My friends' mom told me and my gf to come over to her house last friday for a surprise party for her daughter. When we arrived, we were asked to unfold chairs, put plates on tables, and even move heavy furniture! Are guests expected to help set up for events or is it rude to ask favors from the people you invite to a party?
2007-02-03 19:30:36 · 19 answers · asked by Soundguy 2 in Food & Drink ➔ Entertaining
I think that what happened to you is a downside of being in the age group you are.It's an adult simply asking the 'younger generation' to muck in and lend a hand shifting a few bits and pieces.
And I don't feel you should resent this,especially if what was required was a somewhat too much for the hostess to do by herself.
Had she not asked you,would you have stood by and watched her do this by herself? I hope not.
No,generally guests are not asked to help set up but if I'm invited anywhere I will always offer to help clearing dishes from the table or whatever needs doing and so will guests when they come to us.Why not? We're all friends and a helping hand costs nothing.
I wouldn't think twice of asking for help from a guest if I was on the spot and I don't think the guest would be in my home to begin with if they were the
type to be churlish or resentful on being asked.
2007-02-03 22:32:47 · answer #1 · answered by bearbrain 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would find it very rude! At the end of the day, it doesn't matter what gift it is people bring, whether its a cheap bottle of wine of a bottle of expensive champagne, it's the principle of the thing and the thought that counts. Its just good etiquette here in the UK; I personally wouldn't dream of turning up at a party empty handed.
2016-05-24 02:07:29 · answer #2 · answered by Ann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll give her the benefit of the doubt and say she was running behind schedule. In the case of the heavy furniture it was likely that she couldn't do it by herself.
It was a faux pas, but without more information I wouldn't call it outright rude.
2007-02-03 19:39:40 · answer #3 · answered by LX V 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was brought up with a helpful attitude. Some people as they get older need a bit of help. If there is something going on, why not help? Don't want to go on and be rude.
2007-02-04 10:06:17 · answer #4 · answered by plaplant8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did they tell you what time the party was? If I get to a party early then I kind of expect to have to help set up.
2007-02-03 19:39:11 · answer #5 · answered by 2Negative 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if they were good friends of urs i dnt think u should have mind. did they ask you to clean up also. you could have left and come back later who would be rude then. sometimes its Ur culture. were we come from the fun is in the helping. if everyone had fun it was worth it
2007-02-04 09:23:41 · answer #6 · answered by jett 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dnt think its rude as lng as u know the girl who the party is 4, other wise its jst random 2 ask u 2 help. oh and the host has 2 help....ur nt her workers :)
2007-02-04 07:48:02 · answer #7 · answered by 1Tourniquet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not rude. You should always offer to help the hostess at any party.
2007-02-04 12:13:13 · answer #8 · answered by Shannon W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not rude, although it should have already been done, maybe she was just running a little bit late!!
2007-02-03 19:32:50 · answer #9 · answered by Lottalady 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i dont think so if u like or love the person i dont think it is its a surpise party anyone the complains really isnt a friend
2007-02-04 10:16:01 · answer #10 · answered by bigbreastedbitch1979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋