Say you're seeing a woman and starting to have real feelings for her. Before the relationship becomes intimate, she lets you know she carries the Herpes virus. (no symptoms or outbreaks, ever.) I'm wondering how many men would bail at this point.
If *not*....at what point in the new relationship should this be revealed? I'm assuming that if you knew this from the start, you might not even blink at her again. After getting to know her, it might be a different story.
My question, really, is, :if real feelings are developing, would this information make you end the relationship?
2007-02-11 18:27:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
If you truly think you could spend the rest of your life with this woman then consider going on meds and "biting the bullet" Should have been revealed before any kind of fluid exchange.
I would sit down and really evaluate my feelings for this woman, and if you came to the conclusion that it doesn't seem like a forever relationship then brake it off and stay s.t.d. free.
2007-02-11 18:35:40 · answer #1 · answered by Jungleboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2015-09-25 09:29:51 · answer #2 · answered by Milly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely wouldn't be intimate with her. Unless your feelings have developed to the point where you want to marry her. I'd also ask how many men she's been with and if she knows how she became infected. Is she taking medication to help prevent outbreaks? Is she being treated by a doctor? If you do have intercourse make sure you DO use protection. I would also see a doctor and make sure I wasn't already infected. This is one reason a monogamous relationship is best.
2007-02-11 18:38:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes.... it would make me think about leaving but the herpes ain't the worst thing in the world and the fact that she was honest and open and cared enough to tell me before i slipped it in would mean a lot.. so that i had all the information at hand and could decide if i wanted to risk it or not now knowing that the odds are stacked against me... odds are i would just put a rubber sock on and slip it in anyway.... she seems like an alright women if she told me first.....
the worst time for her to tell me.... right after i slipped it in bareback....
the least scary way... would be over the phone beforee i ever slipped it in.... but just talking to me befor she let me slip it in would be fine... don't tell me during a football game or anything make sure i am probably listing when you bring it up....
2007-02-11 18:51:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can tel you that when it comes down to discloseing that information is mainly when the female is comfortable letting you know. Or unless you are going to do it. The women will have the guts to tell you when she is ready to. She thinks that just coming out on front that , "I have herpes." She think that you will not want to see her again. She has the same feelings that you are having that is why she told you. Just know someone that has this virus is not disgusting they just have a burden that they have had to deal with and live with. Just know that she know how to take the percautions to not give it to you. I hope you stick with her and you are both happy together. Good luck!
2007-02-11 22:11:09 · answer #5 · answered by fxysxysrkly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!! She is honest about it and the best thing you can do is to help her through it. She is trying to inform you that the relationship will be abit different.
Hence the best thing to to is tell her how you feel about her and let her give you suggestions. She might even suggest use of condons or even other safe ways that you dont know.
there's no need to disown such a frank lady BUT alot of appreciation instead and support.
2007-02-11 21:57:56 · answer #6 · answered by poorkidone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you wanted answers from men only but I just felt I had to speak up.
From a woman's voice:
It's just as easy to fall in love with a girl WITHOUT and std as it is to fall in love with a girl with one!
If you sleep with her and catch it (and it is VERY likely you will....meds don't cure it and they don't prevent the spread of it..they just cut down the outbreaks of the person who has it..those ads on TV are misleading) then you break up, do you want that lovely reminder of her for the REST OF YOUR LIFE?
If you know she has one ahead of time....run away.
If you find out later but it's early in the game....run away.
If you find out late in the relationship, which means she hid it from you....run away...she's a liar as well.
get the hint....
2007-02-12 11:05:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would end it, because I do not want to live life with an STD.
2007-02-11 18:29:23 · answer #8 · answered by FCabanski 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
nah man im not that old but dude std's are part of gods creation and they should be worshipped as so.
they are also of what makes a women beautiful well aged and you can tell wat kind of things she has been doing. =]
2007-02-11 18:31:21 · answer #9 · answered by wavthrsr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have a hard time dealing with it. If it was someone I cared enough about I might take the chance.
2007-02-12 05:26:07 · answer #10 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋