after having him arrsted we are going to be homeless because he controlled and owned everything noone is willing to help us not even the news are govenor I've teied all state temp assistance but no one will help what do we do?? even the attorney won't do anything! Please what do we do???
2007-02-23 11:23:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This man set up a video camera in the bathroom, I found the tapes while cleaning, when I saw what they were I immediatly called the police!! I am horrified that this monster used his own child for this heinous crime!!!!
2007-02-23 11:54:16 · update #1
We were together 15 yrs, we never married there is no common law in my state. He controlled everything and owns everything! When I found the tapes , it was the expression on his face that led me to find out, and then he had the nerve to try and offer me $5000 and to fix all the problems if I would just destroy the tapes, That is how I found out his Heinous secret, He used 3 young children (11yrs old) for his own morbid sexual gradification! I had been physically sick for yrs, and when my daughter started having simular symptoms last year, I started asking questions, now that he is removed from our lives we are no longer sick, and narcoleptic. Please if I have to I will work 3jobs, but after all this monster has done my daughter has begged one thing. That she not lose her beloved dog and cat (both very small) I've only been asking for temporary assistance to keep us "above water" I think I'll ask about the yr to scrimp and save to be ready! I would have been doing so if I was told to!
2007-02-24 04:31:09 · update #2
Alright, you have made a good decision and now it is time to pick up the pieces of you and your daughter's lives. Go to your local church and ask for help. Ask the local Salvation Army for help. If everyone still refuses to help you, then call the mortgage company and see what they can work out with you. Get an attorney involved and see if they can help. It would probably help if you filed for divorce right away and separate yourself from your husband.
Thank you for calling the police. I too was a victim of abuse but my mother refused to believe me so here it is 40 years later and I will not talk to her. Always remember that you did the right thing and that at least you have your daughter. you did the right thing even if no one helps you and you have to start over. Your daughter is now safe and that is all that matters.
2007-02-23 12:02:42 · answer #1 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good luck. Apply for food stamps, etc and accept all the help you can find. You don't mention your child's age but she will require counseling which need not cost much. This may be like locking the barn door after the horse gets out but suggest you get a good job and don't depend on someone else again.
2007-03-03 19:10:22 · answer #2 · answered by Marilyn S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why won't the state or the attorney help you? That's crazy. It sounds to me like there is more going on here than what you are telling us.
Either way, do whatever you have to do for your child. Your child has suffered enough already. Get a job! Support yourself. You can put your child into daycare while you are at work. No doubt that this isn't the ideal situation but this is the hand you have been delt. Deal with it and love your child! Good Luck!
2007-02-23 19:35:10 · answer #3 · answered by Goddess 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i am so sorry for you and your daughter and i hope she will heal and have a good life from this point but as for your situation if nothing is in your name and you guys are not married then i do believe you may need to find a place to live if its a rental maybe you can talk to the owner and see if they will rent to you if its owned then the bank would require you to qualify for the house see if your city has a victims support fund sometimes they may help with certain things it may not keep you in your home but it might by you some time to find something you can handle for you and your daughter good luck!
2007-02-23 19:39:02 · answer #4 · answered by peterpansdate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would most definietly go to an abused woman shelter or an exchange club. There are many resourceful people there who know things that attorneys don't know. i am going to keep both of you in my prayers. I see that you are a strong woman and devoted to your daughter. I celebrate you for that. You both are going to want to go to therapy to get through the emotional pain that you have suffered. In a way it is better for you to leave the house where your daughter has been abused. There is going to be a lot of painful memories there. Is there no one who will care for the puppy and kitty while you are in transition? Apply for welfare benefits, food stamps, medical.
2007-03-03 00:10:19 · answer #5 · answered by newyorktilson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Often when someone goes to jail the state takes control of thier assets - this is a common practice and if every thing was in his name then I think it goes w him. Find a family member to put you up while you have a chance to get a job there really isnt much else you can do.
2007-02-23 19:38:45 · answer #6 · answered by jillmarie2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whose house it is? Is he renting or own it? Are you married?
Anyway... stay there. I use to run an apartment complex and we had a family fall apart there. The mother had 4 kids any way we try to evict her and the courts gave her one year free rent to get on her feet and we just had to live with it.
You need to keep beating on doors there is help out there for you. You just need to make the right call. keep looking and do alot of searching on the net for agencies to help you and dont forget to ask churches for help too.
good luck I will keep you in my prayers
2007-02-23 21:34:21 · answer #7 · answered by Darlene D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do NOT think you have failed your child. You found those tapes and acted immediately. You are a hero. This is a creep and there must be laws in that state to protect your child. You may not be entitled to anything from him but HIS child is entitled and you are the child's legal guardian? You need to contact legal services and find a way to help your child,
2007-03-03 00:27:02 · answer #8 · answered by choose happiness 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you can obtain an attorney and sue your child's father for child support and emotional pain and suffering of your daughter. He does owe that even if you were never married. While he doesn't have to take care of you, he has to take care of your daughter. You did the right thing turning him in. Be proud of yourself and don't give up. God bless you and please, for the sake of women who don't have it in them to turn in their spouses, set an example, hold your head up high, and be strong. God will make a way for you and it will get better. I wish you much luck
2007-03-03 00:19:45 · answer #9 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You allowed all of this to happen and you are just as responsible...dont want to sound rude but you can not be the victim and a willing participant at the same time...Forget the house and find a job...get an apartment and move on with your life...You have a moral obligation to protect your child from anyone that wants to hurt them...including the father...You have failed so far so act like a real loving parent should act and do whatever it takes to ensure your child has a future life ahead of them. You are responsible for yourself and the child..stop making excuses and start being grown up....
2007-02-23 19:42:35 · answer #10 · answered by truthseeker 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋