A question about HIV?

Question

I have been dating this guy for quite sometime now (5 months) and we decided to take it to the next level but I was shocked when he confessed that he had a passed gf that was HIV positive.

He told me that his past gf never told him about her condition because the girl wanted him for herself. He eventually broke up with the girl and he was depressed for almost a year, stayed in his room drinking and all because he thought he had contacted the HIV too. But his sister dragged him to the hospital and was surprised that his result was negative.

Now, my concern is this, is that really possible that my boyfriend hasn't really contacted the disease even tho he has sleep with her quite a few times? He also told me that he never slept with anyone after the incident like almost 2 years ago?

I appreciate your time reading this, but I love this guy and I admire his honesty to me, but is it really possible that he didn't contacted it? Or will it show up in the next few years?

Answer 1

Yes, it's entirely possible that he's HIV negative, even though he slept with her multiple times. Think about the physiology of males and females. He would have had to get her vaginal fluid or blood into his system. This can concievably happen during sex, as when a man ejacualtes he does pull a small amount of fluid back into his urethra, however it's not common. If it has been 2 years since he has been with her and he's still testing negative, than he's negative. Don't worry more about it. If you're still feeling unsure, just make sure you use condoms with him until you both get tested together (wait 3-6 months after the first time you have sex with him).

Answer 2

I work with in Pathology and I know a whole lot about people being HIV positive because I deal with it first hand, Firstly it can take a while for it to actually gain into your immune system so depending on when he had the blood test only time can tell, I have seen many cases when its been years after until further blood tests have confirmed they are HIV positive. I suggest you tell him how it is making you feel and ask him to have some more blood tests, And repeat again in 3 months time. It is in your best interest to do so. I hope you will confront him and I hope he has further testing. Did he wear protecting whilst being intimate with her through either vaginal or anal intercourse?

Answer 3

Although transmission either way is possible, female to male is much less likely than male to female. It is entirely possible for him to have escaped infection, especially if they consistently used protection. On the other hand, it may take time to seroconvert - several months at least but I don't think over a year. (Why this guy didn't get tested on his own initiative is puzzling.) Check with a doctor for better information, but if he hasn't tested positive by now there's a good chance he's clean.

Answer 4

If he's negative after 3 months, chances are, he's clean. If he's negative after 6 months, he's definatley clean. Everything after that is a freak seroconversion that almost never happens. Tell him to quit worrying over it and live his life.