how do you politley tell some one that your child is a girl?

Question

every time i go some where with my daugheter everyone is like he is so cute she always has on all pink most of the time both her ears are peirced and the only thing i can think of is that her car seat is a boy color help it is a girl one time some even said i bet your a good brother ro your little borther to my son help me

Answer 1

There is a lot to be said for social grace. Whenever someone made that mistake about my daughter I either let it slide (the people who matter knew she was a girl) or I politely said, "She's a girl, but thank you so much." It really wasn't a big issue to me if people knew her gender. I just enjoyed the interaction and the compliments. I never wanted to embarrass them or cause any awkwardness. After all, they were just trying to be friendly.

Answer 2

I am rearing my grand daughter and I have lost count of the times people have mistaken her for a boy. She has short hair and no earring. I dress her in pink and put bows in her hair. It has been my experience that it is men who make this mistake most. I usually just say something like, "Well, thank you. I think SHE is cute too." The person usually blushes and apologies.

You are worrying way to much about this. It will even out as her hair grows longer and she takes on the mannerisms of a girl. Be patient and kind to the offenders. It will settle.

Answer 3

Um... really whats the big deal. I mean I dont want to sound insensitive or any thing I am the father of three 2 girls and a boy and ppl have mistakenly identified them on one or more occassions, but at least you know. I mean most ppl are not purposely doing it. People just love babys and any reason to make a fuss over a baby usually just makes there day. Thats why God makes them so cute. Just politely correct them, say thank you and watch happiness in the making.

PS: only babies know true happiness

Answer 4

I'm telling you, no matter what I did, they always called my daughter a "boy". If they said "Oh, how old is HE?", I would reply, "She's...uh....2 1/2 years old". I wouldn't emphasize "SHE" exactly, but I'd draw it out like I was doing the math. If they said "Oh, He's so cute", I'd reply "Yeah, I think I'll keep her!" or "We kind of like her!". Again, no emphasis. 75% of the time, they would realize their mistake (you can see it in their eyes) and just move on - the other 25% would apologize or say something.

If I'm not sure and I just HAVE to comment, I'll say "Oh, how old is your little one"? And listen for either "He or SHE".

My daughter was called "HE" up until she was almost 7 years old. Seriously. It doesn't help that she looks like a twin to my 5 1/2 year old boy.

Don't fret - try to laugh it off.

Answer 5

I doubt it's the carseat. If people don't notice she's wearing pink, I doubt they would be observant enough to make the judgement based on the carseat. You don't say how old your daughter is, but if she's very young, it won't be long before it will become more obvious that she's a girl. Don't feel too bad. When my son was little, people knew he was a boy but I had several people say to me, "Too bad. He's too pretty to be a boy." People are just rude.

Answer 6

I wouldnt worry about it, many babies look the same right up until they are toddlers, unless they have long ringlet locks or bright pink clothes and hair stuff on. I have made this mistake myself a hundred times and have always felt embarressed and guilty as I know it would affect the mums. I am now 23 weeks and would nt like it done to my child.

i would put a wee gold chain on her with her name, or a bangle or something, something really girly!!! Then if they are still saying HE, just curtly say, she is a she, cant you tell????

ANYWAY, try not to worry about it too much!!! its not personal, its just people who dont have kids not understanding how hurtful it is, and its not as though the baby feels it so dont worry.

Answer 7

If your daughter has a name that's clearly a girl's name, put her in a t-shirt with her name emblazoned across the front when you take her out. If people say "he..." then pretend like they didn't say it and answer with "yes, she's just turned 6 months" or something like that to discretely point out their error.
I have the same problem with my son - he has a lovely crop of curly hair but it can make him look a bit girly at first glance and I've had many people say things about my "daughter".

Answer 8

I had this issue with my son. Dressed him in blue all the time, but he had so much hair everyone thought he was a girl. Sometimes I just let it go, sometimes I just said, "yes he is cute".
Eventually it stops.

Answer 9

Wow, I hope that never happens to me. When I see a newborn baby, to make sure I don't make that mistake, I CLEARLY look at what the baby is wearing. If you are dressing her all in pink and she even has earrings...that is plain ignorance on those people's parts. When they say that, just say, "Excuse me...SHE'S wearing pink" and laugh a little, but leave sarcasm in your voice....so they know you're irritated they just said your daughter is a boy, when in plain sight she is a girl.

Answer 10

That happens to my friend too! Her baby boy is sooooooooo pretty. He has big blue eyes w/ long curled eyelashes. She has actually told people "HE'S A BOY" and they argue w/ her! They say, "he's too pretty to be a boy." She has also been accused of using an eyelash curler on him which she would never do. People are just ignorant. Just say, "thanks, SHE is cute".