mother had a fall and seemed to be ok for about a week. One am she was getting dressed and blacked out , slure

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rushed to hospital found out she had a clot in neck causing her no blood flow thru the brain. She eventually had a heart attack they ended up putting stent in for blood flow. Now brain is enlarging and md said either removing part of brain and she might be able to speak very little. No surgery vegitarian state. Then if that procedure is done they still need to take care of her heart damage. Is there really any reason she should have this surgery What percentage does she have of a normal life at all ever? HELP

Answer 1

Bachelor has said most things correctly.
Important factors to consider are:
AGE, Concommitant diseases, and the biggest thing is- will the quality of life after surgery enable her to lead a dignified life? If the answer is NO then you are the best Judge.
There is a website called Medal.org. Go to
http://www.medal.org/visitor/www/inactive/ch17.aspx
and http://www.medal.org/visitor/www/inactive/ch6.aspx

On these pages you will find various excel sheets that calculate risks for people like your mother. youll have to do some hardwork trying to find the one you need but it can really guide you well.
We use them all the time.
Lastly
Have courage and have faith.

Answer 2

How old is your mom? That is something that should be taken into consideration because if she is quite elderly I personally wouldn't want to go through all the surgeries, etc.
There are other alternatives that can be done to reduce the swelling of the brain. Removing part of the skull is one, but not part of the brain...that sounds so radical!
I've seen doctor's operate on 85 year olds and they were money hungry. Surgery in the elderly depends on alot of other factors like the severity of the case, prior health, what would the patient want, etc. You are free to get a second opinion or move her to a different hospital if necessary.

Answer 3

It seems like you are carrying the burder all yourself. I hope you can ask relatives to help make decision. Did your mom ever leave a 'living will'? It helps sometimes, to consider 'quality of life', before allowing more procedures. If your mom will end up with a small likely hood of recovering, what would SHE WANT. Not so much what you would want, what would she want. Years ago, people would not have so many choices put before them, the patient wouldve just passed away. So, today, doctors have to offer options, and possibilities for prolonging life, because they are available, and because there is options. But, just because they are there, doesn't mean you have to try them if the liekly hood for recovery is slim. Sometimes, it's just as important to keep someone from pain, and let nature take it's course. Would your mom want to be 'kept alive?' When family's consider options, they have to think more of what the person would want, not their own loss, or guilt, or needs. I know my mom would come back to haunt me (joke) if I tried to keep her alive artificially! So, I know it's hard, I'm very sorry for what's before you. I hope you seek out spiritual (or other) support for yourself. Sometimes it also helps to talk to your own personal doctor, if you have one. They can put things in perspective for you.

Answer 4

You never know if you don't try, and sometimes for the patient/family, that is the most important thing, and that's OK.
People can make amazing, unpredictable comebacks.
My Dad is also in the hospital with heart problems, I will add you all to my prayers.
Praying for your peace, discerning, and unity as you move forward in this difficult situation.
God's blessings on you.

Answer 5

Hun,

I'm so sorry this happen to her. This is something you really need to ask her doctor. If you are underage. Ask your Dad or a family member to go with you to the hospital and ask this question. Ask to see a doctor and have him or her explain everything in detail.

Good luck!!