.
These are the petty excuses I was talking about

to Natelie:
you seem to be very sexist against men, not all men are like that. Mine isn't. I am using the account under my husbands name as we share this and share everything, like it's supposed to be. Some men actually want kids, just as some women actually deserve them.
I know what it's like to carry and loose, but would never abort.
Why is it just up to the woman? As long as the man is not a run out, shouldn't he have say too?
You seem overly offended, you sure your not trying to make it right in your own mind?

Answer 1

Because they are selfish. They weigh their own interests against the life of their child, and their own interests win out. By the way, 480 American physicians recently testified that abortion is NEVER necessary to save a woman's life:
http://www.all.org/article.php?id=10682

Anyone who doubts that the child in the womb is a living human being needs to take a look at this:

Photos and Video of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html

Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
http://www.lifeissues.org/ultrasound/11weeks.htm

By the time most women know they are pregnant (3 weeks after conception), their baby's heart is already beating. Virtually no surgical abortions are committed before 6-7 weeks, at which point the child has recordable brain waves and tiny fingers and is beginning to move in the womb. The average age of an aborted baby in America is 10 weeks. At 8 weeks, if an unborn baby's palm is pricked, he will open his mouth and pull his hand away. An ultrasound of an abortion of an 11-12 week old child shows the baby frantically trying to escape the suction instrument, as her heartrate doubles and her mouth opens wide. You can see this documentary (narrated by former abortionist and former head of NARAL Bernard Nathanson, MD) here:
http://silentscream.org/video1.htm (see part 3)

Answer 2

I think some people choose abortion over adoption because of the way society judges people. If a woman has an abortion very few people know. However if she carries a baby for nine months and then gives it up for adoption people tend to gossip about it.Saying such things as she got pregnant and then gave it away, she should have been on birth control etc. People remember a person who gives a baby away for a long time. Either way the woman has to live with herself the rest of her life and the decision she made. A child in the world somewhere that she knows exist but doesn't know might be harder for her emotionally.

Answer 3

I agree with you. In some extreme cases, I think it would be acceptable, but not for the excuses like you mentioned. I think it comes as no shock that sex can cause pregnancy.
Now having said this, I want to add, that my closest friend had an abortion, before we met, and it was not, in my opinion, for a good reason. However, I'm not her judge and jury. Even she will tell you, it is a decision she regrets.
I will also tell you, that back home I had a friend who was raped, and decided to keep the baby, and he is indeed her pride a joy. The best thing that ever happened to her, she will say.
For years I was told by 2 different doctors that I would not be able to have children, and my husband and I thought we'd have to adopt, but grace of God, I'm in my third trimester with baby #2.

Answer 4

People choose to have abortions over adoptions for different reasons. If the person having the unborn child is too young, then she feels like her life is over if she doesnt have an abortion. It's easy to do and your family/friends won't need to find out. Adoption is a good thing but when things are unplanned and the couple or 2 people that caused this don't want others to know it's easier to have an abortion. It might be harder to deal with an abortion later on in life but it's the fastest thing to do.

Answer 5

Some women perfer abortion over adoption because someimes they would rather go under the knife hen experince the pain of pregnancy. And when you know you cant keep the baby becuase you know you wont be able to take care of it, and you have it, and you hold it in your arms, you wouldnt want to let go. No matter what you would want to keep it even though you know it would have a much better life with other parents. Some people just cant bear the pain of letting go, and when you have an abortion, you dont even get to see the baby, so I think thats one of the reasons that people get them over adoptions. Other reasons are medical, and not being able to bear the pain of it.

Answer 6

Every woman has the right to choose. Abortion is 100% legal and women that do have abortions for whatever reasons they can't help it that some couples can't have kids.

I have not had an abortion but if the following were to happen then i would.
1)If my life were in danger and the doctor said have an abortion or leave your son motherless then i would abort.
2)If i were raped
3)If something horribly was wrong with the fetus and would only live to suffer then i would abort.
4)Finally if i just did not want to be pregnant i would abort.

A fetus is not a living breathing human being until it is born breathing on it's on. If it were a baby then they would not refer to it as a fetus.

Here is what i think:
My Body
My Sexuality
My Uterus
My Vagina
My Morals
My Life
My Choice
Not Yours

I would not dare go through 9 months of pregnancy, labor and delivery and then give it up for adoption.
I am sure it is very painful for someone to go through abortion and don't you think for one second that adoption is too?
Your a man and that is why you cannot understand this.

Answer 7

i'm professional-decision. it stands out as the people decision, now no longer anybody elses. i trust it will be ok if their is rape, incest, issues which will reason a painful confusing life, the individuals to younge, can not deal with to pay for, in the journey that they are in simple terms now no longer equipped. i do not imagine it really is okay to employ abortion as a type of commence administration notwithstanding. it really is in simple terms straight forward stupid and would reason you well-being negative aspects. Adoption this modern-day day does no longer precisely advise the teen would have a delightful destiny. the youngster ought to strengthen up in an aweful ecosystem, ie:any type of abuse equivalent to actual, mentally, sexually. Plus i ought to no longer renounce my toddler to anybody i do not even comprehend. they'd be toddler molesters for all i comprehend. the toddler would obviously start from foster residing house to foster position of abode, arising up with hatred and such. - i'm now no longer conserving that adoption isn't undesirable all the tactic round, in simple terms i'd concern to plenty about a majority of those undesirable concerns that takes position more suitable virtually continually then earlier. If i became once confronted with a call of both adoption or abortion i'd go with abortion. notwithstanding if I also had the alternative of preserving the teen i'd go with that finished.(depending on the impediment Ofcourse). also i'd get truly some thumbs down for this notwithstanding abortion should not be homicide. The fetus does now no longer realize it really is alive. test tutor that the fetus isn't attentive to it will be ecosystem tell it really is virtually 24 weeks gestation. the middle does no longer commence to conquer tell 5 weeks gestation. And in the journey that your gonna ask if my mom go with abortion how would I evaluate, ideal? My answer- i'd not comprehend i became alive and conscious of all this so it would not truly count number. I in simple terms favor to be conscious I absolutely no longer had an abortion.

Answer 8

Its none of your business! You will never have a baby inside you and will NEVER know the sacrifices that come with being pregnant. It a womans prerogative, not a mans. So many woman died from having back alley abortions before it was legal and thats why we now have a choice, if we didn't woman would still do and die with their babies. How dare you question the motives of women who have impregnated and left to handle the situation themselves most likely by men like you. Whatever their situation may be its a womans choice and if they aren't ready to be a mom then its irresponsible to have a child and feeling a baby grow inside you to term and giving it away is not an "easy" solution.

Answer 9

There are over one half million kids in foster care, and 1/3 of them are adoptable. It isn't fashionable to adopt from your own country anymore too much red tape. Why do you think overseas adoption is so popular.
Also just think how it would be as a man to have your doorbell ring 18 years from now when you have a new family and someones says hi dad why did you and mom give me away 18 years ago. It is never a knee jerk reaction to have an abortion it takes deep soul searching.

Answer 10

Pathetic excuses? Like 'it would be unthinkably traumatic'?

Being pregnant for the first time, I'm all the more disgusted with anti-choice sorts who toss out 'But U can just give it up 4 adoption!!!' like it'd be some easy thing.

Good heavens. Pregnancy is not just getting larger. Going through labour and delivery just to hand it off to somebody...I can't even imagine how hard that must be.

And what odd logic. Why on earth should the existence of said 'caring couples' (who, on Yahoo! Answers, are frequently not 'caring,' but nasty women into saying horrid things to frightened young girls) enter into another woman's decision about what to do with her body and her pregnancy?