i have falled in love with an HIV male wot is my risk?

Question

im a male who has fallen in love with an HIV male. im negative and would like to stay that way but we would like to have proper sex.

Answer 1

use condoms have safe sex if in doubt go seek medical advice but i was always led to believe that practicing safe sex meant you had very little increase in contracting any sexually transmitted disease, dont exchange fluids, be happy

Answer 2

That is great news that you have found love. It is a shame that there is no possible way for you and you partner to have unprotected sex, you are at tremendous risk if you do, his semen is infected, if he ejaculates inside you (sorry to have to say this) then you are at risk of being infected with hiv.

Hiv is spread through direct contact in the blood stream, so it is possible for you to contract it via unprotected sex. You say that you want to have proper sex, meaning you don't want to use condoms right? You are just going to have to wear them, though it seems more intimate without them, you would be putting yourself in danger....please wear a condom, when you are sleeping with him!! The skin around the anus is incredibly sensitive and can be broken or damaged easily, if his semen happens to enter broken then there is great possibility that you will be affected with hiv.

To make sex seem more intimate you and your partner could wear thinner condoms, there are a range of thin condoms that are safe to use, as they do not split easily.

Avoid unprotected oral sex with him, you may want to use flavoured condoms if you wish to have oral sex with him, flavoured condoms make it better for you, ordinary latex would not be pleasant. The reason why you should use condoms during oral sex is because hiv can be spread through oral sex, the risk is much lower than unprotected sex, but there is still some risk.

Take care, and all the best.

Answer 3

I am also a gay male and I have had HIV for 6 yrs now.I have a rule that I will not sleep with anyone who is negative because I'd be way to afraid of infecting them.But thats just my personal feelings.All as I can say is be very careful because getting HIV is not fun.It nearly ruined my life but I won't let it.You say you want to have proper sex.I hope you mean using a condom because that is proper sex.Remember condoms can break so it would probably be wise for your boyfriend to pull out before orgasm.Even with a condom.I do applaud you for giving him love.You are a special person.Alot of people won't give someone thats poz a chance.Good luck and please be careful.

Answer 4

first of all, i would like to say that there is always a risk, even with people that are not HIV positive. No one can really say that they are not positive until they have been tested. You should ALWAYS practice safe sex. I am married for 20 years to a man who we found out 7 years ago has AIDS, from a blood transfusion he had 12 years earlier. Most people don't just go get tested, unless they get sick or something. I am negative, and get tested every 6 months. I heard that they were trying to pass a law that makes getting tested a required part of a physical.

Answer 5

Find someone else. Many HIV infected people, probably even your boyfriend wish that they were hiv negative. He needs someone who is already infected. You have your whole life ahead of you and HIV should not be a part of it. You don't deserve this. There is website that people already std infected, can go to in order to find a mate that has the same disease(s).

Answer 6

PLEASE DON'T HAVE SEX WITH HIM! If the condom breaks, it will be your last. It's not worth it. I'm sure there are a lot of things that you two that can be done together WITHOUT exchanging bodily fluids which in turn will slowly end your life. I am sorry he has this ailment however, you do not. Be thankful for your good health and don't jeopordize it by risking your health for something as frivolous as sex. Grow up, and realize you only get one life. Is this something you really want to do? Play russian roulette if you must, but don't DARE get angry when you and him share one common bond. HIV/AIDS.

Answer 7

Is he on meds? He should be getting his viral load tested, and as long as those numbers stay low, you should be able to stay clean if you use safe sex practices. There's all kinds of websites for people in "mixed" relationships, look it up and read about other people's experiences.

There will always be the risk though, and only you can decide if it's worth it.

Answer 8

Get proper advice from Dr hospital or aids counsellor before doing anything, you must be aware of all the risks involved and any special precautions that you have to take

Answer 9

Use extra safe condoms & a good lubricant that is condom friendly. If you have anal sex with him, your the "giver" he is the "reciever", you are less likely to contract the disease than if you do it the other way round.
You can also catch HIV through just giving/receiving a bl0w job - it's less likely but it's still possible.
You will always be at risk of catching it if you have any sexual contact with him.
If it were me, I wouldn't risk it.

Answer 10

The best you can do is use a condom to prevent you from contracting the virus.

It's up to you weather or not you want to do it without. Doing that is right up there with getting your BF's name tattoed on you, once it's there, it's there, and there's no undoing it if the relationship fails.

I wish you well.