Do you live with a binge drinker?

Question

Do they really annoy you? Are you worried for their health? How do you cope?

Thank you ever so much everyone for your advice. If only there was a magic wand. If only .....

Answer 1

Not anymore. I was a binge drinker when I was depressed. Since I learned how to think and overcame the depression, I no longer have a craving or desire to drink. People seem to like me better now that I'm "normal".

Do you live with a drinker? Are they diabetic?

Answer 2

I dont live with a binge drinker, but I am in love with a binge drinker who is good in every way except his alcoholism. He has a huge family who all drink and its accepted and the way he is supposed to behave in a family of drunks.
I worry about his health constantly and think about it all the time. He was in the hospital with multi system organ failure in alcohol withdrawl for over a month in Rush Presbyterian hospital in Chicago. Nearly died.
He is kind, sweet, treats his friends and family well. He is just a drunk. I have to make a choice. Stay with him or leave and let him drink himself to death. No one really cares except for me. He has so much money his family doesnt want to upset him. I think they look foreward to the day he dies because they will be rich. True story.

Answer 3

I live with someone who does binge drink about once a week, and I can understand your worries about their health and well being.

I can also understand the other side of the coin, as I'm sober now after far too long drinking far too much.

Al Anon are there to support people who are affected by someone elses drinking, and if you are worried you can talk to them: http://www.al-anonuk.org.uk/

The only advice I can give is to distance yourself. If you socialise with them, leave when they get to a certian point in 'drunkeness'. Ignore them when they are drunk, don't get them water or feed them. Don't supervise them when they are being sick - just leave them to it. Hopefully they will realise the damage they are doing. But try not to let it affect you - just walk away.

Best wishes x

Answer 4

I lived with a binge drinker for 20 years. Eventually I could not take any more and we got divorced. I found there was nothing I could do to make them stop. My advise is to get out of the relationship if they are your spouse. If it is a sibling or parent then get on with your life and leave them to it. If they don't want to stop there is nothing you can do.

Answer 5

my father has been a binge drinker for as far back as i can remember..i am now 27yrs old..i am not worried for his health anymore because ive given up advising him and hoping he will listen..because i now know he wont..because driking is more important to him..his binge drinking has effected me and my siblings deeply and we owe our stability to our rock...that rock being our mother..you ask how do i cope..well i dont cope..i just provide a stable loving non binge drinking family life for my son..knowing that he wont grow up the same as i did with a binge drinking parent gives me great comfort and happiness

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Yep, my college roommate binge drinks four times a week. I don't know what to do for her,but it really disturbs me sometimes. I hope she doesn't become an alcoholic.

Answer 8

thankfully no I am not nor have been exposed to anyone thats drinks to excess. I feel for you if you are in this situation.

Answer 9

Yes. Yes. Yes. I've learned to live with it by ignoring him. I have to worry about myself and my kids.

Answer 10

I used to, but then I ran out of money.