only family allowed to see friend as she has days to live. all family are distressed and we respect their wishes. how can i help my daughter come to terms with this - she can't see her to say goodbye
2007-01-22 02:05:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Respiratory Diseases
ask the family if they would pass on a letter to their sick child and get your daughter to put all her feelings down in writing.
This is something that later on the parents will treasure, plus your daughter will be able to cope knowing that her friend knew how she felt before she died.
If this is not possible get your daughter to write her feelings down and then tie the note to a balloon and go somewhere special like a park or the beach and release the balloon.Tell your daughter her words will be taken to heaven to her friend.
2007-01-22 02:12:33 · answer #1 · answered by jambutty 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
My best friend died from leukaemia 3 years ago. Contributing to the eulogy at the funeral was hard but made me feel like I said goodbye properly.
I think you should encourage your daughter to participate in a charity event to raise money for the charity associated with her friend's particular illness. She can even create her own page at:
www.justgiving.com
This will help her to channel her energies into something constructive and help with the healing process, I know it helped me immensely.
also, its possible that your daughter's friend has not been told she doesn't have long. I know they kept the worst from my friend as they did not want him to be scared during his last moments. If your daughter is going to write a letter, which is a good idea then you should check with the family.
2007-01-22 10:23:54 · answer #2 · answered by billy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its best that your daughter doesnt go and see her anyway, her friend is not going to look well and will have lots of machines and pipes working for her, Tell your daughter to write a letter and send it to the hospital or family, the poorly friend will know then that she is being thought of and your daughter wont have to go through the grief of seeing her good friend looking so ill. The hardest thing is letting someone so young go and trying to explain to someone so young why. Tell her to remember the good times and when her friend was happy, good memories are the best and no one should remember a loved one looking ill as this will be the last memory. x
2007-01-22 10:13:04 · answer #3 · answered by Michele 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this must be so hard for your daughter but at a time like this you must respect the families wishes.maybe your daughter could go to the funeral or even the chapel of rest depending on her age.she could even go to the graveside,talk to her friend and say goodbye in her own way.my thoughts are with you all.
2007-01-22 10:18:48 · answer #4 · answered by Nanny Bev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you and your daughter speak with her friends family members they might allow her to say good bye.
2007-01-22 10:22:13 · answer #5 · answered by hotchick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear this......CF hits close to home for me.
I think Janette has an excellent idea - have her write a letter and try to explain as best you can as to why she can't see her.
2007-01-22 23:35:12 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Care♥ mommy 2 my boys 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THATS A HARD ONE. I LOST MY BROTHER DUE TO LUKEMIA IT WAS THE HARDEST THING TO DO WAS TO SAY GOODBYE. AND TO SEE HIM AT HIS WORST WAS NOT A GOOD MEMORY. SO JUST TRY AND REMEMBER THE GOOD TIMES YOU HAD. AND REMEMBER GOD HAS A PLACE FOR HER AND HE WILL TAKE CARE OF EVERYTHING. JUST PRAY.
2007-01-22 10:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by Janet P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
promise she will go to funeral and to grave as often as she want s to say good bye.
2007-01-22 10:08:18 · answer #8 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋