I never had unprotected sex before. We are thing of having unprotected sex, and she told me she can wear a ring. She told me she got tested recently and the she doesn't has either. How do I ask her in a nice way to show me her test results? I don't want her to get upset, I just want to have piece of mind. I have my results, I got them last week...
2007-02-11 16:12:44 · 15 answers · asked by The Life Enjoyer 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
Tell her that it isn't that you don't trust her but that really you don't trust her. LMAO Just tell her if she loves you, she'll give you that piece of mind and you want to do the same for her by showing her your test results...then have a field day.
2007-02-11 16:15:56 · answer #1 · answered by Jade D. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Condoms don't give full protection against Herpes because they don't cover all the skin that may be infected. When you are negotiating sex, and that's what it eventually comes down to, you BOTH need to keep the other person's health in mind- protect each other. That's the approach you should take: "IF we decide to have sex we need to talk about any sexual experience we have had and anything we might have "picked up" without meaning to." Now, let's look at a few things: Your friend is spreading a rumour. He is not a doctor and he doesn't have access to her medical exams. The rumour may be false. The rumour may be true. She may have nothing. She may have something besides Herpes. Some STDs show no signs or very little sign, and some disappear even if a serious infection still exists. When asked about their sexual history, people sometimes lie on purpose. Sometimes they lie not on purpose- some think anal or oral sex is not "real" sex and so STDs can't be transmitted; some can. All the above are facts. The following is my opinion. If you do not know this young woman well enough to discuss all this, and to be able to trust her, and she to trust you, it is likely too early for you to be having sex with her. Sometimes hormones are idiots.
2016-03-29 03:02:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her it's important that you see her results and she sees your results to give you both peace of mind. If she refuses, then there is a reason. You should NOT have unprotected sex until you're certain...because a few moments of fun can leave you with a death sentence later
2007-02-11 16:18:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to have a test both of you. Obviously she will tell you that she had the result just recently. Then say "really!? I got mine too just yesterday want to see it?" then ask her "can I see yours" (the result)? Where and when did you had your test? Mine took me sometime to get the result. (it nice and if you could deliver it with a joke) dont be too serious so she could not be offended by your question. Hope it works dude. Courage....thats all it takes! Goodluck!
2007-02-11 16:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by art_wur 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love you baby and I trust you, but is it possible for you to show me your tests results, you know it's my first time having unprotected sex and I need to make sure everything is going well.
If she gets self deffensive and refuses to show you the results then she might be lying.
Good luck
2007-02-11 16:17:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its simple just be honest with your girlfriend and tell her the truth that you want piece of mind and you would like to see her results. Another way to approach the situation is to show her your results and then ask her if she can show you hers.
2007-02-15 00:10:44 · answer #6 · answered by shorty 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously?
Be straight forward. Protect yourself, as well as her. If you have to, go together and get new tests done.
If you are not comfortable having this conversation with her maybe you guys should take it back a step.
Birth Control? Who is going to have that covered? Does she want to get pregnant? Is that a step you are willing to take at this point in your life?
Good Luck!
2007-02-11 16:20:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her! Tall her of your fears & show her your results. If she gets upset then I would have serious doubts about her true feelings for you. Why do you want to chance pregnancy?
2007-02-11 16:17:02 · answer #8 · answered by Da Bomb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
exactly how you just asked the question to me... be upfront and say it that way. If you would feel better about it then ask her... let me tell you that unless you are having kids though....wrap it up man cause you never know what can happen. Don't you two learn the hard way... and urinary tract infections really hurt...women get them more freguently than men and if a man gets one it can be hard to get rid of. Plus you donno how long you are going to be with this one.... maybe down the line ///// wait i'm lecturing you.... you know what's right for you....
2007-02-11 16:19:16 · answer #9 · answered by J P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just ask to see the lab sheets. I have traded views with people I saw before getting in an exclusive relationship.
2007-02-11 16:19:30 · answer #10 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋