i love cars and motorcycles is it wrong cause im a Girl?

Question

i grew up with 3 older brothers and my dad never had a mother figure yet im pretty feminen but my dad is always upset or disapointed cause im not married or even date im 21 and im not ugly or gay and im in to cars and motorcycles i play softball it keeps me fit i just dont like disapointing my dad but he wants me to be someone im not i wish i was i just dont know how to be what he wants me to be hes getting married and wants me to be in his wedding but he is giving me a list of rules and things i need to get done before the wedding like not curse or talk like a guy thats what he says i just dont know what to do i want him to be happy but i just hate it when he gives me this crap i dont even live with him i have my own place omg i dunno wat to do to make him happy !!any suggestions ??

well im pretty feminen plus i am a CRNP still in school but have a great job already im not that manly hehe i have my girly side he just worried that i might be into girls for some reason its my brothers fault cause they always joke about it i just dont want to rush into a relationship just to make him happy ill be ready when i am ready i guess

i know how to behaive i dont curss all the time just when around my brothers or friends my dad never liked it so i try not to do so in front or around him but my brothers just make it worse cause there such dumb asses hehe

Answer 1

its not wrong i own my own motorcycle and i also play hockey on a local team

DO NOT CHANGE YOUR SELF FOR ANYONE if your happy then tuff for him

sit down with him and tell him your not going to change but compromise and tell him you will be good during the wedding

i can dress up and play the part with a dress and heels when i need to and i curb myself for the right causes
i have to get dressed up sometimes for work and do the show and sometimes for special occasions i have to play the nice lady part just remember you are still you

Answer 2

Well, I think you're too old for her at this stage in life. Four years isn't much at a later stage in life, but you have to think of all that has happened to you between 13 and 17. I mean, it's a world of difference, and if her brother has problems with it I'm sure her parents would too. The second you hit 18 there'd be a world of problems that'd be better to avoid, assuming his sister does like you back. Maybe later in life, but it's better to just not think about. What the "preppy cheerleader" said to you was horribly inappropriate at the same time, probably trying to just prop her own self up on the pedestal that she's used to being on in most people's eyes if you ask me, so I wouldn't exactly run to her either--but all in all it's probably best to just lay low and stay single for the time being. If someone more your age catches your eye maybe make a move on her. Is it weird? Not really, you probably fell for her because you felt you could connect to her, which how can that be weird? Acting on it might be a different story, but things like this happen all the time. Don't undercut yourself.

Answer 3

You have something to talk about with the guys... cars and motorcycles. I assume guys don't mind when a girl listens intently or makes an intelligent comment when the topic is cars or motorcycles. You can be feminine AND be into those things. Heck, I drove a tractor trailer around the US for several years, watched Dad fix cars and other things BUT I still love to go to work in skirts and heels everyday.

Answer 4

First of all, stick to what makes you happy as far as your hobbies are concerned. As for the relationship with your father, you probably should sit down and talk to him regarding YOUR personal life. You are 21, and an adult. Tell him exactly what you have written, that you aren't ready to have relationships, but it doesn't mean that you'll never be married. Just be honest with him and he should respect you for it. If not, at least you'll give up something to consider in his relationship with you.

As far as his wedding, do as he requests. It's a special event for him so try to keep him happy. But you need to have that talk with him before the wedding. Then tell him you'll do as he wishes because of his happiness.

Answer 5

Everyone is born with something they are good at, and it's usually also something they are really interested in. I once knew a young beautiful (all the guys just loved her) girl who was into cars and bikes and boy could she do magic under the hood!! There is not a thing wrong with your talent. You should cultivate it. The fact that it is "unconventional" makes it unique! Enjoy. Your dad should be proud.

Answer 6

I definitely think your dad needs to realize who you are and what you're like. I personally don't agree with cussing so in my opinion you should stop. If you feel comfortable dressing and acting like you do then talk calmly to your dad and tell him that you wish he could be more tolerant of your choices.

If he wants you to be in his wedding then do your best to cooperate with his wishes (it is he and his soon to be wife's day, not yours). If you cooperate with him, he's more likely to cooperate with you.

May I please ask your cooperation in something? When you are typing a question in this forum please use punctuation and capitols. Yours was a good and valid question but it was very difficult to read. Many people say that not using punctuation is a faster way for them to type yet it takes twice as long for the reader to sort out. In essence what you are saying when you present a question like this is that your time is much more important then ours.

Answer 7

well u sound just like me,i looove big trucks,i drive a ute,an drive a tractor for a living.i have 4 bros!im a tomboy,but im also feminine,ive been engaged for 4 years an im trning 24 next month!i think maybe ur dad just wants u to have someone to look after u,an for u to b happy,just tell him ur not ready to settle down,an ur happy how ur living ur life!i also think u should have respect for ur dad at his wedding,just make sure u still let ur true self shine thro,just dnt curse and b polite,after all its just 1 day!good luck!!!

Answer 8

I think your looking at this all wrong. 1st. your dad is busy planning to make "HIS" Life a happy place by getting Married. For you to grow it is important that you are true to yourself, 21 is still to young to be getting married, esp. if your not ready. Forcing yourself to be what someone else wants you to be will only lead to unhappiness. Stop with the guilt trip. Ask your Dad who he's trying to be like, I'll bet he's his own man. Please, for your sake, "Be true to yourself, everything will fall into place in due time

Answer 9

Your dad needs to accept you for who you are. Period. Parents should always love their kids unconditionally no matter what. Maybe his parents were very unaccepting when he was growing up. You should telll him that this is who you are and you are not gonna change for anyone. Just try to not curse at his wedding though lol.

Answer 10

It's not wrong to be independent. Have a private talk with your dad; he needs to understand. Be happy with yourself and who you are. I think it rather shows the effects of having too many brothers - heh - and a wild and rebellious spirit. Don't be afraid to be your true self.