my fiance an i have been together for 4 yrs,an he has never before given me a reason to mistrust him.but recently he has started chatting on the internet,an he told me he tells the girls he chats with that he is single,otherwise he thinks they wont chat with him.is this a liable excuse,or do i have a good reason to be jealous?
2007-01-15 23:27:51 · 26 answers · asked by jessica h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
jealous maybe not but be very curious as to why he feels the need to pose as a single guy when in reality he is not. Internet chat brings about a lot of fantasy and some of it is harmless fun. If you are there along side him having a laugh then so be it but if this behavior is ongoing with you not around or able to access the chat going on then be wary. Internet relationships have destroyed many real life relationships as fantasy mingles with reality very poorly. Have a chat to your man re his Internet use age, dont chuck a tantrum just yet. Find out what he is really playing at
2007-01-15 23:42:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd have to ask WHY does he have to chat with females? Anything is possible. He could just be wanting to chat with NO other intentions. It is possible to meet someone who lives close enough for him to meet at some point in the future. Is he or was he trying to or was this his intentions no one can say for sure except him. BUT if there is a trust or mistrust issue you shouldn't get married at this point until you are comfortable. Good Luck.
2007-01-16 07:34:48 · answer #2 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him. I assure you wholeheartedly that this "man" will cause you nothing but trouble for the rest of your life.
What a waste of 4 years! I see this all the time on this board. I hope that you weren't having sex with him, but fat chance that isn't the case.
Technically HE IS IS SINGLE, so he's not lying! But still, this whole thing doesn't sound right to me. It sounds like you've been living with him and this whole thing just smells rotten to me.
What is a "fiance" any more? A fiance is supposed to be someone to whom you're ENGAGED TO BE MARRIED, not a live-in pig. Why have you been "together" for 4 long years - to test his honor? It appears that he's just flunked the test!
What a stupid bunch of answers here with some people saying to trust hiim. I'm laughing my head off at those replies!
2007-01-16 07:30:27 · answer #3 · answered by Joseph C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I mean in a way he has a point but you have to think about the reason they are talking. If he just wants to be friendly with them and the only reason he talks is for conversation then why doesn't he tell them he has a girlfriend. if he is trying to hook up or talk to them a certain way then of course he is gonna lie. there are girls who will still chat if you have a girlfriend as long as your honest. You only lie when it benefits you.
2007-01-16 07:32:16 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically, until you get married, he is single. But I would be jealous if I were in your shoes. IN FACT I was in your shoes and I was jealous. My boyfriend told everyone he was single.. and now he is. LOL good luck
Besides, why is it so important to him that he lies just to talk to other women when he has you? At least he told you that he talks to other women... if you found out on your own (like I did) then it'd different because it's like he has something to hide when he doesn't tell you about it.
2007-01-16 07:32:06 · answer #5 · answered by natalie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason for being jealous is that you feel insecure, which will then bring you lots of little problems... if you really hate him chatting online, then just let him know... or let him know you are not interested in knowing about it... after a while he'll give it up, as it is quite boring... unless he's one of those chatting freaks... anyhow.
2007-01-16 07:31:58 · answer #6 · answered by erotikos_stratiotis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says he is single when he is online. He is going to act single on line. The other girls are going to act towards him like he is single. This is bad. Maybe he likes 'the chase'. He must be looking for fulfillment on there that is not being filled elsewhere in his life?
2007-01-16 07:36:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to put a stop to this because be live me i know from first hand what starts out to be just chatting will end into Internet sex so men dint see anything wrong with it but you will end up getting hurt.He should be spending this time with you.i know i would not put up with that.So tell him please before you get married.
2007-01-16 07:34:09 · answer #8 · answered by janet k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this world you should not trust any one, because we are all humans, and we are here with some desires,, If you ever make him unhappy, he would surely do something that he likes and you do not like, and it will make some distance in between both of you.. and mistrust will happen then.
2007-01-16 07:32:49 · answer #9 · answered by friend 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jessica, of course you should trust him!
Why on earth would you question him?
He is your fiance and soon will be your husband.
Your jealousy and mistrust is probably upsetting him a lot.
You need to work hard to make this up to the poor guy.
Have a good think about what you are doing wrong to make him do this.
When he returns from work have his favourite meal waiting for him and have a good apology ready
2007-01-16 07:31:16 · answer #10 · answered by hard as nails 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋