I want my girlfriend to quit smoking. Do you know anyone who died of lung cancer? How did it affect you?

Answer 1

It depends on who it is but losing a loved one to lung cancer can be devastating. When you unite with a partner and have the expectations of growing old together, you want them to be with you as long as possible. This requires trying to maintain a healthier lifestyle for both of you. When one does not share the same idea of healthy living, chances are, they will depart much sooner than you.

You cannot make her stop smoking. What you can do is explain your future goals. Hopefully, she's a part of it in which you can then share with her how you love her and want her in your life as long as possible. Stress to her the importance of achieving that goal by maintaining a healthy lifestyle. The rest is up to her. If she fails to heed your advice, then you have two options. Accept her for who she is or leave.

Answer 2

Step one She has to want to quit,

She can join my group in a few years.

Spend 1 day a week waiting for 02 delivery
Can't go anywhere w/o oxygen and get stared at.
Can't fly anywhere it's about $700 more per leg to fly with oxygen
Can't have normal sex
Can't do a lot of work/exercises
Spend a couple $100 a month on Dr's and drugs
Maybe go through drug "side effect " hell
Afraid that someone will light up next to you while on oxygen


Might be like a friend has all removable body parts have been removed, on Dialysis every other day

This somewhere between stop smoking and lung cancer/death

Answer 3

You cannot make someone quit smoking if they do not really want to quit. Instead of trying to make your girlfriend quit why not just encourage her to quit and leave it at that. Yes I know someone who died of lung/brain cancer. My uncle had lung cancer that had spread to his brain. Any type of cancer is terrible to watch but unless she wants to quit there is not a lot you can do about it.

Answer 4

I hope for both of your sakes that you can convince your girlfriend to quit smoking. Not only can she die from lung cancer, but from numerous other conditions caused from smoking, including heart attack. My husband had numerous lung problems, but he did not have lung cancer. He died, at the age of 39 from a sudden heart attack. The patholigist said that the major contributing factor was his smoking.
My dad, on the other hand, did have lung cancer, but no one, including his doctors, was aware of it until the day he died. By then, it had spread through his body causing breakdown on his legs. He had ulcers on his legs that were an inch in diameter and a quarter of an inch deep. He ended up having to have one of his legs cut off causing him to have to spend the rest of his life (1 and 1/2 years) as a bedridden invalid. I took care of him at my house. The day he died he started throwing up blood. It wasn't until then that we found out he had lung cancer, by then he was in a coma, bleeding to death. There was no way they could stop the the bleeding and nothing they could do. The doctor said it was a blessing in disguise because even if he did pull through he would die a terrible, painful death within six months. The lung cancer had eaten completely through his rib cage and spread through out his body. It didn't seem like a blessing, though as I sat by his side for twelve hours and watched him bleed to death. As the last drop of blood left his body, his heart stopped, and he was pronounced dead.
Both deaths were devastating, I hope you have better luck, than I did in convincing your girlfriend to quit smoking.

Answer 5

I am a respiratory therapist, and I have seen hundreds of people die horrible, painful and miserable deaths from lung cancer. As a matter of fact, I witnessed my own father die of lung cancer 5 years ago. It is a terrible way to die, trust me.

The worst thing about being "outside looking in" is the helplessness you feel...your loved one is virtually suffocating from fluid in the lungs, destroyed airways, and inability to get oxygen in and carbon dioxide out. They can sometimes literally drown in their own secretions. And there is NOTHING you can do about it...maybe hold their hand...weep....pray that they die as quickly as possible.... That "helplessness" is the worst part about watching someone die of lung cancer, or emphysema for that matter. They suffer from lack of oxygen, and you can't really do anything to make them more comfortable.

Dying from lung cancer is a miserable miserable way to die. And it's pretty much fully PREVENTABLE.... IF you stay away from those stupid cigarettes! Do EVERYTHING you can to get her to quit. Smoking WILL, without exception, cause lung disease of some sort over time. It WILL debilitate you. It WILL make life miserable. PLUS, if she smokes around you...YOU are getting second hand smoke, and greatly hurthing yourself as well.

Encourage her however possible to stop. For both of you.

Answer 6

Yes . I'ts hard with any sickness not just lung cancer don't pressure her she will quit if that's what she wants to do and dont make yourself sick worrying cause stress is bad for u too, so lighten up.