In an initimate relationship I have had for 5 months, I mentioned my ex-wife had herpes. My ex was always careful with me and not only rarely had an outbreak but we either did not have sex or used a condom.
I have never had nor do I have any STD, but now my new girlfriend has gotten VERY upset about this. Saying I *COULD* have it and not know it.. I know I don't have it!!
Is this just her trying to get out of the relationship, or this is a real and rational concern??
I am confused now.. and kind of hurt, I don't even have herpes but feel like I did something wrong.
I told her I would get tested.
Help??
2007-01-29 08:06:39 · 15 answers · asked by DanjoHart 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
Well, the first thing I would do is schedule an appointment with your doctor that BOTH of you attend. That way she can ask her questions and get reassurances from a professional.
However, be aware that HSV (Herpes) can be transmitted even when symptoms are NOT present. You're lucky in that you PROBABLY don't have the disease; but like any virus, it can lay dormant for ages (like HPV...a dormancy of up to TEN years). You won't know you have the virus until you have an outbreak...if ever.
This is the best advice I can offer... sorry I couldn't help more.
2007-01-29 08:17:38 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-30 13:10:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting tested is the only way to know whether or not you have herpes. There are two well researched facts that should get you into the doc's office asap. 1. There is a large percentage of people who have herpes and either don't EVER show symptoms, or have such mild symptoms that they don't even think to get tested. 2. There is now evidence that viral shedding can occur without any symptoms (i.e. your ex could give you herpes even when she didn't have any sores). The only way to put this all to rest is to get tested. Make sure you get the blood test and that they test for type 1 and type 2. Good luck.
2007-01-29 08:20:19 · answer #3 · answered by J T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get tested.
A condom is not a certain protection against herpes. Many males get herpes infections on their scrotum, as the condom will not cover that area. Also, the virus is often "shed" for a good 24hrs before any noticable symptons, so you could have had intercourse while she was shedding the virus.
It is estimated that HSV-1 (usually known as "oral herpes" infects about 50% of adults, and HSV-2 (usually known as "genital herpes") infects up to 20% of adults.
It should also be noted that between 50-80% of HSV-2 infections happened from asymptomatic patients. In other words, the person who already had it wasn't showing any symptons at the time of infection.
If you want to set her mind at ease, ask your doctor to test you. If negative, keep the results handy, and never again mention your ex-wife's infection.
2007-01-29 08:16:44 · answer #4 · answered by Garylian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2015-09-25 05:08:38 · answer #5 · answered by Keeley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Medical intervention- get a test or have a doctor confirm this. Herpes is forever, so she's right to be concerned. A lot of people *say* they don't have a lot of things. I bet your girlfriend would be angry if she ended up with herpes thanks to you and the relationship didn't last.
2007-01-29 08:13:16 · answer #6 · answered by Sabine É 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...I can't say that I blame her. Herpes does not have a cure and can be very painful. However, I think you should both get blood tests for herpes. A blood test will tell you if you have ever been exposed to it but will not tell you if you ever will have an outbreak. Who knows, her test might come back positive for exposure.
2007-01-29 10:35:45 · answer #7 · answered by getting by 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Puh-leez! Are you for real?? There's no cure for herpes. Aren't you always aware of this? Of course she's upset! Do you not think this was something you've could have brought up before now? She may be behaving irrationally right now but can you honestly blame her? She's afraid she may have been exposed to it. Give her time to settle down and you get tested as you said you would. Don't delay it.
You need to apologize to her for not being forthcoming about this even though you weren't infected. When you show her the negative result, she can then apologize to you for overreacting.
2007-01-29 08:17:41 · answer #8 · answered by TweetyBird 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't blame her for being afraid to get something that can affect her for the rest of her life. GET TESTED! Then there will be no argument -- she will know for sure that you don't have it, and you won't have to work to convince her anymore.
2007-01-29 08:11:17 · answer #9 · answered by bibliophile31 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely get tested. That will calm her down, but i don't blame her for wanting to be 100% sure.
2007-01-29 12:52:40 · answer #10 · answered by Lady_Eagle410 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋