My friend has not had sex in almost 5 years...she had a really bad relationship and said she was going to start looking for Mr. Right...well she thinks she found him and wants to have sex now. She went to get checked and make sure everything was okay and found out she has Genital Herpes. Yeah some of you are like ew gross but thats stupid and I don't want answers like that. Is it possbile to have an STD and not know it...I thought Herpes meant you broke out in sores down in that area?? How come she never knew this?? She has never had a "breakout" Serious answers only...all others will be reported.
2007-02-23 02:27:58 · 11 answers · asked by ~Jamaica~ 3 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
She is scared to tell her - now - boyfriend because she is scared he will leave her...she is going to tell him but I don't know...I think she is scared that he will think that she has been lying to him...any help?? If you were in his place what would you do...they have been dating to almost a year now.
2007-02-23 02:31:16 · update #1
As other have said, she could have quite easily been a carrier without any symptoms
Also, there is herpes simplex type1 (yes, a cold sore is herpes) which infects the mouth area. 90% of people have this. herpes 1 can also easily infect the groin and the brain
While herpes simplex type2 aka genital herpes(which is just a slightly different strain), prefers the groin and seems to find it harder to infect other areas
Also herpes like genital warts, cant be prevented by wearing a condom in most cases. As these viruses are passed by skin rubbing on skin eg. pubic area
Im not a medical professional, ive just read this on legitimate websites. please do your own research
Check to the cdc (a usa government health dept), or herpes websites
2007-02-23 04:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is possible. a friend of mine was in a similar situation. She had been married for 10years and (husband #2) broke up. Afterwards she met someone and wanted to get tested. She found out that she also had it and never knew. She was really upset and couldn't understand how because there was no one else on either side that cheated. It could have been hubby #1. And it is embarrassing. But let me tell you this, it happens. The statistics of people contracting herpes is like 3 out of 5. its pretty common. Herpes is not only an std, but when you have chicken poxs or mono that is also a form of herpes. It happens. Not to everyone but damn near.
2007-02-23 10:38:32 · answer #2 · answered by workaholic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup. It is VERY possible. Since 90% of those with it do not realize it, those who do know are pretty rare. Considering that 1 in 4 has it, that is a lot of people!
Most do not have any symptoms or they are so mild that they do not notice them.
The majority of people have no idea what it is like to have herpes. It is not the big deal that society has made it out to be. Those who do have symptoms are generally not bothered very much by them.
Please tell her to join an online support group. They can help her with how to approach the sexual health discussion. She should also remember that since 1/4 already have it, mr right may have it too!
2007-02-23 20:22:18 · answer #3 · answered by mutherluv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is yes, you can have an STD(STI) without any symptoms, mostly in women they are more likely to not have symptoms. But it is very important that she tells this guy that she got Genital Herpes from, or gave, and make sure that he didn't carry it on to anybody else. Genital Herpes is not curiable, but you can make it feel better, however the virus will stay within your friends body forever. Make sure she also tells, Mr. Right. I hoped I helped.
2007-02-23 10:41:29 · answer #4 · answered by None 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she may have been carrying the disease for the 5 years. Many people with herpes don't have outbreaks. In fact, approximately 1 in 6 members of the general infected population is thought to shed active virus occasionally without symptoms.
Many women can have Lesions occur deep inside the vagina where they cannot be seen or felt, but can readily transmit the virus.
Some people do not get typical blister-like sores but harbor active virus in their saliva, vaginal, or penile secretions, and can shed the virus without knowing they have herpes.
Therefore, she most likely contracted it from her past relationship. Though, environmental surfaces like toilet seats may be a source of contagion, but there is no evidence that this poses a real threat to the general population. Experts differ as to how long the virus can survive on its own. The primary cause of infection remains intimate contact.
2007-02-23 10:36:20 · answer #5 · answered by S H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be possible that she's a carrier and never had a breakout. Kinda like some people carry the chicken pox virus but they themselves never actually get the pox.
If he truly cares for her, this should not cause him to dump her...if he does do that, he's shallow and not worth it anyway. A mature individual should be able to handle this kind of news and if they have not yet had sex, there shouldn't be any trust issues or anything. If need be, she could even have him talk to her doctor for more info.
2007-02-23 10:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that maybe your friend may have them on the inside of the vagina. I don,t know that she would realize it from that area. And she could have had a little discomfort and not payed any attention. But, Just let your friend know that she does not have to have sex right away. She may want to take meds. for a little while and she needs to tell her partner about what she has learned. I hope that I could help..
2007-02-23 10:36:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Herpes is a virus more than a disease that can carry around in your body for years and years without showing any symptoms and then show up unexpectantly. you can't get rid of it, you have it for life. She needs to make sure any future partner for the rest of hewr life is wearing a condom or she is very likely to pass it on.
2007-02-23 10:31:42 · answer #8 · answered by mwhyte 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes...std are sneaky ...unless you have an outbreak of herpes you may not know until diagnosed... some outbreaks are internal where she wouldn't necessarily know ...herpes isn't always a massive outbreak of lesions...that's one of the reason it has one of the highest std transmissions... you can get it even when the person isn't in an active outbreak of sores...
as for her bf he has to be told... if she had been warned in her past she would not necessarily been a statistic right now...
2007-02-23 10:36:17 · answer #9 · answered by double_klicks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I thought the samething. Makes me want to go get looked at too. She might have a mild STD, not the full blown one. If I was her I for sure see a second option. If you have STD you should know it for people say it hurts like hell.
2007-02-23 10:32:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋