Well, about a week ago my gay friend had unprotected sex with this guy that he had only known for about a week or so. He is very upset and panicy now. He can't get this off of his mind and he is searching for information on aids and other stds. He has no symthoms of anything and has been tested for aids before and is planning to be tested again soon. He is so sorry he did this but he can't change it. Through research he found out that our state ranks number 2 for some sort of scale on aids. I can't find the right words to tell him. What would you do if this was your best friend. Even if he takes the aids tests today it takes 6 months to be in the clear or something like that. He's started searching for life insurance and even calculating his time he thinks he'll have to live if he has aids. This is very serious. What should I tell him to make him feel better.
2007-02-22 12:42:27 · 16 answers · asked by Kayla L 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
First you should tell him that he's stupid for having unprotected sex with someone that he doesn't even know. If he finds out that he doesn't have AIDS make him think about this very moment. Tell him to think about the pain and the stress that he is going through right now so he won't have unprotected sex again. Now if he finds out that he has Aids, the only thing you can do for him is to be there for him. Help him and support him. You should tell him about support groups and go with him to the meetings. Help him when he is struggling to get out of bed. Their are a lot of people living with hiv or aids right now. Those people can help him also. At this point there is nothing you can do for him, other then to just be a friend.
2007-02-22 13:31:38 · answer #1 · answered by The one and only 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you can tell him chances aren't 0 but just relax. not everyone get infections even though they had unprotected sex. Second, he isn't alone. There are another 400 millions infected including doctors, lawyers, nurses, and other talented people. Go to the website www.thebody.com
find out Dr.Bob's biograpy. He is having hiv for about 19 yrs i guess. he is still alive and helping people. He also comforts people who are worried but later they become worried wells. I was one of them a few years ago but when i get tested in 3 months, the test came with Negative. Then tested again 4-6 and 1 yr later, they all came with neg. so, tell him that he could get neg answer or if not, it's not the end of the world. he has plenty of time (years) to live if he knows how to live well but first, do not worry about getting this virus. Just relax until the result comes out at 3 months mark. I know it isn't easy to say someone like this. I have been this. Felt this. But anyway, try to ask and tell him how you feel and he may be able to comfort you with his Karma.
2007-02-22 15:38:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 19:53:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say just be there for him and if the test in the future comes back as a negitive, remind him of this so he doesn't to back to his own ways. But he does need a 6 month window for a true result but he can test sooner for a general idea. Goodluck. If you go the the homeaccess website which is at home hiv tests there is an 800 number with some very caring and knowledgeable people to help him and yourself through this as well.
2007-02-22 12:47:39 · answer #4 · answered by whit g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need too tell your friend that he needs to relax because there is nothing that he can do about it now. He should take the Aids test again and it might not give him a bad result.
You said that it takes 6 months to find out a Aids test result and that is not true, when I took the test I found out within a month. If it takes that long he needs to go somewhere else that gives immediate results. Good Luck to your friend!!!!
2007-02-22 13:20:17 · answer #5 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to support your best Friend is to be honest and assure him of his safety by going to get tested.... If located in Houston area there is a clinic called Montrose Clinic and request for the swab test you are able to receive your results within 24 hr of testing..... Also I would like to clear up one of your misconceive thoughts that just because he slept with a guy man does after knowing him for a small amount of time does not mean that he is HIV positive... the fact that anyone sleeping with anyone without protection is at risk even if you have known that person for a lifetime .... however some think that getting testing assures them of being clear .... but that one test may not show up in first test ... that person would need to be tested again with in 90 days of first tested (making certain that the party is not having unprotected sex of any kind) so it is very important for everyone to be tested regularly and continue to practice safe sex..... also we have a information center that will support your Friend in his journey to a healthy lifestyle.........you may call our office @ 713-721-1336 your call is anonymous
2007-02-23 05:53:58 · answer #6 · answered by eleosorg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should console him by telling him that even if he got HIV, there is no gaurantee that it could turn into flow blow AIDS for a long time.
There are people who got AIDS in the 80's and are just now finding out. Even if you have the disease, you can still live a long, healthy, normal life.
You could get run over by a car tomorrow, there is just no gauranee, and no use getting strung up about it.
Tell him he should get tested. Tell him that he should always use a condom.
2007-02-25 04:17:40 · answer #7 · answered by Rachael T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not much you say is going to make him feel better. aids is a very scary disease. just let him know he has you there to talk to. also he shouldn't get to caught up about dying or its just going to worry him more. find out results first. he should get checked ever three months for a year and then once a year after. also that person he was with should do the same and let him know as soon as he gets his results. i know its hard to see your friend this way but give him time and just be there when he needs you
2007-02-25 21:02:44 · answer #8 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to remember the anxiety he is feeling now the next time he is tempted to engage in risky behavior. Tell him worrying will not help the situation and that you'll be there for him no matter what the outcome of the tests might be. Offer to go with him and sit in the waiting room for moral support.
2007-02-22 12:47:20 · answer #9 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop counting his chickens before they hatch. Meaning, he has no reason to worry until he knows something for sure. I'm not saying, tell him to just blow it off, but at the same time, theres nothing he can do. He's going to make himself sick with all of this worrying. He needs to go get tested ASAP so he can get the results quicker. Not to sound preachy here, but maybe next time he'll use a condom.
2007-02-22 12:46:48 · answer #10 · answered by D S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋