How can I control and reduce irrational temper outbursts provoked by small issues?

Answer 1

Think - is this irritation worth the increased blood pressure, the bad feeling for the rest of the day, the extra effort it requires the body to get angry, giving the other person the excuse they are looking for? By the time you've thought all that through, you'll be calmer. Remember, no-one can actually physically make you angry - it's your body, you are doing it to yourself.

Answer 2

What will control your temper? It's called maturity and 26 is a good time to develop some. The only control you will ever have is self-control. Lack of which causes most of the trouble we read about here in Yahoo. Practice makes perfect. The first step? own it, next time you lose your temper, catch yourself, apologize, and tell the person you are yelling at that you need a "retake", then say what you need to without yelling, cursing, or being rude. Practice makes perfect. It can be done. I've seen it. Good luck.

Answer 3

Its called anger management. You need to learn to understand that the only person you have any control over is you. Therefor you cannot expect anyone else to do anything at all that you want. This does not mean that they will not do what you want just that you have no right to expect it. If you have no expectations then you cannot be let down. Your anger ultimately comes from you frustartion that you are not in control of everything. The sooner you accept that you can never be in control of anything apart from your own thoughts the better. When people do or say bad/stupid things thats their right, even if you think they are 100% wrong.

Learn and understand the serenity prayer (well the first verse at least)

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Answer 4

There's nothing wrong with getting angry. How you express it is what it's all about.

Here's How:
1)If you're too angry to think rationally, remove yourself from the situation.
2)Give yourself a few quiet minutes alone to cool down. Think of something relaxing.
3)When you feel your body relax, take a few deep breaths.
4)Return to the original situation and try a different approach
5)If your new approach doesn't help you stay in control of your temper, repeat steps 1-4.

Tips:
Find something that relaxes you (music,resting, drawing, etc.) and do it regularly.
If you've got a problem with someone, don't hold it inside, let him/her know about it.

Answer 5

If you are a woman, it could be PMS.

If not, it may still be a chemical imbalance. You might have GAD, general anxiety disorder. A doctor can prescribe an antidepressant to help. Logic and self-control are great as is prayer. But if there is a chemical imbalance you may need some medical help. Also, try taking magnesium supplements.

Answer 6

I think you need to find that out through trial and error. Try things, if they dont work.. try other things. Try anger management or punchin a pillow. There is nothing wrong with a temper outburst.. it is simpy your way of dealing with things. There is nothing wrong ith punching a pillow or screaming into a pillow... you should be rewarded for finding a way of coping. Take Care :)

Answer 7

the small ones are easy to rage at and not the big ones.

Imagine the old Western movies with the wagons in a circle and th Indians rushing around firing arrows. If you look straight out all you see are thousands of Indians. ick one Indian and follow him around. shoot him and there is one Indian less. Try that philosphy on your problems - tackle one at a time - block out the others.

Answer 8

Controlling the breathing, going outside and relaxing, possibly trying to think of times of the day you are looking forward to and divert your energies to something constructive.

Sometimes smiling can actually difuse the situation.

Answer 9

Leave the scene and look at different things around you. Take a DEEP Breath.

Answer 10

Take regular exercises. It is a great stress/anger buster. When you've done a 10k run, your endorphins are running around your body like mad and you just LOVE everybody! Must keep it up regularly though!!!